Things I don't understand

@hestylim (1210)
Indonesia
August 18, 2010 8:41am CST
I knew a man a year ago. He lives so far away from me. He is like in the other part of my world. We talk to each other almost everyday. We do camming, chatting till his time to sleep.. He told me that he loved me, that he wanted me to be with him. Well, I told him, we were impossible to be together since the space between us are much too far. Then he told me that we would never know what would happen. He finally told me that he wanted to meet me in person. That he wanted to visit me in my country. He told me the date. But then suddenly he told that his parents passed away. First, his father then two to three weeks after his father died, he told me his mom passed away too. But still he told me that he still would come. Right after the day he told me that he wanted to go to the travel agent, he disappeared, and never came up again up till now. When he told me that his parents passed away, I didn't know why, but my heart told me to check. Not to believe blindly. Although it really broke my principal that between two lovers, there is essential thing to keep and that is TRUST. I made another account of facebook, and found his. He told me that he had closed his facebook account and going to make a new one. I felt disappointed of course. Then I found out his father's facebook. I found out that his father is still alive. I saw his father still made comment on the day that actually he should have died (according to his son's story). All those let me know that he blocked me from his facebook. I don't know why he did that. I never know. Why he should lie to me.. Why he should disappear right on the day he told me that he would go to the travel agent. I mean to forget about him totally. To regard as if I never know him.. What will you do if you were me? Share with me..
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@gaboni (644)
• Israel
18 Aug 10
I think that it is the best for you to forget about him, the healthiest thing. He probably done this because he did not want to meet since the first place, I know it is hard to believe and how hurting it is, but you should move on! he is not worth your tears. Also be careful next time that you meet someone on net, never trust anyone from the net because people can act as someone that they are entirely not. I hope you will meet someone that will not lie to you and end your relationship in such cowardly manners. Happy mylotting!
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
He is stupid. He was the one who told me that he planned to come, he was the one that said that he couldn't wait until that time comes true. Stupid him.. Yes, the best thing I can do now is forget him totally. I will act as if I never know him. I know that someday I will meet my prince. ^^
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@gaboni (644)
• Israel
18 Aug 10
I am sure you will. My mom always told me that funny sentence, that every cooking pot has its top.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
Wow.. ^^ This is the first time I hear that sentence. But I really like it! ^^ Thanks for that!
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@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
I experienced this once before. Like you I did not believe in online relationship. He called me wife and told me that I will be his wife always. Of course I did not believe him, still it was kind of flattering to have someone so devoted that we talked everyday for more than two months. One day he just disappeared. Without notice. I sent him a very long email telling him that I knew he lied to me right from the start and listed all his lies. I also told him that I did not want to talk to him anymore. He found ways to make contact with me though, with new accounts (yes he created several) of different names. I just rejected him. It happened last year. A couple of weeks ago I was surprised to get an invitation email from him to join fanbox of youtube. The nerve of the man.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 10
Wew.. I emailed him last long email telling him that I know all his lies as well.. haha.. Don't tell me it is the same man! :P who knows.. right? That kind of man should be cut off from our lives!
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 10
Wow, it could be the same man. He definitely has the same pattern.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
18 Aug 10
I will just realize that he just had played with me. He just wanted to have fun with me. Now I have seen his real colors, so I will be more careful in future..Online relationships fail in most cases because people rarely talk truth online..
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
Yeah, I am the one who playing dumb. ==" I shouldn't believe in everything that he said. Fortunately, I have prepared my heart before.. So, it is not really hurting now. Just feeling stupid..
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@kristinad (185)
• United States
18 Aug 10
hello hestylim i am sorry that you had to go though that but you have to realize people on the computer you can't trust they are ether married or dating someone.
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
Yes, you are right. I was wrong. I was so stupid to think that he can be trust.. ==" Never be this stupid again..
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
it always happen on chat that you meet someone u think thyre nice then you fall inlove with him and suddenly he disappears.. it also happened to me. we chatted for a month then i fell for him and he started to lose interest in me. it hurts cant get enuf of him and i hated myself for thinking of him all the time.. iv felt many times like this so i guess just takes time to get over him. i know would forget him when i find someone new. but now so missin him' ;(
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
18 Aug 10
I never believed in internet love until I met him and now, I am totally disappointed with him. Hope you will get over the one that you miss soon. Hope you and me finally find someone that we can lean on.. ^^
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
yeah its not the end of the world... well find that somone eventually who is for real
@buimai (46)
• Vietnam
18 Aug 10
Just come back your real world. I guess you love him through online. That is not almost true. Don't think about him anymore, look around you and you will find out your Mr. Right. Good luck to you!
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 10
Yeah.. ^^ And guess what.. I am totally over him now. It's done. ^^
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
19 Aug 10
any relationship is all about trust, he has betrayed yours, do not waste one more minute on the person with no soul. he is not for you
• United States
18 Aug 10
I believe in trust, too. However, you must earn it. He did not earn your trust. You cannot trust a person you have never met. He could be murderer, he could want a green card. People use you. They lie to you. Why? There are all sorts of reasons. The important issue here is to not waste another minute on him. Block him. Ignore him. Get rid of him. Don't listen to him.
• Canada
18 Aug 10
That's terrible!! That's such a bad thing to lie about. And to be honest, he's really not worth it. It seems like he was kind of playing games with you.. It's really hard to tell, what he did is so strange.. If I were you I would probably tell him off, then cut him off from my life completely. I wouldn't want someone like that in my life because I could never trust them again. If they would lie about something that big.. Imagine how easy it would be for them to lie about other things.