When the serious disease comes, will you still hold hands with your lover?

China
August 18, 2010 12:59am CST
Have read a story about a pair of lovers: They are unmarried, the girl was critically ill, and she wanted to marry the boy at the end of her life, but the boy refused and then left, said at last, he has the right to pursue the happiness. Seen this, there are so many thoughts welling up in my mind, I don't know where to start. I pity both the girl and the boy, they are all unlucky, I don't want to comment on the boy, as he said, he has the right to choose the happiness, just because the criterion of happiness is different, the choice and the result are various. We can't criticize either of them, because we are not in their status, the suffering brought to them has beyond our imagination. But we can tell our own ideas.
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@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
18 Aug 10
Hi dear, As you said, it depends on person to person. But when we analyze the situation, the modern people don’t want to take any worldly things along with them. If I am the person, I will definitely go for her and until it go for a better result. It is a matter of life and beyond. A person who is ready to accept a deceased due to love is a great thing and it should be. But do we can expect a positive response from everyone? No. All want a free and less miserable life. But in this case, there are her parents and relatives, who will definitely take care of her. In many cases, it is difficult get in a happy ending. I just remembered a story. It is not just a story, it is really happened. The girl is still alive and living happily. The boy and girl were in deep love for a long period. They prepared to get married. Mean time, in a car accident, (both were there at the accident) and the girl’s one leg has to be remove as it got fractured. She was a well known dancer and a film actress, who acted in many films as heroin. She got several awards and very popular. After the incident, the guy left her, as she lost one of her leg. She was motivated herself and began to start dancing with artificial leg. Now she does stage programs and would dance nearly 1 hr. programs. She is a well know TV celebrity and her name is Sudha Chandran. So things are like that. Even though, we love someone and mean time if it doesn’t meet the desired requirements, we simply throw away. This is the overall nature of human beings.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
18 Aug 10
Hi thanks1961, I read the story you typed. This is really sad. There are many such cases out there in the world. Sometimes I even wonder if true love existed. We cannot expect a positive response from everybody. Especially when each person is an individual.
• India
18 Aug 10
Hi dear, Thank you for the timely response and comments. Regards, Thank-s
• China
19 Aug 10
Your story really amazed me. How strong will the girl has! And not everyone can be strong as her.
• China
19 Aug 10
I presume I will keep saty with my beloved even if he was infected a serious disease.Maybe he gave himself up as hopeless and treated me badly so as to make me leave him,but I will stick to my love and see him well enough.The reason why I do this is the strength of my love to him,he, as my beloved boy,I should cherish and protect him until he walk out of the difficulties. I will not comment the boy in your story,all in all, they did't get married,so they can not stay in the same boat when the storm comes(just my own opinion)
• China
20 Aug 10
All we can do is to presume. Because we don't have this experience (no one would want to experience this), so we are not qualified to make any assessment on the parties. After all, this is a disaster for everyone.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
19 Aug 10
Yes the girl could not force the guy to marry her if he does not feel that way about her. Love is supposed to be shared between two people and not forced because when it's forced then it is not love it is fake love or something like that. Still many people can accept that, but yeah I can't really critizise the boy or the girl, but this is just my opinion and I will stand by it.
• China
19 Aug 10
Thank for your opinion. Maybe the best version is like that: The girl will give uo what she should abandon, and the boy will cherish what he should appreciate.
@dream_ozn (1758)
• Singapore
18 Aug 10
Hi, it feels sad by just reading the story you shared. I believe that if the boy really love the girl, he would not do that. All I can say is that he does not love the girl enough to go through her sufferings with her. All of us can say that we will definitely not do such thing if we are in the same situation. However, it's easy to say but when it comes to really acting on it, it is different. Although I don't agree with what the guy did, perhaps he has his own reason? Sometimes, I wonder if there is really true, pure love in this world? I ever heard that some animals would even eat their own babies when they do not have enough food. Human beings are selfish by nature and it takes a great deal of strength to walk out of our selfishness and be selfless.
• China
19 Aug 10
It is really a miserable topic. The world has been beconing more and more materialistic. It is a really sorry phenomenon.
• India
18 Aug 10
Welcome to mylot Well true-love should not be confused with lust first, if love is true one must hold hands with lover under all circumstances, nothing can separate them, becoz it is not limited to the body, body can get diseased but never the soul.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
• China
19 Aug 10
Many similar stories have been in our life. Can we oppugn that the true love in real life is become less and less?
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I think its not love that the boy has for the girl. He is a coward i think. I wonder if this is a real situation but anyway, i hate the boy and he really is a boy. He is not a man! Anyway, if the girl will not have a chance to be with someone in this life, she will have a chance in the second life. Much better than the boy who left her.
• China
19 Aug 10
In generally, the boy's done can not be accepted morally for most people. But in fact,what a pity, there are many such boys/girls in this world.
• India
18 Aug 10
If the boy would had loved the girl from his true heart he would never say that. A lover cant do that! The love from the pure heart would always hold each other tightly. I would never do that to my gf though i am single !