Why do we cheat?

@mabey1 (337)
Romania
August 24, 2010 7:42am CST
Some sais that thi is incoded in our DNA, that we can't stay faithfull to the same persone our hole life. Eve scientist sais that nature wasn't disined on monogamic relationship but in poligamia. Although it sounds great in theory when you read that it' not your fault that you id what you did, it goes bejoned you but still if you are the one that had been cheated by your partner it hurt, verry much. i think that for the realtionship not to became to monoton, too borring you hav eto work hard, very hard. It's always easier to find someone new, to fill the thrill of the new love with someone als, bu tthat's just not how i tsupposed to work. Do you agree?
14 responses
• Quezon City, Philippines
24 Aug 10
i think the main reason for cheating is discontentment and not accepting our partners. happiness is all about contentment and true love means acceptance.. i believe that all kinds of relationship problems could be solved; but it's up to the partners if they are willing to compromise and work it out.. cheating is not the answer to relationship problems - it only makes things worse. good communication might just be the solution.. p.s: penguins are monogamous, we humans could do it too.
• India
24 Aug 10
You know something, i am clearly in a postion where i do not have answer toyour question, but still let me try answering to the best of my knowledge. Everyone needs attention and love and as soon as you do not get the required attention, they tend to look for it somewhere else, you might call cheating but as you can see even scientists can prove that its true bue obviously they use technical language to say the same thing. but that does not mean i approve or cheating on your partner, it is so hurtful and if we possible can we should talk to our loved ones and tell them our attention problems and solve the issues instead for loooking for love somewhere else.
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@mabey1 (337)
• Romania
24 Aug 10
I have to agree with you, you rarely see someone cheating in aworking, helathy realtionship. If you're not able to talk to your partner or left the realtionship to disentagret you get to a point where you just can't turn back. Some sais that is not just the cheaters falt that it happened, but the partners too who let thing to get this point.
@GemmaR (8526)
25 Aug 10
It's hard to explain why we cheat, but the same question could be asked of why do some people stay faithful? Doing things that people do while they're in a relationship are pleasurable, so why do we not just try to get pleasure from wherever we can? Because society tells us it's wrong, and we listen to that. I think people who cheat are often insecure in their "main" relationship, and often simply have very little will power to stay faithful to one person. Some people almost see it as a backup plan, just incase the person they love turns out not to love them back as much as they originally thought that they did.
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@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
Yes, I do agree, very much, Mabey.:) As I'd put an old saying that there are just so many fishes in the sea and those fishes are always there tempting us. So why get tempted? Why let your hands get burned? My husband has a very old alibi for this when he let himself get tempted. He was WEAK. He was looking for that someone, a woman whom he can express his maleness while I was gone. For me, I could also be weak like him but why I did not cheated on him? I was thinking of our future especially my kids' future. What would they become of them if I'll ruin this family because of my stupid weakness?Ruin their chance to be happy with having both parents together. I couldn't let that happened to them... Cheating will never do us any good no matter what's the reason behind it.Moreover, there is always a sad consequence that you have to face after. Worse, your children were the ones destined to pay for it the hard way....
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• India
25 Aug 10
To be honest i don't know the answer myself to this question. I wish i knew. But when i cheat someone i do it mostly for me all the time without stopping to think for the other person. I always do that. But when i have no choice but to cheat then i do that also. I think people cheat because they always want to try something new but which is actually thought or maybe wrong for some one else. If i had known better then i would have known also why do most people cheat anyways. Cheers!
• United States
25 Aug 10
I looking as cheating as the worse thing you can do in a relationship but theres always that natural temptation to want another. I have strong will power not to cheat because I understand it hurts the other person. For someone with no will power they make take up on the offer to cheat. There are others that enjoy cheating. Either way just be careful who you hook up with. To avoid being hurt.
@chayapathys (2113)
• India
25 Aug 10
Cheating the partner is ofcourse bad. but many times it is done for various reasons.Though cheating cannot be justied still it is going on from ancient times.We cannot always blame the one who has cheated but at times the other partner is also guilty.
• India
25 Aug 10
it is human nature that the thing it has he dosent care. he wants what he dosent have and to get it he some time dose cheat.
@Absinto (2394)
• Portugal
25 Aug 10
I guess people just cheat when they feel that their partners just dont give them what they want. Some just cheat because they cant help it, it is just another person to add to their list. I dont get the point of cheating, i mean we all look the same but with diferent sizes. And if you are going to cheat then why get into a relationship in the first place.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
In the first place cheating is not a caught in the moment thing if you are really into your significant other because for one reason you don't look for a way to hurt or deceive him/her.
@dopey123 (71)
• United States
24 Aug 10
Ive been cheated on before, but ive done it before as well. I think my main problem is that it gets bored. When I get bored I will practically do anything. Do not get me wrong i loved my girlfriend ,but the day and day monotany of the relationship becomes draining to the point where I can not stand it. If I just break for one day then I feel like I could go another year. I probably sound shallow , but I will not lie about it.
@jamed28 (1910)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
People is always looking for an easy way to earn. And cheating is one of the best solution for that.
@hotpink89 (134)
• United States
24 Aug 10
i cannot answer this either because i dont believe in cheating yet if your not happy with someone why cheat? when you can just let them go and go find someone eles you can enjoy yourself with,??? your still gonna cheat and go back with that person you cheated on? so whats the point of doing it in the first place when you could just end up, obviously something is right!
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
I don't think its instilled our DNA's to be unfaithful at some point in our lives. I think its just a matter of abstaining or controlling ourselves from the temptations that we face in life. As of experience, I cheated for several reasons. But I know there's no excuse and I should be responsible to face whatever consequences for what I did. I cheated because I was not happy with the relationship and with that person anymore. I cheated out of curiosity. I cheated out of my own desire and selfishness. I cheated and it was stupid. It's never easy lying and countless days and nights of feeling guilty. It's never easy dealing with the pain. I guess it's just the price to pay for cheating. It's a thrill to meet new people. But I don't think it'll work out fine knowing that you have to deal with the one you left and dealing with your own self if the one you're leaving is not really the one you love after all.