love at first sight?

Philippines
August 17, 2010 1:39am CST
I have nothing against people who thinks that love at first sight is really true. Our experiences are totally different from one another. I have reached my age and up to this time i have not been convinced of the idea that this is really true. However, it would not be fair to say also that just because you don't believe on the idea, it means you have not found real love and have not experienced it like what others have. I am just amazed how other people would sometimes say that they felt love at first sight with this person. Is it really love at all or admiration?
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@hotpink89 (134)
• United States
17 Aug 10
i think that what is usually described love at first sight is actually more likely to be intense infatuation. that's a high that lasts for a short while then dissipates fairly rapidly. i know speaking for me i went through so much experiences to really know if that's true love or not, yet were all put on this earth to end up with out soul mates. yet it is possible if your willing to open your heart and open up and take a risk. i hope i was being helpful.
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@nahNiku (17)
• Latvia
17 Aug 10
I think that love is something more than just one sight. And than how is it possible to fell love at the first time you see someone. Love needs time...
• China
17 Aug 10
Yeah,I can't agree with you any more.I fell in love with my girl friend after we knew each other 4years ago.I think the first sight maybe a feeling,you may feel good to be with him/her.However,you don't know each other well,the love needs understand between you two,you should go through something together,the life is not easy,so support each other and the love will be forever.
@bokal2703 (803)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
I believe that it is only an admiration that the one may feel at first sight. Love is a strong feeling that is yet to be develop over time. Before someone can say that he loves the person, he should know the person in a deeper perspective. It is nothing but attraction that the one has felt upon seeing another person for the first time. It is just like when we see a new gadget, we may like its color, its sleekness and its appearance when we see it at the display window. But before we can actually like that gadget, we have to read some reviews about it and to test it by ourselves before we can fully say that we want it. One may say that it was love at first sight...but it isn't really like that, it is just an admiration or likeness, which was developed to love over a period of time being together.
• Singapore
17 Aug 10
When I first saw hubby I said to my friends "That guy, we would have something special together", I didn't really know why I said that up until now. Was it love at first sight? I don't think so. Like you, hubby and I believe that love develops over time. Because that's how we started, we agreed to spent time together and see where it leads us. Nobody said I love you at the early stage of the relationship. We've been together for months when he said he loves me. And when he said for the very first time that he loves, it was out of nowhere in the middle of a busy road while we were walking that I was caught off guard and missed my step. Yes, I almost fell on my knees. I felt his sincerity when he said he loves me, even if the place wasn't so ideally romantic :) Sorry that was a mushy long read...
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
I experienced it before, it seems that you fall in love with the person the first time you saw him, you wanna be in his arms, and be his girlfriend. Yeah I think it is only a temporary feeling, and this kind of feeling is unreal. I think it's just a physical attraction. But if given the chance to come true it will begin as love. But if a person know you are in love in him so much maybe he will take advantage of you and not love you, just wanna fake it to get something and when he's done he will just dump you. I think people should be careful to really ask themselves if what they feel is real love or just an attraction or admiration for physical beauty. we all know that love is more than that.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
czanwell_30: Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the matter. I totally agree with you. I think when people get to mature, love is seen on a higher and more clear perspective. It does not talk and consider the feelings alone but the responsibility that comes along as well. It becomes more likely to be a decision rather than "IT" just being a feeling.
@taimin (5)
• China
18 Aug 10
love at first sight maybe true,it depends on the enviroment you meet the boy/girl,i mean that if you are sad the day you meet the perfect man you have being dreaming,i amfraid that you may have no interest to realize it .
@asiregar (866)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
18 Aug 10
love can only be felt he was not in the form of solid or liquid to be love at first sight can be felt if we open our hearts and our feelings toward someone who is considered special
@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
It happens to me with my first love. I would say it was love at first sight. It happens in my younger days . We were classmates, it was first day of school. First time I set my eyes on this person , I just felt as if I've known this person . I would say , we were young and impulsive . But, it's nice to remember those days..
@jamed28 (1910)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
well I do agree. Love is not made in a minute or two. Nor it is develop overnight. It may have several meanings and several way to make people feel one. But one thing is sure about love... love do cares.
@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Hi Phat_navy, I think love at first sight can and do happen, but not as much as some people believe it does. When we see someone for the first time that we are interested in getting to know better, I don't think that is love. Usually we are attracted to the exterior appearance of a person, with now clue as to what values the the person has. In order for love at first sight to be successful, it needs to be reciprocated by the the person of interest. If the attraction is not mutual,then love at first sight is a waste of time and heartache is sure to follow. Love at first, can definitely happen. I had a friend who married a guy who fell madly in love with her and she with him the minute he saw her. He said he knew that she was meant to be his wife. They had a wonderful life up until he got sick, years later, and passed away. They are my evidence that love at first sight does happen.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I have never really believed in love at first sight. I guess there can be exceptions. it probably could happen. Love needs time to develop and nurture and groww. i can't see love in an instant as being a true love.
• United States
17 Aug 10
Me too i expereince it before love at first sight. When you see that person there is a spark and then you cannot explain how you feel deep inside of yours.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
admiration, i guess. I think there must be something that you see in the person that can be associated with something pleasant in your memory, and that you come to love the sight of that person. There must be also something that draws you near to that person. all in all, everything that you see comprises the external stimulus which influences your physiological reaction and affects your emotion. Sometimes you say its like love. But who knows what really love is. It's just people who tend to give descriptions on how love is like. Love for me isn't about emotions at all. In conclusion, I do not believe in love at first sight.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
"love at first sight" i think, has a lot to do with one's thinking. If you think about it, you're really the one responsible when you're falling in love, not the other person.
@Chubsko (51)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Yes i believe so because i have my husband right now with me, whom i had a love at first sight. BUT it is still depends if both of you will seriously love one another and and that love will grow each day not just for a one night stand. The first time i saw my husband i knew he is the one. i prayed for him and here we are happily married and have 2 boys.