If i only I could turn back time...

Philippines
August 19, 2010 10:39pm CST
In life.., there are certain things that we did.., decisions we had made that we regretted.. some of these ruined us and some of it made us bitter and changed our lives even.., and we couldn't help but wish that we could turn back time and correct those mistakes.., and changed our lives for the better.., I have a couple of things to undo if i am given the chance too.., i am an imperfect person.., and i wish i could turn back time and never told my mother what my father did... It could have lessen our family troubles.., =(
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• Philippines
20 Aug 10
How I wish I could turn back time and if given the chance I could have asked my mother about my real identity earlier and it could have given me the chance to know and meet my real father. Believe it or not, I was already turning 40yrs old when I found out that I was an illegitimate child and I never had the chance of knowing my real father because he already passed away. I don't even know how he looks like because my mother refuses to talk about him anymore, she didn't even talk to me personally about it, she just wrote me a letter. Why was I deprived of the right to know who I really am??? I feel so incomplete... :(
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
oh i feel bad for you.., being deprived with the right of knowing who was your biological father.., it's sad.., and long years have gone by now and it's already too late for you to meet him.. i know hot it feels.. i hope.., you can see at least a picture of him.., maybe it can help you feel a bit better..=)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Hi, thanks a lot! :) yes, even just a picture of him would really make me feel a lot better because even if I was not given the chance to meet him at least I know how he looks like. But the problem is I don't know how and where I'll be able to secure a picture of him and I also don't know where his relatives are now. I've tried searching the internet but it seems to be useless because I don't even know the names of his relatives. I can't talk to my mother because we're not that close and I'm sure she'll just get mad and will refuse to help me. Anyway, I'm not losing hope that someday my prayers will be answered. thanks again :) it really feels so good to have someone to share my thoughts with. :))
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Hi..You're welcome.., your situation is really a difficult one and if I was in your shoes.., I would definitely be frustrated and depressed too.., I'm happy to know that at least I was able to make you feel good in my own little way..=)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I think the same way sometimes. I have one mistake that is almost so bad that I dare not mention it. I will mention only because it may help someone else. I have a daughter who is 28 that I have not seen since she was five...because I didn't do the right thing. I often think if I could go back and do things differently, that things between her and I would be better...or that I wouldn't hurt so often over the present situation. But I also know that if I had really done the right thing, she would not be here; I also fear that some of the wonderful blessings her and I have both received over the past 20 plus years might not have come to fruition. Her and I are both Christians...someone shared with me; someone shared with her...neither of those might have taken place if I had done things different. There are things that are difficult to get over and make it hard to move forward...but that is what we must do. We cannot go back...perhaps you can apologize...either way, you need to forgive yourself first.
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
yes.., i agree with forgiving ourselves first.., and it's also true that if we turn back time and change what has already taken place.., good things which happened today will be a lot different.., so maybe that's the reason why we time traveling was not made possible by God.., we don't wanna change everybody's history for our own selfish reasons..=)
@mimeux (62)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Nothing can stop the time from passing by, so what you would do right now, not to frown on what you did on the past because that is already a past. What you are experiencing is because of what you did in the past. You did wrong, you pay for it. You did right, you will be rewarded for it. I guess that is the cycle of life that nobody could change. What's important is that you are not losing hope on everything and always think that there is always the sun after the rain stops. So spend your time on worthy things okay? Good day ahead!
• Nigeria
20 Aug 10
Well am new to this but am pretty good with words, i love to express myself just the way it pleases me,there so many times when i look back to the days that already passes by and i say to myself,if only i can have it back i will make the best out of it,but nothing changes no matter how sorry i feel about it,i just cant have it back so i say to myself will i sit feeling sorry,for the days have lost or will i just carry on and bring the memory back,and make the best out of the present by making peace with the past and moving on.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
The problem is, you cannot turn back time. But you can always look forward and move on and try not to waste the time and chance that is being given to you. There's no use sulking up on the past and wrong decisions that we made. We all have our own shares of regrets, but if we keep on thinking about it, we will just make our lives a cross that is heavy to carry..so instead of being sad and disappointed, we must use those failures as the driving force to do things better.
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
yah. i know., thanks..=)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I have struggled with the same idea of wishing I could turn back time. Since this isn't possible, I went in search of other things I could do to improve the way I feel about my past. I have reconnected with people I have hurt and have apologized (even 3 yrs after the fact). It worked sometimes and sometimes it didn't, but in the end I felt better for having done it. I've also decided that if you can't change the past, then why not learn from it. You have to find a way to accept what happened, fix what you can, plan for the future, and forgive yourself.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
We always have this moment of regressions in every decisions we've made. We always telling this phrases if we could turn back time. Well if I could go back to the time i was small maybe i am not like today what i am. prefer to choose to be rich and go to prestigious university got a good education that makes me richer at this time. I think i am in a different places as today's my friends are. But all of this are all "if's". And if come back at my time I think i am much better person now. Thanks for the if's we discussed. Have a nice day friend.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
20 Aug 10
Turning back time would be great. i would go back and redeem myself for every stupid little mistake i had ever made. We all have regrets. Some are bigger than others. So many friendships were made and lost over misunderstandings. The chance to begin again would be wonderful.
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I think every single perso has these wishes at some point in their lives. I know there are plenty things that I wish to change. But I cant and thats just that. My favorite quote is " it is what it is" Life is to short to spend it thinking on the wishes I would have's...... Now if your dad did something that was hurtful to you of someone else in your family then that is his shame not yours. Wrong is wrong no matter how you look at it and how others take it. So sweetie, keep your head high and live your life to its fullest every single day.