I think I am losing my interest to be friend with a person... any advise?
August 18, 2010 10:55am CST
I have a friend who has a character flaw. Me and my friends lost our big respect of him because of his inability to tell the truth. I too, who's very patient is also losing the same interest with him because of his inconsistencies. What advise can you give so I can remain good-natured towards him?
20 Aug 10
Be patient with your friend man. You never can tell what hes going through at the moment. I have seen people who murder themselves because they dont have any friends left. My advice dont write him off,still be his friend only that you should be more careful and smart in your dealings with him HappyMylotting.
21 Aug 10
You are very considerate of people. Yes, I will be easy on him. But maybe, I will also heed the advise of the others to keep a distance from him. That way, I will not get hurt or burned in the process. I will still be a friend, but not a very good one. Or maybe, it is more appropriate to say that I'll be his friend with some reservations. Thanks for the advise.
19 Aug 10
You can always be good natured to him even if you distance yourself. I think it is not bad that you want your friend well, but if he keeps on this attitude, and is always not being truthful i believe eventually you would totally lose trust of him. It is, i guess better for you to distance yourself from him for a while, let him realize that he needs to be true to himself and has to come to terms with his actions as this may cause him more people not wanting to be friends with him. The more you spend time together, the more possibilities that both of you could hurt each other - may it be through words of arguments, etc. When you stay away from him abit, it does not mean of course that you are no longer friends with him... i always think that we always are friends with people one way or another even if you do not talk often. It is about time he realizes that he's got some issues he needs to deal with now, and since it bothers you, you are staying away for a while.
21 Aug 10
That's a sensitive answer and really a good advise. Maybe, for the time being,I have to distance myself away so that he will not get into my nerves and I can still treat him as an acquaintance. Maybe he's telling lies to impress people and not have a bad mark on him. But maybe he's not so aware that what he's doing is the reverse. Instead of people liking him, it creates a difference that is unacceptable to the likes of me. Thanks for the advice.
18 Aug 10
If he is you truly treat him as your friend then you should accept every aspect that he has. There are different attitude and characteristics of person maybe it just so happens that it is one of his character and as a friend you must learn how to accept it and you are the only who can tell him what you've noticed about his attitude. Tell it to him early before some other people tell it to him because you guys are friends.
21 Aug 10
That's a little bit difficult. It is not easy telling a person that he's a liar. Maybe I can joke about it but I guess he will not take that seriously. I tried focusing on his other traits like his abilities to make quick decisions or being approachable. But I guess, I cannot really tolerate his tale-telling attitude. Maybe because I am a serious-type of person or I value honesty so much.
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18 Aug 10
You don't have to be engaged with a serious friend ship with him. He can be one of those people you just know. If I were you, I wouldn't get too intach and try keeping this person out my business. I mean it's cool to be friends but if the lying thing is that serious there's no point in being friends or atleast talk to him about the situation :T
21 Aug 10
Maybe what you are telling me is to make him just an acquaintance. That can be done. I can still treat him right because he can be a good network but as to trust issues, maybe I should not expect more from him. He may never change. Thanks for the comment Akatsuki4377.