Ex girlfriend

Vietnam
August 18, 2010 9:21am CST
My husband's ex girlfriend often calls my husband even at midnight. They have met each other regularly recently. She is my husband's first love. She is divorced now. We have 2 sons and live happily. But I'm afraid that she can ruin our family if she keeps up calling my husband. What should I do now?
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@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
30 Aug 10
Talk with your husband and let him know how you feel. I would not stand for him meeting up with her. He should have more respect for you than that.
@katland05 (136)
• Guam
30 Aug 10
That is so not good, ex girlfriend calling in the middle of the night. That is not a good woman at all, just because she is divorced doesn't give her the right to ruin anothers family home, she is what's called a home wrecker. Talk to your husband & ask him the reason why she would call in the middle of the night & he's answering her phone calls, why would he even be meeting up with her, exgirlfriend means in the past, should be left in the past... He should give you the respect your his wife not her. If he says he's helping her with her emotions or problems thats not his business anymore, & tell her when she calls again to go find another man, leave yours alone because he's a married man now.. Don't these people know what married is... Your husband should give you the respect because your the one that gave him his kids, your married, & your taking care of the family. I think u should ask him if he still loves u because if not it's time to leave, & if yes he still loves u, you both need to spend some time alone without the kids... Go out just the two of you, u need alone time... Good luck with your marriage, I hope it goes your way, your very strong & patient...
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Tell your husband to stop entertaining the his ex girlfriend. You are his family now, there is no more room for ex girlfriend. Tell your husband how you really feel. What ever their reason they should be over now. She will really ruin your marriage.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
19 Aug 10
the only thing you can do is love your husband more and more...... i think that is the only way to make him not thinking about her......... you have to make him think about you always...
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
You should tell your husband not to meet up with his ex. Its totally inappropriate. At first, he may be just thinking that its okay since they are friends but he is not suppose to do that. You can also tell that indecent ex-girlfriend of his that she should live you alone. I dont like the idea that they are meeting and then her calling him. I think they both know they should not do that anymore.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
talk to your husband, tell him that you don't like what he is doing. If he really loves you and your 2 sons, he will respect you by not communicating with her ex-girl friend. yes you are right, the ex-girl friend of your husband will really ruin your family. Do something what is right for your husband and your 2 sons, and don't forget to ask the guidance of our lord.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
19 Aug 10
Hello hoaddat83, Your husband is not doing a right thing, meeting up with her ex even after he has married. I always say we can't be friends with our ex again, well, at least not me. I know you don't forget your first love soon, but you can't have space for them if you love someone else now. He is giving her time and talking at midnight? What is the necessity for him to talk to her at that time? He is not following the right path, or he is doing it blindly. Anyways, he should know what he is doing and how it is going to effect your family. You need to talk to your husband about this and let him know, that he should not be doing this and it concerns you and the children. She has divorced now, and she is getting desperate! What was the reason they broke up first anyway? This is not a healthy thing. Talk with your husband about it, that lady is no good.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
the best thing to do is to ask your husband what's going on and get his reasons why? being a wife you have the right to ask for that matter and communication is very important in a couple and you should be observant also what's happening between them don't just be quite their...
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
What should you do is make time more to you husband so that her ex would not have the change to meet her be aware you might lose your married in the long run.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Talk to your husband. You deserve some respect. Tell him what you feel about the situation. It is okay to be friends with the ex girlfriend but there will always be limit for everything. Does he answer his ex girlfriend's calls? I think he shouldn't, because that will only make the ex girlfriend that somehow your husband is still interested with her.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
i smell trouble. Although there are a lot of reasons why she's calling your husband decency should prevent her from doing so. She has realize that they'd been a couple once. To think that she's calling at night. Nobody in their right mind would discuss business at midnight. What you can do is talk to your husband and tell him how you feel. On the other hand this would be a test for him if he will ruin his family in favor of the other girl.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
If I were you, I will stop them from communicating and seeing each other. Whatever they say, she is still his ex-gf and she still has a special part in your husband's heart. It is not proper for a married man or woman to still communicate with their ex. I don't see any reason for them to still see each other, if she is just a friend, then they can see in occasion. You should talk to your husband, make him remind that he is now have a family and he don't need to be friends with his ex. I will not tolerate my husband with what he is doing, this is not acceptable to me. And don't tell me that you trust your husband, girl he is still a guy, you might never know they are doing something wrong. That's only my advice, it's up to you if you will take it. Goodluck!
@deve_annrn (1857)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
if i were on your shoes.., i would feel bad too.. I am a very sensitive person and my husband's ex girlfriend trying to keep in touch with him all over again after being divorced.., is a threat.., I am a woman too and I am aware that men can easily changed their minds at certain situations.., the best thing that you can do is talk it out with your husband.., being honest to each other is important.., just confront him in a calm manner.., and let him hear how you feel about it.., and see how he would react..=) i hope.., your husband is wise enough not to allow that woman to ruin your happy family..best of luck to you =)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
just talk sincerely to your husband on what you feel about the situation. remember that men has its ego also which sometimes been down leads to thinks horribly and do some mistakes that in the end goes to regret on what he done. just a nice talk over a cup of coffee will solve it. Trust is still important in a relationship. If it still getting worse after you talk it's time for you to talk to the girl and say she must leave alone your husband.
@Absinto (2396)
• Portugal
19 Aug 10
You should talk to your husband and find out what is going on and how he feels about her. Only by having a conversation is how you will know. Also i think you shoould talk to her to and see what her intentions are and why she is always calling your husband.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
hi, try to talk to your husband.. it will be better to know directly from him than just your instinct. anyway an communication is the answer to your problem... by the way, i were the ex girlfriend i will not be bothering my ex unless i have some important matters to discuss with him... once you've spoken with you husband and everything is good you better talk to his Ex-girlfriend as well so that both of you can clear things up as well.. of course you inform you husband that you want to talk to her too. just talk to him... take care.. :)
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
I can very well relate to your situation. Not that my husband wants to entertain the woman from his past and not that I am thinking that my husband is having an affair with her behind my back, bu, this woman is simply annoying. She is obviously not paying due respect to you as a wife of his ex. And if she is a decent woman she'd let your husband have his time with you and of all time, why midnight? This is something you need to talk to with your husband. You must tell him that you resented the ex calling you at midnight. And that you also must tell him what you fear of. Just be sure to talk to him in a subtle manner and not in an offensive way. Be sure, too, that when you tell him what you feel, be objective and not subjective, no hint of any jealousy at all or else he will just dismiss it as nonsense. Goodluck to you, Hoadat...
• Jamaica
18 Aug 10
I don't think it's right for her to be calling him so late at nights. Let him know how you feel, he's still married even if she's not. He may think you're o.k. with it because you didn't say anything. you have to speak up and set a boundary before it's too late. Pretty soon she'll be inviting herself over and insinuating herself even deeper into your lives.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Hi, hoadat83. I hate to tell you. This chick would not be calling my house if I could help it. My telephone number will be changed. My husband knows better than to have his ex girlfriend calling my house. I would have a hard and long word with him about why she calls him at all. That is disrespectful! If your husband does not have any kids from her from his previous relationship with him, then she does not have any business calling him at all. If she calls it should be concerning an emergency about any children that they may have had together, nothing else! Why does she have your number anyway? I am assuming that your husband has gave her your telephone number. I would tell her to stop calling my house at this time of night, if it is not an emergency. If she continues to call out of the blue, my number would be changed.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
18 Aug 10
You have to talk with your husband about this, sweetie. There isn't anything wrong with being friends with her, BUT this is bull. If she don't have a life, you do. Get rid of her. As in now. TATA.