Our wedding day

@savypat (20248)
United States
August 16, 2010 2:27pm CST
Hubby and I have been married 52 years today. Guess what? it's hot and it was hot 52 years ago. We were married in Vegas and left the small church went right back to the hotel changed our cloths and spent the rest of the day in the swimming pool. Air conditioning was not what it is today and it was so hot we slept that night on the floor where it was cooler. We had a week-end honeymoon and Hubby was back at work on Monday while I returned to school. We had $300 a month to live on and $57 of that went for rent, $64 for car payment, 25 a week for food and household supplies. The rest we put in savings. I don't remember much about that first year, but 8 months after the marriage we had a beautiful baby girl and after that life went on. Here we are now greatgrandparents.
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@sujaysen (594)
• India
17 Aug 10
Nice to read about your weeding day. In this present day, we cannot think to live by such fewer amounts. But it felt me strange that you had your baby after 8 months of your marrige. Was it your premature baby or something wrong lol? Anyway, now you are a grandparents. You have also duty to the next kins. May God give you a happy and long life.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
21 Aug 10
I can tell you are from a different culture. By the time most girls graduate from high school very few are virgins. Many are with child before marriage, the lucky ones marry the rest become single moms or give up their babies. These days many abort their unwanted babies. This is so common now that there is very little shame connected with it. Not a good state of affairs.
@sujaysen (594)
• India
21 Aug 10
Yes, I have commented upon the view from my different culture. I cannot comment from your point of view as I have been brought up from my own culture. I am also a very free minded person and just asked you as "lol". I do not care who is from which culture and judge this. Anyway, thanks for your reply.
• United States
17 Aug 10
Wow, it's great that your husband and you have been married for so long. Most people these days aren't married that long. I don't know about marriage, so many people in my family have been divorced that it has turned me away from marriage. I am seriously afraid of marriage.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Well if you ever find someone you cannot picture your life without you may overcome your fear and take a chance. Remember all relationship mean opening yourself to happiness or failure,
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• United States
17 Aug 10
I have a boyfriend right now, but even he too has a fear of marriage because of his family's history with divorce. Both my mom and dad's sides of the family have been divorced, including my father, for my boyfriend, his mother and father are recently divorced and some of his uncles have been divorced. I told him that if we do, I want to wait a long time to be absolutely sure that is what we both want.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
16 Aug 10
my regards to you. You must be happy to have a perfect life. Happiness is a highly desirable to everyone. Hopefully your happiness forever.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Thank you, but no life is perfect and each person alone is responsible for their own happiness. Marriage is a contract and if there is lasting friendship the couple are lucky.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
Yes you are right, there is no perfect life. Which determine the direction of life is our own. Direction we want to be happy, or sad depending on the direction from us.
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• United Arab Emirates
17 Aug 10
Wow Congratulation. ...when the going gets tough the tough gets going....GOD bless you for the love you shared for 52 years. For me its just going to be 2 years in oct and we are finding it difficult to cary on. She wnts a change in life. Did u feel any such thing in the last 2 years.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
21 Aug 10
It's said that if you can get through 5 years it becomes easier for a bit. But I think each year causes it's own challenge. Marriage is a hard job on the part of both people. Good Luck
@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
17 Aug 10
Hi savypat, Happy Anniversary! One could actually live on $300 a month back then but don't try it today. I bet your grandchildren find it hard to believe that you actually saved money lol! When we are young we don't think about how fast time goes, and I guess that's the way it was meant to be. Now when we look back we often wonder what happened and where the years went. Blessings.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
21 Aug 10
Oh yes the good old days, that if I remember correctly were not that good.
@silvercoin (2102)
• Lithuania
17 Aug 10
Congrats!You went together through many things, I believe.I can't imagine myself celebrating even the fifth anniversary and here - more than 50 years.You should write a little book of advices how to make marriage work and what is necessary to keep two people together.There must be some basic rules.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
It takes the will of both not to fail. We are both stuborn and refuse to give up even at the worse of times. As a result we have a great friendship and can face life together.
@ellie333 (21029)
17 Aug 10
Congratulations, that is admirable, 52 years of marriage is certainly a long time. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
sometimes it seems very short. Thanks
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
17 Aug 10
Congratulations on 52 years of wedded bliss! My husband and I have been married only 14 years and our wedding day was darn hot too. I remember the church had no air conditioning and the service seemed to go on forever as everybody sweated. We had the reception in nice air conditioning at least. It is amazing when I look back to the day of our wedding and at all the hopes and dreams we had…Things didn’t always go as we planned and there have been hard times as well as joyous ones but here we are, parents…I still have to get my head around that one although it’s been over eight years…May you and your husband have many more happy years together!
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I don't believe in wedded bliss, that is not a state of existance that I have ever had. We are friends and still fight and make up, this is life and we still agree to face it together, it doesn't seem to get easier with age.
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• India
17 Aug 10
Heartiest congratulations both on this special day and for finding your soulmate for life. it always feels special to remember that particular day and the life together that followed! I’m sure the happiness and celebrations are twice over now, now that you are grandparents.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I don't think we are soulmates, we are great friends, happy to live together with love.
@dreamhome (558)
• India
17 Aug 10
First of all, my heartiest wedding anniversary wishes to you. married for 52 years? Amazing..I'm really taken away by the love and understanding you both have under this marriage.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Ours is a marriage of friends who love each other, I would not want a great love. That is just too much emotion for me. What we have has worked for both of us, but we do work at it.
@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
16 Aug 10
Cool - congratulations! Looks like out of 8 aunts and uncles, plus my parents, only 2 are going to make it to 50 years. Too many deaths and divorces...
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Not many in our families have lasted this long. Thanks
@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
16 Aug 10
Happy Anniversary Pat and many more happy years to you I bet it does not feel that long either and how much things have changed over all these years to Have a wonderful Day both of you Love and Hugs
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Thanks for your best wishes
@ehsanji (503)
• Pakistan
16 Aug 10
A relation based on love, care and respect results in something beautiful such as yours. I mean, it's been 52 years and you still have hots for your husband and you are calling it a good experience and you are so happy to share it with us. May God give you more happiness. For all those couples out there should learn a lesson from your marriage.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
One thing most don't seem to consider is that I gave my word when we made the marriage contract and when ever things got bad I would remind my self of for better or worse, words in that contract.
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
16 Aug 10
nice and congratulations! this fall (october - a much cooler month!) will my hubby's and mine 23rd wedding anniversary. it would seem that you and i are a rarity these days.
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I know that is true but most of our friends are also married a long time. I think the people you associate with have an influence.
• Belarus
16 Aug 10
Congratz! I guess you're really happy together!
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@savypat (20248)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Thank you