Peer pressures on Singles

Philippines
August 17, 2010 7:48pm CST
In my previous work, they considered women as blessed who are having a present relationship from the time they got accepted in the job, because according to them you might end up an old maid if you have started to work there without a boyfriend. This can somehow be true because I have many single friends who are working there until now. Sometimes they feel so hurt when they were teased because of their being single at their age. I told them to not mind those teasers around and don't get fooled by married guys who show their sympathy but in the end want to ride their feelings and play with them. Do you have friends who are still single? How should they react to pressures?
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@bird123 (10229)
• United States
21 Aug 10
A person should only marry for true love. If you marry just anyone because of peer pressures, remember, those people won't help clean up the mess when it all breaks apart.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
18 Aug 10
Hi dear, Nothing to be worried on being a single. When the time is up, everything will happen properly. In most cases, the people do not know how to tackle such people or how to handle such circumstances. If they could give a proper answer to such topics, they will automatically stop it of if they say anything next time, they will think 2 times before opening the mouth. What you can do is tell your unmarried friends that ‘handle’ such people and don’t go back. Be stubborn and face it boldly. For eg:,” sorry, if I need help, I will definitely ask you, thanks”, “it is ok, however I have my parents to decide, if I need any help from you, I will ask you”, etc. If you comment in such a way, they will realize and will not come forward. They have some false intention in their minds. So do not promote such instances and de-motivate by giving proper answers. Regards, Thank-s
18 Aug 10
i got three girlfriends who are right now remains single, i'm 25 and just got happily married, but they are older than me for 5 years. some who's ages are already beyond the calendar dates. hahaha.. one got stressed when her relationship is not working and the others remain happy to be single and to keep herself being available. one friend of mine asked me," how did you know that the person you have now is the right one?" simply i answered,"i cannot really tell that he is the right one but for now, this is what my heart feels and what my mind says, it does not matter if we will work this out perfectly at the end but the things very important that we give it a try and hopefully by God grace and guidance we are gonna be strong and will stay in each others arms for a lifetime." Point is, do not be afraid of love, and do not be scared of putting the risk. Love is a win or lose game and its up to us how to play with it.. we set standards of our own on what kind of person we are gonna be having commitment with. Its really up to us. Its really a choice to remain single or not. But most of all, whatever are we gonna be doing, lets make sure that we are happy and no regrets about it.[i][/i]
@chiyosan (29392)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Yes, i have friends who are still single. actually i am also single myself... but i have a boyfriend. my friends don't have boyfriends and well i sure am not pressuring any one of them i feel that they too are more concerned about building their careers and i support them - fully support their love for improvements for their career and i guess we all have our priorities right? its just respect i guess that people should not think it was rather some kind of a disease to be single when you are already in your mid 20's
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Yes I have friends here at work that are single, and I am included with them.I have so many responsibility with my family I am the only one earning temporarily, hopefully my sister get a nice job in the future. I already accepted my faith being a single and I am not looking forward of having someone to take care of me in the future. I forget about my personal life because of work, which is wrong. That is the life of my friends here too. One friend who is single at 36 and she believe in some foolishness of a male friends, whom one of our friends and now she is pregnant without the maniac. She regret it as when she looks at me, she believes we enjoyed our life compare to the problem she is facing now.She thought that she is getting old and she needs to rush things and have a family of her own that is why she done it with herself. I adviced her that since that is her decision she must have to be responsible facing it. Now she is on leave, alone and that maniac is nowhere to be found. I believe if I am destined to be with someone, no matter the age and the time or place differences it will happen. We do not know. What i know now is I am single and I have to fulfill my responsibility with my family and give them the happiness they want while I am still single. I was pressured a lot of times, I just avoid people who likes to make fun of me telling me I am getting old and i need someone to take care of me.I do not believe them, they are just fooling me, especially the guys.
• United States
18 Aug 10
Yes I do and it is a preference for them. They normally do not worry about what others think, or at least that is the perception they give.
@knicnax (2234)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I don't think singles should be pressured at all. There is a reason why they are still single. It might be work, or it might be that God has a different mission for them, which can't be accomplished if they settle down :)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Yeah i do. They were my classmates in higschools and college. Each time we attend our monthly reunions, we teased those who are still singles and joke on their status as if they wanted to adopt our husbands hehehe! But seriously talking, they are my friends, and I told them that they should not be pressured to people who tell them to get married soon or marry the first man who will court them tomorrow. Marriage is not that. It must be planned and of course true feelings should be involved or it's better not to marry at all.