do you assist your kid's assignments?

Philippines
August 21, 2010 9:01pm CST
the assignment i refer here is my kid's homework. i remember my mom didn't help me in my assignments before since i was already asleep when she went back home from work. so with my dad. so i was left to answer my assignments all by myself. i was very independent that time. now i can't do that with my kid. i need to assist him. i can't just stare at him working hard with his works. i just want him to finish fast his works so that he can still have time to play. that's also my way of giving time for him.
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15 responses
@carrine (2749)
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
wow i love the way you said that you really give time quality time for your kids. in my time also my mother dont have time to assist me anything on my school assignments, and if ill asked her and then she will asks questions to us then we cannot answer she'll be irate already, so better we will not bug her about our homeworks. right now since a mother already, not all the time that iam assisting on their assignments because i dont have enough time. sometimes i feel guilty but i dont have a choice, im not the superwoman who can do things at a time. whew life.
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
i think that alright but don't spoon-feed him too much. I also have kids and i assist them too, but only when they really can't make it. I don't give them time to play during school days, just studies and rest.
@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Sometimes. My kids always seem to know what to do and just do it so most of the time I don't have to help them. I think my younger one will need help then my two older ones do or did. But if they needed help I would help them. I always make sure they do their homework when they get home from school and I make sure I am available in case they need me. I want them to be able to have their free or playtime too, so I make sure to help them gather up their pencils or what ever else they need and that they have a nice snack.
@thaMARKER (3093)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
i don't have kids yet but i have little nephews and nieces who go to school and sometimes they text me to help them out. once my niece ask me to make a study about something and it's really taking my time since i was already working that time. but it's ok, at least she's doing something about school and they're asking if they want to know things.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
I'd say that yes, I do assist my kids with their assignments only if they ask me, too. I don't interupt them while they are in the process of working on it. They approach me when it seems difficult for them to get into the right idea. I'm letting my kids to learn on their own. But, once they said they are done, then that is my time to take charge. I do check their work to make sure they did it right. Why? Because this is the only way for me to know that they understood what they were taught in school or what they've read. If something is not right, I become their personal tutor until they get the right thing.:) Good evening, Flagella:)
@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Assignments is an important part of our child's education. We as parents send our kids to school and have the assumption that the teachers will do the teaching. However is not the case and should not be expected. A teacher may have 30 or more students in his/her class and may not have anyone to help them with all the demands of running a classroom. A teacher has many tasks to finish throughout the day and it is impossible to ensure every student all the help they need. So we as parents should establish a routine with our kids to manage their time and responsibilities as they grow into adults.
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Though I don't have a child yet... I would have to say that I will definitely help my child doing the assignments given to them but will never do the task for them just plain guidance and support. I will let my child try it first and when he/she can't do it, that is the only time that I will be there to help him/her out. I can't afford to see my child struggling and looking helpless specially when I am besides him/her. I do admire you on how you raise your child. May God bless a wonderful parent like you
@bloemart (222)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
I have to assist them, but I just explain the instruction and they have questions I just explain how to do it. Giving the direct answer for the assignment is a big No No. I would like that my children should learn from their own without depending on us as parents.
@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
When she could not do it by herself, yes, I help, but if it is something that she can do by herself, then I think it is okay to just let her do the work so she will learn to be independent.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
22 Aug 10
My parents really didn't help me with any homework difficulties. it was my late grandmother who was always there for me to share my homework burdens. I have always tried to make it a point to help my children with homework assignments. i know what it is like to shelter the load without a parent's help. I try to help my children in any way that i can.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Hello! Im a mother of one, and my daughter is only 6 years old, grade 1 student. I always help her with her assignments and lessons every night when i come home from work. Their lessons was fast pacing and i think she needs my assistance that's why i help her. I also wanted her to be independent but i think this is not the proper time yet to impose this to her. I only gave her a little by little work for her to do on her own so she could at least experience to do some of her stuffs alone. In due time, i will let her do her own stuffs but im just here to be of assistance to her all the time if in case she needs something she cannot do by herself. Have a lovely day!
@amrddy (215)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Hi flaella08 I helped my daughter with her assignments when she was in preschool until Grade 3. She is now a sophomore in high school and when she asks for help then I will. Children need to learn to stand on their own two feet without us always on their back. You can always help out from time to time but not all the time.
• India
22 Aug 10
Wow, you must be very intelligent to do all that school assignments all by yourself! I couldn’t do them all and my mom was always there to help me out. Now, I too help my son with all his assignments. Its our way of bonding together. As it is with my full time job, I cant spend too much time with him, I’m never there when he returns from school. So every evening right after office, we sit down for our evening studies and gossip and fun…sometimes I do feel very tired but nevertheless, I love the time we spend together.
@damned_dle (3944)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
I always assist my kid on his assignments. He is just 5 yo and his assignments requires assistance. Every parent should assist their kids if they are that young. But when he turns about 10 I think he wouldn't need assistance anymore. But if he needs it I will always be willing to help. It is also a form of bonding.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
22 Aug 10
My husband and I don't have children yet, we're not financially stable yet. Well in any case, this response will be about my childhood and what I think would be best for us and our future children. When I was growing up I got help from my grandfather on school assignments, atleast when I was in HS when I was younger I am not sure who helped me. When we have children I think we will help to a certain extent but won't push them to finish ot do their homework for them as that won't help them either way.