is it easy to find a GREAT RELATIONSHIP in social networking sites?

Philippines
August 23, 2010 4:04pm CST
any relationship that is not based on friendship at first would really be difficult and not turn out to be the way you wanted if you just go on to a relationship just because you need to have one. Being in the need to have a relationship or to be in a relationship because you are already running out of time from your late age will not really prosper if you haven't been into being friends first for such a long time. Would you agree on to this? Please share your thoughts regarding this one. I will just reply to some of your responses with what I really mean if what I have posted here is really not that clear with the thing I want to convey.
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@qianyun6 (2069)
• China
24 Aug 10
Yes, I agree with you! Not only in social networking sites, but also all the relationship for relationship is not GREAT RELATIONSHIP! Maybe it will turn into a good relationship after a long period of mixing in, but at first, with out much understanding of each other, it can't be a great relationship.
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24 Aug 10
I agree that this is not a good way to start a relationship, however one of my bst friends is engaged from meeting on a social networking site and a relative is in a long-time relationship after meeting someone on a similar site.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Thank you for the nice response. You are correct, relationship without understanding will not really work out. As well as trust. It is really needed too.
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
I think it's not safe at all, because people in the net could fake their real traits and could lure you into believing that they have good intentions into courting you. But if you really would want to have relationships over someone you met online then try to get him meet you somewhere safe and not just some place. Arrange for a meet-up in a public place. There have been cases of people getting harassed by people they agreed to meet personally after meeting them online. Think of your safety first. Why don't you go for guys you meet everyday? in the community? at work? I think that's more safe for a lady to find some relationships with instead of the web...
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• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Yes I totally agree. You wouldn't really know the true personality of a person unless you were able to meet him and talk to him personally. Just like the saying, "Safety First". Thank you for this nice response and have a great day.
• United States
23 Aug 10
Well, with any relationship you form, be online or otherwise, you have to play it safe because you never know what you might be in for. I am very hesitant with anything that I do online because of the fact that you never know who is really behind the other screen. You have to be very careful with who you meet online. You don't know what kind of person they really are.
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
but i think it's a lot dangerous now than ever.
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• United States
24 Aug 10
Oh, there is no doubt that it is dangerous. Doing anything online can be dangerous.
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• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Thank you for the advice and concern, We will be the one who will suffer the consequences of the wrong decisions that we made so it is up to us to take care of ourselves and choose wisely for us not to have regrets in the end. Have a great day.
@ench815 (465)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
Not all good relationships start from being friends first. Also, not all relationships that started from friendship prosper. Although there are plus points for being friends first, there are no guarantees that your relationship will run smoothly. Every relation has to be worked on whether it be romantic, between children and parents, even between friends, etc. Great relationships are not based on the number of years you've known each other. Most people wouldn't show their real selves until you live with them and find out on your own. Just my thoughts.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Having a so-called great relationships have to be developed only by the two of you alone and not base it from the number of years you knew each other. It is upon the effort you put to your relationship to prosper. If you have known each other for quite some time then you will be able to establish trust to that person. If you know this person is dishonest and not faithful while you were still friends then why would you risk yourself to this person and you will not know it if you haven't been friends. Understanding. How will you understand a person on how he behaves like that if you haven't known him for a long time. You will already know that he is a mama's boy for example when you were still friends and then you will be able to adjust with the personality he has. So the sense of understanding is still there if you already known this person for such a long time. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
not really. some are just good old pretenders. that scheme to deceive a person. be careful.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Thank you for the concern. Anyway, we will suffer the consequences of the wrong decisions that we made in the end. So it is really up to the person if he or she will take care of himself/herself. Have a nice day.
@BigTips (305)
• China
23 Aug 10
According to what I know, it is next to impossible to find a great relationship in those social networking sites. Although I always regard the Internet as a necessary part of our real life, it doesn't mean that you can find real relationship in the Internet world. In fact, a great relationship is based on many factors and you can't get familiar with each other absolutely with the help of the Internet.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Hello there! thank you for the nice response. Let us not try to generalize things here. There are still some people who got happily married just by searching for these social networking sites. There are ways also that you can get familiar with a person using the internet using a web cam or sharing photos. You can also talk to the person using voice chat as well. You will just not be able to know how sincere the other person is whenever he/she says i love you to you. Thank you and have a great day.
• Philippines
23 Aug 10
Hi! I would jump into a relationship if I am running out of time. I'll just get to know her along the way. So I wouldn't agree with you on this one. You don't also have to be friends to start out a relationship. Anyway, it's not like you'll get married right away once you knew someone from the internet... :-)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Any marriage would have to base it from a relationship that you had both agreed on. If you are already in a relationship then it is really bad to look for another one whom you will have to get close with unless you break up with the current one. So, having a relationship will also be based in being friends at first. At this time being friends, you will now have the chance to know each other very well before you decide to have a relationship with her. If you do it right away and you clearly stated that you will do it if you are already running out of time then it will be a total waste of time then if you have found out that you are not really compatible or meant for each other being already in that relationship. Coz if things are not really that good between the two of you then you will then have to break up with her and look for another relationship again until you found one. You have clearly stated though that you are running out of time and you are just wasting it more. That is only my opinion but thanks for the response. Have a great day.
• Portugal
31 Aug 10
well i dont think is easy :) i liked a guy online and he really seemed to love me, he said he loved me and we shared so much but then he said he loves someone else and now is a mess :( actually so sad but some people when love someone online and then in their country find someone they usually choose this person :( so if we love someone that lives far we must be careful to dont get too hurt :( about me i got hurt and still am. love someone that lives far is complicated bcs both have to be completely committed and one goes see the other :) so you have to be able to do all you can to be near this person^^ and is very complicated.