Overly suspicious partner

@Sanitary (3969)
Singapore
August 16, 2010 7:56am CST
How do one deal with it when they are faced with a overly suspicious partner?? They tend to kick up a fuss over nothing or even something small, making it into a big thing.. Worse thing is, they prefer to trust others instead of what we say.. Even when we are telling the truth, they will see it as a lie.. But they will believe in everything when we are telling them a lie instead. When that happens, will the lier be held responsible for lying or we are being forced to lie? If lying can curb their suspicion on us, are we right in doing it all the time?
3 responses
@jaiho2009 (39073)
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
I can see my sister being pictured on this topic She's very suspicious to her husband that they always end up fighting and give us some headache too coz my sister will be calling me and her brothers telling us about her suspicion towards her husband (ugh,this comes every now and then) It could really be a big headache when you have a very suspicious partner. Sometimes we cannot blame our brother in law for shouting my sister due to her bad attitude. It is true that,even telling the truth,the suspicious partner will tend to believe in what he/she believes,and no one can change their mind. So,i guess we cannot blame those husbands or wives to lie sometimes due to that bad suspicion their partner has had. Happy mylotting and have a good day always
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
16 Aug 10
It's nice to see u sharing this private story regarding your sister. I guess when one is suspicious, there's nothing much we can do but to endure and be patient.
@jaiho2009 (39073)
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
Precisely,that's the best thing to do,ignore and have patience (as long as the great wall of China )
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
17 Aug 10
Good one here!!
@themdno (403)
• United States
21 Sep 10
In my experience, it seems like if someone is overly suspicious when they shouldn't be, then usually they are the ones doing something wrong. Now, the big thing to look at, is if they actually have reason to be suspicious. Sometimes a person can be faithful, but still be giving off the impression that they are not, even inadvertently. If that's the case you can't really blame someone for being suspicious. But, typically, when someone is doing nothing wrong, and being completely trustworthy, and the other person is constantly questioning them, it's because they are guilty of whatever they are questioning about. Usually, it's they are cheating, and paranoid, and they project their paranoia onto the faithful partner.
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
21 Sep 10
U mean using suspicion to cover up for their own mistakes or cheating ways? That might be true but i wont want that to happen to me. It's too great a pressure for me to take.
• Belarus
16 Aug 10
I think that lying is bad. I wouldn't lie. I don't know if there's a marriage, but if there isn't I think it's better the two people to break up. If they get married things might get worse.
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
16 Aug 10
When things get to such extend, I think letting go should be the best solution right? There's no point in staying in a unhealthy relationship..