Long distance relationship,does it really works?

Philippines
August 18, 2010 4:46am CST
I was wondering,my some people tend to have a long distance relationship. I think its quiet hard and complicated. I do believe that in a relationship,physical connection matters. I mean,seeing your partner at least four times a week is already quiet hard in a relationship. But still I can see people who are even searching for a partner in afar away place (country). I just can't see the point of getting or having a long distance relationship. What do you think? Do you think if they do,is it real? Or just a past time or just to earn a few bucks?
11 responses
@queery (83)
• Jamaica
18 Aug 10
Long distance relationships hardly ever work, especially when the next partner has moved to another country. People who search for a partner in another country are hopeless romantics,who do not want to make any commitment in a real relationship. For even though you believe in physical connection the distance for them is the best thing in the relationship
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@paopaolar (226)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
We'll I think that the principle behind it is that when you don't get to see or be with the person you love it tends to make the person more fond of the relationship since they don't get to see each other that much. Sometimes absence makes us learn the real value of a person to us. Maybe that makes the relationship somehow work out.
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Hi! Maybe this one will applies to those relationship that are already there before they (the couple) parted location/place. For I think,it'll make their relationship strong. And it'll help them value each other. I agree with you. Thanks for commenting.
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Hi frobscottled! I do agree with you, Being apart from your partner for a long time doesn't help the relationship goes well. Specially if you were already in a relationship before you parted. Sometimes,being apart from your partner makes you think of a lot of things.Missing your partner's company might make you think to look on for someone's attention. i mean,I just don't really think that a long distance relationship works out. Thanks for sharing!
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Well, long distance love affair is a 50/50 relationship. Why? because the success of a relationship is based on good communication, that's only possible if you see each other often if not it'll just break. But in order to survive a long distance relationship there's a need for a self-sacrifice, trust and a very positive attitude supported by great love for each other. Then it might or might not work. A really 50/50 thing.
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
HI! Well said there. That's what I've heard from my officemate before,who had met a guy from chatting then she tells that they are committed and in love with each other. Well,I just hope her that she'll be happy with the relationship that she has.
@lonmar71 (89)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
long distance relationship works for some people if the couple are mature enough and are committed to each other, love each other and are committed to make the relationship work. when people are apart their love grows stronger and makes you care for the person even more.
@thaMARKER (3094)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
long distance relationship is not for me. i've tried and it's really not working. my last relationship is a long distance relationship. we tried and tried to keep it going but we failed but good thing we're still friends.. i agree with that physical connection matters like a lot. i don't wanna keep on remembering how he look like. i don't wanna feel longing for him almost all the time. that would make me cry for sure..
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Relationships are all about trust - distance should never be a barrier. It may be a challenge but as long as there is love and commitment, one should find ways to keep the fire burning. One should never be complacent with the thought that your partner loves you. You should be imaginative and smart in letting that person feel the love you have for him/her. Hence, loving is a never-ending process.
• China
19 Aug 10
in my view ,i think most of the long distance relaionship will end up with breakup.. i think it is not the physical distance that hamper couple to increase their emotions. for example , A and B are long distance relationship ,A live in city A while B live in city B, when A was ill ,the other even knows ,normally except the calling for care ,nothing can do(except the extremely action ,flight to city A),if just in city A,another person C also feel good with A, so when in this condition ,C will get big chance to make relationship with A(of course ,thing will not be successful in one or time ) ,so this will lead to breakup between this couple it is simple and around me ,all the long distance relationship are ended up with breakup...so i am sure it almost does not work...
@sethli (1)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
I really wnat to believed that long distance relationship works,but upon my exprienced i think its imposible especially you came from diffrent nationality
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Of course ! ! ! if you have TRUST and LOVE with each other but if you don't? ? ? don't expect it will last or work ! ! ! why? ? ? there's a big possibility that anyone of you will get be tempted by someone ! ! ! :)
@mareeh (266)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I don't have any experience with this kind of relationship but I think it works. Well for my friend, it did. They even got married. They're still with the LDR thing now but they talk everyday and see each other like maybe once or twice a month. They are not that far though, living in the same country but like living in another state.
@unseenzy (171)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
If you really want to make it work, it will work. I had a 5year+ long distance relationship. We are not from a different country but we are from a different city. It was really hard because we were both studying that time so we could not see each other as easy as riding a plane because of our schedules. But I noticed that if you're far from each other, you learn to really value each other. You learn to value the importance of trust. We decided to part ways not because of the distance but for some personal reason. And now, I am currently in a 2 year relationship and its not long distance anymore. We get to see each other as often as we want, everyday if we really want to. If I'll compare the two relationship, I kinda prefer the long distance because the physical touch is very limited and it strongly depends on love and trust. The distance also serves as a test to the relationship and if it turned out to be successful, the feeling is more gratifying knowing that your love for each other survived the distance.