...how do you heal a broken heart?

@jhyan007 (467)
Philippines
August 21, 2010 10:01pm CST
...hmmm same old, same old..:) yeah i know..well you see, its a common situation i guess, we engage into love and sooner or later it doesn't work out, we were left with a broken heart....it hurts yet we have no choice but to let go and continue living....healing a broken heart is not easy right? no matter how many times we were given advices but putting them into action or process is not easy....but still, i wanna hear your way of healing a broken heart, base on your experience or someone else experience? enjoy your day guys!
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20 responses
25 Sep 10
well..if you want to fix your heart the first step is to take it seriously.it is not some tribal thing whether it is first love or long time relationship.a broken heart hurts.it causes emotional and mental pain but it can also cause physical pain and stress.don't try to stop the pain by ignoring it.you have to accept the real and whats true.
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@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi njariasD, you are correct, mending a broken heart needs time and determination, we don't have to forget about the pain nor ignore or stop it..we simply have to embrace it and accept that it happened....in that way, it's easier for us to move on and continue loving...thank you for your response
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@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
22 Aug 10
Hi jhyan007, I really do believe that only time will help you heal your broken heart. What you do in that time of healing is what's important to how fast and how well you heal. For instance, if you have a wound elsewhere on your body, it will take time and care for that wound to heal properly. However, if you don't take care of the wound leaving it unattended, it could very well get worse and could become life threatening. I say that is the same with a broken heart. It must be handle with great care and nurtured slowly back to health. Keeping the mind filled with positive thoughts and doing positive things, while healing, will only expedite the healing . But, only time,and good treatment will heal a broken heart.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi angelgirl16, i agree, only time can heal everything..we don't have to rush everything...let life do its thing and we simply go with the flow...accept, move on and love again...=)
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
sorry it's late but thank you for your response!!
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
It's easy to say move on but very hard to do.But the best way to heal all those pains and heartaches is acceptance.If you accept things that it was not meant to be,one day when you will wake up you will realized and found out that they are already gone.Happiness is a choice,so choice to be happy.Take care
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi elleb0418, i agree, it's easy to say but really hard to do, however it worth the try, the process might be hard but the result should be reasonable enough..thank you for your response! i will choice to be happy! =)
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
LOL..typo...choose*
@tammytwo (4304)
• United States
29 Sep 10
Healing after a broken romance is not easy, whether you decide to leave the relationship or if you decide to stay and try to repair the relationship after heart break. But the most important thing you can do is to take care of yourself. Regardless of how difficult it may be you must always remember you are important and there are people counting on you to keep yourself healthy. Seek counseling if needed to keep yourself healthy.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
1 Oct 10
Hi tammytwo, i agree...no matter how painful it is or how worst the situation is, we should never forget the fact that there are those people who is counting on us and of course,we should not forget to take care of our own self.....counseling is a good thing as well...thanks for your response...happy mylotting!
• India
23 Aug 10
yeah it is hard to heal an broken heart. but i ever had a broken heart before. if you are in like this situation never stay alone, that all i know....
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi ajithlalkk, im glad to hear that you haven't experience a broken heart...thanks for your response..
• Canada
23 Aug 10
i don't think broken heart can be healed anyway, but be careful never broke anyones heart.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi smartbrain69, thanks for your response, sorry its late but thank you...i agree, we should all be careful not to broke anyone's heart for it is the hardest thing to repair...
• Italy
22 Aug 10
I know the feeling..damn hurts so much,can't eat,can't sleep can't breath properly..in time will heal [long time tough] BUT THE SCAR WILL REMAIN, you will remember that gf forever,the best method to heal is to love again...with all your heart,don;t be affraid that u will suffer again..maybe will happen or maybe you will find the true love...'cuz loving is the best feeling ever in my oppinion
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi bluemagic, thanks for your response..i agree, it really hurts, it's as if, the world is going to end...well its tough but we need to move on and continue life..you are correct, loving comes side by side with pain, so if we are prepare to love, we should also be prepared to get hurt...thanks again
@ladym33 (11008)
• United States
22 Aug 10
I think it is OK to have a good cry if you need be and pout and stalk around for a couple of days. Eat a big bowl of ice cream, and then get over it. I guess it really depends on how long you are with the person. Obviously if you have been with some for 10 years it is going to take a lot longer to get over them then it would be to get over someone after 6 months. Before my husband my longest relationship was for two years. He broke up with me for someone else which really hurt, and like 5 days later he wanted me back. A big part of me was already begining to heal. I think it would be a lot different with my husband though as we have been together for 25 years and he is not only my lover but part of my family. I could not imagine how it would be if we were to break it off with me. It would not only be painful, but a change to my entire world.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi ladym33, sorry it's late but i want to thank you for taking your time in replying to this discussion...i agree, most of us have a good cry when we have a broken heart...the more connection and attachment we had with him/her, the longer it takes to heal and the harder it is to accept the fact that you can no longer be with him/her and what you had is already finished...thank you again for your response!
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
I am an old witch regarding how to heal a broken heart. LOL. If you can see the wounds in my heart, you will no longer see a space vacant for another wound there.:( But how do I manage to keep my head high above the water despite of the pains? I always make sure that my sanity is intact. This is the best way to deal with the pain with a sound mind because you are always open to the fact that you need healing and therefore will try absorb every single solution that comes your way. Never lose that dignity. Remember that you are special and you are worthy of anyone's love. But that bast*rd who broke your heart doesn't deserve you. Shout, cry, write all your pains. If you want you can throw things like plates, glasses and all just to get that burden off your chest. But after that go out with friends and do not think how sorry you are for yourself. Never let self pity gets into you. Love again. Though this maybe impossible but love again. Gt a pet, do gardening, acquire new hobby, rediscover yourself and enjoy your freedom. You never had this when you were still with him.:)
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi eurekafemme, LOL, sorry its late but thank you for your response...i agree with you, we need to have an open-mind and open-heart to accept the pain and of course determine enough to actually heal it not just with words but with actions...there are many ways to heal a broken heart and what you mention above are few of those..no easy way or best way to do it, it all depends upon each of how on how we deal with it..thank you for your response...
@youless (91515)
• Guangzhou, China
22 Aug 10
I am so sorry to hear that. I know how hard this feeling is. Actually there is not the best way to mend the broken heart. I had tried many in the past. Only leave it by time. Time will hurt your wounds in your heart. I hope you will feel better soon. I love China
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi youless, hehe sorry its late but thank you for your response...oh by the way, im not broken hearted right now.....i just opened this topic coz i wanna know how you guys handle this experience...i agree with you, there is no best or easy way to mend it..it takes time and determination to actually accept the pain...thank you!
@visijay32 (447)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Since the heart is already wounded, accept the fact that it is going to have a "scar". Let time be your friend, not your enemy. First step is do not try to forget because your past relationship will always be there with you. It will pop in from time to time, but note that its frequency will get lesser and also the pain along with it. Second is do learn forgive yourself by loving and respecting yourself first. Learn more about the world; if you have some interests you wanted to pursue then by all means pursue them. Get busy by being with other people. Do not lock your heart for new relationships. Third is to forgive the person who left you in your relationship. Do not point fingers as to whose fault it is because in one way or another both of you are to blame for your failed relationship, instead thank that person for the time you shared together and every experiences that you gave with one another.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi visijay32, thanks for your response, it's much appreciated..sorry its late but thank you again...i agree, "acceptance" is one way of healing a pain, we don't have to forget about the past or the pain, we simply have to embrace that it happened and that it is there to make as stronger and of course, forgiveness comes after acceptance....thank you..
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
mending a broken heart does not just happen overnight, it takes time, it takes a lot of sleepless night before you can totally say that you have move forward, but one thing that is so effective is to cry it out, accept your fate and dont just escape the pain - face it. You need it to be strong and you need that pain for you to become a strong person, just think that you need it for you to become a better woman.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi catycat1985, right, i agree, it does not take an hour or a day to heal a brokenheart, its not like a physical wound which pain subside after few minutes of treatment..i believe in the saying, "when hearts are broken and words are spoken is the hardest thing to repair"...thanks for your response....oh, is the 'woman' part referring to me? hehe, im a man by the way.....hehehe
@deve_annrn (1857)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
I know how it feels to have your heart broken..not just one time.., but i experienced it a couple of times.., because I am the type of person who never gives up.., But you know what..? No matter how much You love someone.., if he kept on rejecting your love for him.., There will come a time that you'll realize that your suddenly tired of loving him.., You'll think it's not possible.., But I tell you based on my experience.., There is nothing that time cannot heal.., Just wait and see my friend..=)
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi deve_annrn, i agree with you, time really can heal everything, or perhaps almost everything...=), loving someone means we are also prepared to face the painful side of love and that is failure...it's there, there is nothing more we can do but to accept it..sorry it's late but thank you for your response..much appreciated..
• Singapore
22 Aug 10
I know a lot of people who break up, often find it hard to continue on in life. Well, I would say, is it worth it? Because of that somebody who you loved, broke up with you, you can't continue on? It's difficult to continue with a relationship that's hard to 'maintain'. Meaning two people are different in character and faiths and even the interest is also different. Remember, you can't force a person to love you or force yourself to love or like the person. Nobody, even god cannot guarantee happiness in these types of love lives. Why should you be so obstinate as to hold on to the person as if there's only one kind of him/her on earth? I know you can't mend a broken heart, but time will eventually heal all wounds. Take a step forward, think of positive things, listen to music and don't think of that person. Do things that will occupy your time. Sooner or later, you'll find that you've already forgotten that person.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi judgeironFist, thanks for the response, sorry my reply is late but thank you again...i agree with you, most of us would say it's hard to continue in our life when we experience a pain so strong...but we have no other choice but to move on...starting a relationship is easy, but maintaining one is definitely the hardest part...
22 Aug 10
i never had a broken heart..though i felt pain but i dont consider myself as broken hearted..everytime i feel such thing, i just allow some drops of tears and later on i ask my self, is he worth it..grrr...save the drama..there's a lot more that the world could offer..
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi lostgirl201, sorry it's late but thank you for your response..you are such an optimistic person! you see things in your own perspective and i salute you to that...save the drama! yeah!
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Hi! It's not easy to heal o broken heart nor to move on from a failed relationship. What I could suggest base from my experience is that,go ahead with our life.Though sometimes the things that we do everyday may it be at home or in the office reminds us about our ex. It's really hurting seeing and doing the things that we usually do together. But eventually, as I kept on doing those things very much,until I got over with the memories doing the things that we used to do. And it helped me become stronger in handling the situation when I'm heart broken. From then on,when some of my friends are going through a broken heart,I share them the things that I used to do to mend up the pain. :)
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi prettyauds, thanks for your response, i agree, the pain we felt the experienced we had, both can contribute with how we see life, it can make as stronger...thanks again!
@amrddy (215)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Hi jhyan007 Life has to go on even if you were heartbroken. Reflect for a while and think of what happened why you got into that situation. If you feel that you have done everything in your power to make the relationship work and it was not enough, maybe the Lord has other plans for you. Learn from you experience so that next time you fall in love again you know what to do. good luck
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi amrddy, im sorry its late but thanks for your response, exactly, life has to go on no matter what, pain is always there, all we can do is to accept and embrace it...god has his own way of doing things, i agree! thank you again..
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
It is not easy to move on especially if you do really love that person so much. If there is no other way to fix the broken relationship, you have no other choice but to move on. How? It depends on your defense mechanism. In my case, I started to go out with friends, having fun, attending parties. When I am alone, I watch movies, eat more and more foods. If I'm on the depression stage, I used to get drunk and then sleep. Afterwards, I'll do my same routine. But above all, when I do feel so empty, I just go to church and pray. I pray until the pain subsides.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi mzbunnylove05, i agree..it's really not easy to move on specially when the attachment we had with that person is very strong....definitely, the best thing we can do is to move on rather than getting stuck in the middle of this pain...sorry it's late but thank you for your response..=)
• United States
22 Aug 10
I have had my heart broken a few times. My think is always the same space and distance gets me over it. I often change my phone number after breaking up with someone. I will not go to places i know they would be at either. I will not call that person or his friends to find out about him. I just let go and let god work the rest for me. it works everytime..
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi giftsandbagscom, sorry it's late but thank you so much for dropping by and for your advice..i have tried changing the phone number, but it doesn't work coz i still remember the previous number and get tempted to text or call..hahaha...but really, time heals broken heart, sure it do..=)
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
it is not easy to heal all the wounds when your heart is aching due to break up. well, they all say time heals all wounds and i think it is true. just be happy. stay with your friends and family. enjoy life! it will be easier everyday. :D
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
hi Akopoaysi, sorry it's late but thank you for your response..you are right, healing all wounds in our heart isn't easy at all...it takes time, but if all goes well, it worths the experienced..=)