Do you really want a man with money or not ?

August 21, 2010 7:32pm CST
Living in this generation now which always uses money in almost everything we do.I am prompted to ask here if money in a man is really essential for you? Does having money a prerequisite for you to settle to someone on a date and bring it straight into marriage? If not then, what other prerequisites in a man do you require?Care to share please.
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@unseenzy (171)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Practicality wise, of course it is important for your man to have money. If you have a choice between a man who got money and who don't have one, well the one with money will surely lead the race. But money isn't everything. The important thing for me is the qualities and personality of the person. It's good to have a man with money but I'd rather date someone who is less fortunate just as long as he is a responsible man. Being a responsible man and good breeding are few of my pre-requisites and not money.
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22 Aug 10
I like your idea here unseenzy.I would say you're also a believer in love of a responsible and good man with lesser monetary means.With his good qualities, you will surely have the potential of a happy relationship in a deeper sense.So sometimes,in life you have to choose which one is your priority.Will it be a relationship based on money or one that has mainly love as the foundation.The former is enticing knowing that we live in this material world.The latter one has more meaning knowing that it can give the happiness that none can buy even with money.
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@unseenzy (171)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Thank you.. And very well said! There are really things that can give us happiness that none can buy even with money! :)
@tkonlinevn (6280)
• Vietnam
22 Aug 10
Certainly that I want a man with money. A good man and his money is always better than a good man and no money. Are you agree? Why we must choose a man who no money while we can choose a man and money, huhm.
22 Aug 10
..right!still..h0w about chemistry..?the sparks..?
22 Aug 10
Yes, we all need money.In almost everything we need money to move on.Though there are times that we are prompted to choose between money and love.What will you choose then?Will you be willing to let go of a love with potentials in exchange for money?How about giving it a try on love first and see if things would work out and change for the better.In that way, you could keep the love and also work out and get the money you need.How about it?
• India
22 Aug 10
Somebody said, "In today's world nobody is here who don't want money" Every wants money,Whatever is the way... SO money is important... Sabhi ko money chahiye, Money kamane ka rasta koi bhi kyo n ho,,
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Hi Dragonangel, I have dated both very rich men as well as those that are not so well off financially. I have to say that it doesn't matter to me how much money a man earns or doesn't earn. I don't look for a man to take care of me financially in any way. It is up to me to take care of myself. By the same token, I have no desire to support any guy. As for marriage...don't see myself doing that one again and certainly not on a date. I am very independent and so It would be hard for me to be with a man who is not so independent...who depends on others to carry his weight financially or otherwise.
24 Aug 10
It's good to know that you can and willing to stand on your own.I know basically LOVE is the one that matters but in this world we're living in money always comes and could really shake the relationship a bit.But if one is really committed with love to the partner, then lesser money won't be a risk right.As a woman, it's also wonderful to think that a man is there watching over and providing for us.Not necessarily always though but at least the gesture is there.
@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Having money doesn't impress me. I wouldn't want to be with someone that was destitute and not self-sufficient, but wouldn't date someone just because they had money. All other things being equal, I'd probably want to be with the regular guy that works for a living.
24 Aug 10
Yes,fair enough.A good natured regular guy who works for a living and loving us dearly.What more can i ask for?
@maria1081 (1251)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Money is not everything. But practically speaking having money is a plus in a relationship may it be in dating or marriage. Personally, if I date someone he should have money or else how can he treat me? In marriage, how can we start a family if he dont have enough savings to move forward. Furthermore, the more important is love. If you love your partner then you will work harder to have money to keep on living.
24 Aug 10
Using LOVE as the inspiration to push a man into working harder and making himself stable to impress the woman loved.Isn't this admirable?
@BigTips (304)
• China
22 Aug 10
There is a trend that more and more people who tend to date with a man with much money. Money is a vital necessity of our daily life. Without it, we won't continue our life any longer. So, I have to say that it is a realistic thing for those girls to get married with people with money. Perhaps some people think that it is next to impossible for us to find the true love if we pay much attention to wealth. Yes, it may be a problem, but for those girls, if they get married with a poor boy, how they continue their life? What is their intention to get married?
24 Aug 10
And it is here where priority in life takes control.If you want money then go for it.If you want love then seek for it. In both ways sacrifice is present.Sacrificing for money and for love.
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
To be practical, of course I'd prefer a man with money. But if his in a financial situation/crisis yet I know that he is responsible and capable enough to look out for himself, then I'd still want him even if he doesn't have the money to show it now. At least there is still hope in the future. As for marriage, its a different picture. I'd definitely want a man with money. Even if he doesn't have a lot, at least there is still money rolling in the household. My simple prerequisites in a man is someone who loves me, who is responsible and God-fearing. That's just it. Best of luck
24 Aug 10
Your prerequisites in a man for marriage will surely gives you both the successful happy life.
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
I am practical.I would date a man with money.not just any man with money.I would date a kind,understanding,smart,passionate,dedicated,and driven guy with money.getting married and being a family requires money.
23 Aug 10
You have a point at that building a family indeed requires money. With the absence or lack of monetary means,families tend to shake which would up to be broken even when things get worse.So I understand if women date men with money.As long as he has a good attitude and as long as there is love involve then, it will surely be a happy and successful family.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Money is an important thing but not all men have money. No matter how much we wanted to have a man who has a lot of money, it still seem impossible cause those who have money are already taken. Anyway, I think its better to look for a man who has the ability and sense of responsibility to look for money.
24 Aug 10
That's right he should have the ability and sense of responsibility to procure money but not to procure another lady to whom he gives the money too(smiles).
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
I don't really care if the man is wealthy or not. The important thing is he need to have a stable job and that he is responsible.
23 Aug 10
Yes,it matters most if the man is stable in his career and you're stable also in his heart.That's going to be a perfect combination.Not necessarily very rich right, just enough or a little bit more of what you both need.
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
It is not about the money. What I am looking for a man is his attitude. You can earn money. You just need to work hard. If the man you want is jobless or do not have any money at all, so what? At least help him by inspiring him.
23 Aug 10
And by giving inspiration to someone you love then you even save a soul.Yes,I do agree with you that attitude should come first on the list.It should be a must if what you require is lasting happiness.
• Bulgaria
22 Aug 10
Of course the man daesn't have to have much money. There is more other things that they are important. But for creating a family, only the love is not enough. You must have enough money - you and your man (not only the man).
24 Aug 10
yes,, in marriage it has to be both taking the role and helping each other for the betterment and strength of the marriage.
@bulbub (119)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Today is practical. Who wants to have a guy don't have money or job? Unless your rich.Some girls i think wants to have descent family. Have their own house, live in nice place.
24 Aug 10
Yes every woman has a fantasy that the man will prepare everything in marriage namely the house and all the furniture in there,the car , the money, possible recreation from time to time and this requires big deal of money.These are all material needs though.If a man can't afford these, then at least if he has a real good attitude and can supply the best of love then it will suffice especially if the lady has got the money.But he has to show he is responsible too and get stable sooner.
@yakuyaku (35)
22 Aug 10
.i wont date guys who are jobLess in the age that they shouLd be working..i mean..if he d0nt have any earnings..h0w are we supposed to date..im n0t really materialistic..but get real..h0w do u expect a guy t0 act in your reLationship if couLdnt hoLd a decent job..?its a matter of being responsibLe - a trait that im l00king for a guy!it d0esnt matter if he's n0t a miLLionaire or s0mething..but he shouLd have a stabLe job!
22 Aug 10
Hello yakuyaku!You have your point in there. A man should be responsible enough so as to get a decent job in-order to be able to support a date which may end up to a serious relationship or even marriage at that.But you see who knows then if you date a jobless man and it turns out that you will be the one to be able to open it up to him on how nice it would be to br responsible and for love of you he would change into a better person that would befit you right?What do you think?
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
22 Aug 10
It is comforting to be with a man with money. You don't have to worry that he is with you for financial reasons. Personally, i would not be with a man just because he was wealthy. If i care for someone, it does not make a difference to me how much money they have.
• Bulgaria
22 Aug 10
Of course, the man doesn't have to have much money (to be rich). There are many things that are more important in one relationship. But for creating a family - only the love is not enough. You must have enough monel - both you and your man (not only the man).