Your Best Friend vs Your Partner

United States
August 16, 2010 1:13pm CST
What would do if your best friend and your partner don't get along? Would you try to make them like each other? Or keep them apart? Me? I would keep them soo far apart. You can't make a person like another. Either they do or they don't. Your thoughts.
13 responses
@dpk262006 (54713)
• Delhi, India
17 Aug 10
Hi Sarah! Good question! I agree with your views that if both do not get along well, it would be wiser to keep them separate without inviting ill wrath of either of the two.
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• United States
17 Aug 10
They don't Have to like each other, Just respect me and my choice to spend time with the other.
@dpk262006 (54713)
• Delhi, India
18 Aug 10
Yeah, that is fine, if it is feasible.
• United States
16 Aug 10
I know me and I would try to get them to see the good qualities in each other and let them try to get along at first. If I didn't succeed than I would have to keep them apart.
• United States
16 Aug 10
Then again, I am always trying to change the world for the better. I gotta say, I'm not very good at it but I keep trying. Not sure why...
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• United States
16 Aug 10
I assume because you are a good person and you want everything to work out ok.Keep trying.
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
16 Aug 10
Well that have happened to me before and i made it clear to them. I told my friend, if you want to ruin our friend ship because o my partner so be it, i wont tell you what to do. And i told my partner, if you want to ruin our relationship because of my friend that mean you werent worth, you have the choice to do what ever you want. I wont force you. Now i get on with my life and dont really care if they hate each other or not. They should learn to settle their problems on their own. IF i am going to spend little time with my friend or partner and anyone is invited i make sure tell them, so if one dont want to come i wont force them. Thats their choice.
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• United States
16 Aug 10
I have never had to do this. the closest thing to this is when I had two friends you liked me but not each other. I didn't Say what you said but I did act the same way.Come with or stay home, It is up to you. a good friend should see how happy you are with your partner and a good partner should see how having a best friend adds joy to your life.They don't Have to get along.Just respect the other's relationship with you.
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
16 Aug 10
That's well said. That is how it suppose to be. I hate when they behave in a manner so disgusting. IF you dont wanna get along, just make sure you respect it.
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
getting my best friend and my girlfriend to get along is next to impossible. my best friend from the "she" gender is my ex. :) seriously, i did experience this before, my girlfriend at that time really hated my best bud. and he shared no love for her too. they just got on each others nerve every time we hangout. i quit trying... and i also dumped my girlfriend because if she can't accept my friend who's been around since the day i started liking girls then it would mean that she can't accept who i really am... and there was this other chick too. (different story) ahhh... the good old days. :)
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• United States
16 Aug 10
Bros Before Ho's lol! I understand. He was there from the beginning. Hearing your story I am sooo glad my best friend Is my guy. I always felt closer to guys anyway! Less drama.
• Portugal
16 Aug 10
aww but jamuls did you notice that is already two gfs you lose bcs your best friend that was your ex? :( this is very sad you know. maybe you still like your ex after all if you chose her instead of your gfs.
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@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
17 Aug 10
I agree with you Sarah... We can't make someone like someone else... That is not within the human powers... So it is better to keep them apart and everyone remains happy... :) Happy Lotting!
• United States
17 Aug 10
How are you doing? Is your lady love your best friend?
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
I would do the same... but i will try to pick the things that are similar to them. My partner liked and loved me, my friend liked and loved the same me so perhaps they have something in common even very little. I will try to put together the things that are similar to them and make it the start of them liking each other. Then, simply avoid things that make them really different.
• United States
17 Aug 10
That's a great idea.
@Absinto (2397)
• Portugal
17 Aug 10
I think i would talk to both of them, they dont need to like each other but at least be nice to one another :)
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• United States
17 Aug 10
And if they can't be nice, just avoid each other.
• United States
16 Aug 10
This is hard for me to answer because I married my best friend. My husband amd I have been together seven years (three years married). I would never be friends with anyone who did not like my husband. You are right though that one cannot make another person like you.
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• United States
16 Aug 10
My guy is my best friend. I have liked a friend who didn't like my other friend.I handled it, but then again , I was 9! If I had a friend who didn't like my guy I would keep them separate. And the rule is neither can talk about the other.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
16 Aug 10
I tried that once along time ago. I was dating this one guy and I still had feeling for this other guy. I loved the guy I was with because he was my first love. The other guy was 18 years older and I loved him for another reason. Didin't know it until later that I loved him as a father figure! Anyway I wanted them to be friends and they did meet once,I was also there. Anyway both relationships dissolved. Haven't seen either on in years and don't care if I ever do!
• United States
16 Aug 10
I think if both can enjoy the relationship they share with you And respect the other's relationship with you then they don't Have to choose between them.And you don't have to spend time with both of them at the same time.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
17 Aug 10
I think it is better to keep them apart.... otherwise it may be difficult to control them......
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• Portugal
16 Aug 10
i would talk with both and explain to both that is important to me they get along bcs both are important to me^^ but sure if they still dont like each other i cant force them so i will first talk with them and if still they dont change their minds about each other i will just continue close to both bcs they have to respect me^^ anyway i wouldnt like if that happened to me^^
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
16 Aug 10
I would also be inclined to keep them apart....until a time when I could get them together with me in a place where we could all talk about it...If it didn't work then....well I would schedule different times with each of them.
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
17 Aug 10
If I don't want to lose either one of them, I will definitely keep them really far apart for sure! Because I can't do without any one of them in my life. Just imagine if I need someone to talk to yet it's not convenient to tell my partner, then I need my best friend. If I were to have argument with my best friend, naturally I need my partner to be there for me. Thus both of them are equally important to me even though they can't get along well with each other..