DIVORCE: Do you agree with this?

Philippines
August 19, 2010 6:23am CST
Hi, I just want to gather some opinion about the idea of DIVORCE. Do you agree with this? Why? Thanks.
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9 responses
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
I have a 50/50 opinion about this. I agree with it in some point yet disagree with some points as well. Agree with divorce because what if there comes a point in the marriage where you just can't stand your partner anymore. I mean, other than physical abuse, there is that emotional abuse that a partner undergoes. Aside from that, would you continue a dying relationship for the sake of your marriage vows or your children? Disagree because as a Catholic, my family taught me family values such as keeping the family intact, close family ties and what not. I guess there is that sense of conforming with your marriage vows. Such as swearing in front of the Lord to marry and be with that person for the rest of your life. .and divorce breaks it up and so as your vows not only to your partner but to the Lord as well. So mine is 50/50. Can't decide between both and I so don't wanna be in that situation wherein I have to decide one.
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@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Hi friend! With regard to your side about emotional abuse? I think, if that happens in a marriage, the abused can always get out of the marriage. It is her choice to save her from the abuser. One does not need to be divorced to save one self. Divorce is just one of the ways to call the marriage no longer valid and allowing the parties to remarry. If the purpose is due to abuse, then get out. What I really want to imply is that Divorce is not the solution.
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Good point. If you have an abusive partner and if he constantly beats you up, then I guess divorce is a solution to that problem. You can also file a case against your partner. As for emotional abuse, some just can't handle it that's why even if Divorce is not the solution, they still continue it for personal reasons, which is like you said, an excuse of saving one's self. Therefore, one should really decide well before tying the knot with someone because it is morally, emotionally damaging to the children who have to undergo parents filing for divorce.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
19 Aug 10
Divorce is not the only way for the settlement of domestic issues. But if it will be hurting each other, divorce would be better.
20 Aug 10
Divorce is the most stupid thing that has happened to humanity. Can u imagin people getting married with rich men,havn children with him and then hiring asex worker to seduce and tape the husband so as to get a lot of money in the divorse process I mean a lot of people involved in this activity disgust me and i pity them Reason is they will grow old alone and die alone too.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 10
Yes, you are correct. Divorce is a folly. But sometimes divorce is the best decision. If you hurt each other, and make the depressed, the divorce will be the best way. All decisions must have a risk. So that is needed is not to hesitate in making decisions.
• China
24 Oct 10
Yes I agree I think the DIVORCE is depend on love. If you are thinking this problem,love has gone. It's good for you and your partner.But is harmful to your children.
@wadabski (764)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
I agree it will not be good for the children to see their mom and dad go their separate ways and have their own family. These children are usually fell abandoned and it will not be good for their development.
@manoj1502 (854)
• India
26 Oct 10
I don't agree as divorce is the solution for all the problems and it cannot be a solution . People should think several times before the marriage and our culture is only one marriage is allowed . People have to try to solve the problems instead of thinking about divorce.
@wadabski (764)
• Philippines
24 Oct 10
I agree because not all of us are loyal. There are a lot of couples out there who caught their husband or wife cheating, then after that you do not want to be married still to that person because of discuss. Si I am in favor of divorce.
@smartie0317 (1612)
• United States
24 Oct 10
I never agree with divorce. There's only two reasons for people to divorce. One, they were never supposed to be married. Two, they didn't work hard enough on their marriage. Marriage is not something to entered lightly. I think if more people thought about how they were marrying, before they married, and put time and effort into, the divorce rate would lowered. Then again, so would the number of people being married every year.
24 Oct 10
Its something that needs looking into very carefully before taking it seriously, but if its the best thing for those two people who are involved then it should be done. Theres always misunderstandings in relationships no matter how close they are to each other, but it can solve issues between people if they cannot get on nor live together again.
@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Are you referring to Divorce as to be implemented in the Philippines? For me, NO divorce law and I do not agree with it. At present, there is Legal separation, declaration of nullity of marriage and Annulment or otherwise known as Partial divorce here in the Philippines. Absolute Divorce implies marriage to be like an ordinary contract or a union. You can call the marriage quits in a cheaper price as compared to Annulment and the divorced couples can remarry anytime and can be divorced again and then remarry again. In other words, the essence of marriage and the vows of the couple becomes nonsense and insignificant when divorce law will be implemented. Whatever law we are applying now are actually sufficient. Hence, we do not need divorce law. If we consider that, we should consider the effects and consequences of such. I have cousins in the U.S., whose parents got divorced. The effect was in the children and not on the parents. Family values are very less now because of broken marriages. We have to take those as considerations.
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
20 Aug 10
Hi Skyrunner!. I haven't marriage yet but I hope will never have to divorce. I see few of my friend get divorce or few or my parents divorce. I feel so sorry for their children because they seem dealing with hard time. I believe as long as the couple try to solve the problem its better not to divorce. but if the woman abuse mentally or psychically its better to out that marriage before we got child. When there is child problem become more complicated.