Your Friend's patrner is cheating!

United States
August 19, 2010 10:42pm CST
Would you tell them. If you saw your friend's boyfriend/girlfriend kissing another would you tell? Me? If he/she is perfectly happy I wouldn't bring it up. But if my friend is not happy or is trying to convince himself/herself to give it another try, I would shout it from the mountain top. How about you?
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10 responses
@bounce58 (17550)
• Canada
24 Aug 10
Normally I wouldn't, because I think it's none of my business. Even if the person involved is a friend of mine. But if I could see that he or she convincing himself/herself to stay on their relationship without any effort from the partner, I would take it upon myself to let him/her know. There is plenty of love to go around, but there is no sense in wasting it on someone not really worth it.
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• United States
24 Aug 10
So true. The fact that their partner is cheating means something is missing in the relationship, at least for their partner. this could be the push they need to get out and find happiness somewhere else.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
20 Aug 10
That is a really tough call. I had a friend whom I used to golf with all the time....well she was having an affair on her hubby. And I really like him....but I never said anything. I figured they would have to work it out....and my experience is that if you say something.....they kill the messenger if you know what I mean!
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• United States
21 Aug 10
That's why I said If he/she were happy, I wouldn't tell. They would see me as the bad guy.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
20 Aug 10
HI Sarah... I agree with you... As a good friend, it becomes one's duty to inform the friend who is being cheated with ... Because at one point of time, the truth is going to come out and then the friend is going to have to face it... So before the matters become worse, I would inform my friend about it...
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• United States
20 Aug 10
Agreed. Especially if she/he is tryig to hold onto something that is already gone. ps. How are you?
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
I would definitely tell you. I had the same experience when my friend didnt tell me about the thing that happened to me with my ex-boyfriend before. Anyway, I didnt like the idea that they didnt tell me cause i felt stupid.
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• United States
20 Aug 10
Oh! I never thought about that. Is it too late for me to change my mind? If I thought you Not kniowing would hurt more than knowing, I would tell you.
@bokal2703 (803)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
It would be hard to keep something like that. But I will not tell her directly if she's too happy about it. I will drop some hints to make her wonder about what's going on and then she'll investigate it herself. But if she will ask me about it, i will tell her. It is her right to know so she will be spared from further pain that will come from the lies that her bf is giving her....
• United States
20 Aug 10
So true. All bets are off if they come and ask me. No way am I going to lie to help their partner cheat. If they ask me, I will tell the whole truth and not but the truth.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Yes, no matter how hard it is to accept i will really tell my friend that her partner is cheating on her. I too would want my friend to tell me if ever my partner is cheating on me.. It's really not good keeping something to your friends especially when the friend is really very close to you. I will only tell her what i saw, and she has to confirm and talk to her partner so that i won't be the one to cause the break up.
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• United States
21 Aug 10
I agree with you as what if the shoe were on the other foot. I would hate my friend for not telling me.
@juggerogre (1659)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Yes I will definitely tell my friend. But I will get an evidence first by taking a photo or a video. I'm sure my friend will side with his/her girlfriend/boyfriend if I tell him/her without any evidence. But if my friend still won't believe me then he/she can do what he/she wants. At least I already did my role as a friend.
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@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
20 Aug 10
I would stay out of it no matter what the situation is. It is none of my business. I know other people would tell them but I wouldn't. It is just something I think we all should leave alone.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
20 Aug 10
I would tell them sweetie. I won't stand by and see how my friend get hurt. Life is just to short for things like this. TATA.
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@youless (86445)
• Guangzhou, China
20 Aug 10
I don't really know what to do because I haven't experienced this yet. I don't want to see them break up. But if my friend's partner is cheating, I think I will go to talk with him/her not to do the same thing again. He/she shall cherish my friend. The unfaithful relationship is so sick and it can really spoil the love. Even if he/she may not mean it when he/she is cheating, but it is still so wrong. I love China
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