Have you dated someone your family or friends didn't like for you?

United States
August 18, 2010 10:24pm CST
My mom was the one that at first pushed me towards him. Now and she tells me he looks too childish for me...he's 4 months older than me. When I would talk to my friend's about him and tell him the things he would do when I was around they thought it was sweet and that I should consider dating him. When they finally met him they looked at him with a weird expression and said "ohh"....lol Now I think I do kind of like him but nobody else does now
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12 responses
• Portugal
19 Aug 10
aww sorry for it^^ it happened to me before when i liked a guy by net and i said to my mum we would meet that i go to his country she didnt like it even more when i got angry with me and he called me a lot of bad names bcs thought i never wanted to meet him bcs my mum didnt let me meet him. first she said i can meet him but then she said i cant so when i said this he got angry and called me bad names and my mum even didnt like him more. anyway im not with him anymore bcs he was careless and i decided to break up. sorry that your parents and friends dont like him but if he is sweet to you why not?^^ just date him and if he acts bad then break up but if not continue^^ as long as he makes you happy^^
• United States
19 Aug 10
if he did that i think it was better that you broke up with him
@thaMARKER (3092)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
yes.. i guess.. my first boyfriend. my father is not talking to him ever. i cant rmember that he sat down with my then boyfriend and talk whatever. my mother is but i know they both don't like him not as who he is. i know that they know he's a good person but i was too young to get in to a relationship when i enter into that kind of relationship.
• United States
19 Aug 10
hopefully your parents change their mind about him = ]
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
19 Aug 10
no ,,,,,, no such incident.....
• United States
19 Aug 10
that's good because I'm sure you wouldn't have liked it
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
19 Aug 10
I don't believe there are too many people that have not been in this dating situation. Friends and family are not going to always have the same opinion of someone you are attracted to. When this happens, you have to try your best to let friends and family see what you see about the person you date.
• United States
19 Aug 10
hopefully I'm able to make them understand
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
if you think that he is the right man for you, just follow the beat of your heart. Accept what other people's comment regarding your bf, just don't mind them. As long as the two of you love and respect each other, that's the important thing in the relationship.
• United States
19 Aug 10
very true
@chiyosan (30198)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
i have dated this one guy and we went steady for a few years too. my mom does not like him because he does not seem industriouops because he graduated before me (2 years) but when i graduated he still has not found himself a work! he he he it was just weird that he was contented already at waiting for the money his family would send him... hmmm, i kind of ignored that because he always tells me he was still looking for a job but his course was really rare and no readily available jobs is there for him. He is nice though, my friends like him and hes him as a very good person...
• United States
19 Aug 10
on the bright side your friends do like him =] Although I think you would also like your mom to like him
@zalmazan (40)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
I did. I didnt really date him but I allowed him to court me and my Mom was really furious about it (I still can imagine her reaction that day). She personally doesnt like the guy's family and mind you he's 3 years younger than me.
• United States
19 Aug 10
wow...you didn't even date him and she didn't like him that much?
• United States
19 Aug 10
It is unfortunate that they feel this way, but remember , you are the one that has to like him, not them. Now, I cannot tell you that it is easy like this because from my experience it is not! When my family didnt like who I was dating, it had a great impact on me because my family were very close and important to me. It made it very uncomfortable to be with family and him at the same time, which eventually I ended up "splitting" my time between them. I look at i this way, if you just started dating him, then I wouldn't worry about it, this might not get serious. but if it does, maybe over time your family will accept the relationshi and see that you are happy. Besides, that should be the most important thing anyway, your happiness!
• United States
19 Aug 10
Well I'm still not sure how I feel about him....for now we are just friends but I think he would like to be more than friends. If that happens I hope my friends and family will change their minds about him because if something beyond friendship happens I would prefer them to like him.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
It depends jesenia, how old are you? If you are still underage I think mom's approval is a must. I mean you must really listen to your mom because she knows what is best for you. Sometimes when we are in love, we cannot see the flaws of others specially if we are underage. We are tend to be impulsive and sometimes it will lead us to a wrong direction. Then you will come to realize after all your regrets and self blame that how you wish that you listen to your mom. But if you are on the right age, you know what is best for you and whenever you will fail, you are old enough to handle the situation. If you like the guy, you can give him a chance to prove that he is worth to have you even if the whole world will disagree. And I think your mom wouldn't oppose you and your feelings for the guy because you are old enough as I was saying. And maybe it was only your mom's first expression and I believe that it will still change through time.
• United States
19 Aug 10
I'm 17 i'll be 18 in a few months....my mom doesn't think he's a bad guy. I think it's just that all her life she's liked guys that are older than her. That makes her think he looks too childish for me he's about to turn 18...how old could he possibly look lol =] I bet if I showed up with someone that was 21 she would kill me So she should be happy i'm considering dating someone my own age...right?
• United States
19 Aug 10
The only person who you are to carea bout is yourself. if they don't have any real reason to not like him they are wrong. You don't have to follow what they want you to do. be your own person. Take care..
• United States
19 Aug 10
That's what I was thinking when my mom was talking about him...it should be my choice and they should give him a chance
@deve_annrn (1857)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
oohh..that's sad.. it would be nice to date someone that your family and friends approve with.., you wouldn't like hearing negative feedback about your guy right? especially from them.., but it doesn't mean it should affect you.., if you really like someone.., then disregard what other people would say about him..what is important is.., you're happy with each other..=)
• United States
19 Aug 10
Yes it would be nice to date someone they liked =] Not at all I would hate to hear bad things about him That's so true
@chinoxads (255)
• United States
24 Aug 10
When i begin dating my wife, after couple of month dating, i present her to my mother, and she (my mother) told me that didn't like her, that night i have a little discussion with mother, and she accept what i do, because she knows that i'm big enough to take my own decisions.