Are you always honest with people

@jugsjugs (13045)
August 24, 2010 2:24pm CST
When someone asks you for your honest opinion,do you always tell them what you think,no matter if it is not nice,or what they want to hear.Well i have been honest with alot of people as they wanted my honest opinion and i hate to be too honest,but all the same i do think that it pays to be honest.
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• United States
24 Aug 10
It sounds corny but I do believe that honesty is the best policy. If you are just going to lie to a person what is the point in being that persons friend? You should give the same courtesy as you would want someone to give to you.
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@lucas5 (459)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
24 Aug 10
I am always honest, unless it is necessary to lie.
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@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Aug 10
Truthfully no. I am not always fully honest. I tend to smooth over the rough edges and think about the possibility that I might do damage that is not necessary. It usually always pays to be 100% honest but not totally sometimes.......... I just feel out the situation and tell what is only necessity.
• Pamplona, Spain
24 Aug 10
Hiya quita, I do agree with you there that is what I do smooth over the rough edges too sometimes. I think of the damage I could do too. The situation with those Women in the Toilets was something for me to sort out I stood up to them myself. What a rough lot I could not believe Women of this age could behave so rough. Before they were never like this but now it´s on the increase. I thought if I go and tell him now what they are trying to do and say to me he will cause way too much trouble and besides I so badly needed to go to the Toilet. When he asked where I had been I was not that honest and said well I had to wait in a huge long queue. So a lack of honesty does pay depending what is the situation of course.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
24 Aug 10
Hi, am glad someone agrees with me. There is nothing so nice as being protective of others. I realize sometimes we have to tell the whole truth but if the truth can be smoothed over and feelings are saved , we are being a better friend in the long run. Thanks for you opinion. quita
@jugsjugs (13045)
26 Aug 10
If they were to ask me what i thought about what they are doing in their lives was going to cause trouble for them as in now or in the future,then i would tell them and be very honest with them,mainly if they were going to get themselves a bad name or in trouble with social services,as i like to ensure that noone gets hurt.
@kristinad (185)
• United States
24 Aug 10
hello jugsjugs i am someone who is always honest even if it hurts there feelings if they are asking me for the truth i will give. i was brought up never to lie because a lire is worse then a theft because a theft will tell you that they did it a lire you can never trust because you can never trust what is coming out of there mouth
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
i always do being frank and straight to the point when someone asked my opinion, others take it negatively others also appreciate it.. but somehow i always do express what i have in mind, it depends on the other party how they it take by themselves..being honest is sometimes we put ourselves on conflicts..but anyway being honest or being expressive enough and frank it both pays much..
@jugsjugs (13045)
26 Aug 10
I think that sometimes it pays to be honest aswell as straight and to the point, as in the past this has stopped someone from getting in serious trouble.I think that sometimes it wakes people up to other people opinions aswell as other people would see what they were doing wrong.
• India
27 Aug 10
what is think is being honest now makes us hassle free later, since we will be without any burden if we are honest, because atleast my innerself always shouts if i don anything against my courtesy
@aurorastorm (1136)
• United States
24 Aug 10
I am known for being brutally honest. I only give my opinion when I am asked, once I am asked though I will tell you the truth even if it is hard to hear. I think a lot of people try to sugar coat the truth, but it is just not my nature. I also would rather hear the truth from someone else than to lie to me to spare my feelings.
@jugsjugs (13045)
26 Aug 10
I am the same,there are alot of other people that also play things down,which i can not see the point in that.I know that there are alot of people out there that do not like others being soo honest and telling them exactly what they do not want to hear,but it is for their own good at the end of the day i think.
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
I was told by my parents to always tell the truth, as i grow up i learned the consequences of lying. Many feelings of people will be hurt, some will create a gossip that would fire-up people's feeling towards others leading to physical assault. I stick to the saying that Honesty is the best policy. That is a genuine character of a REAL person.
• United States
28 Aug 10
I try to be as diplomatic about everything as possible. Sometimes this means bending the truth in situations where honestly could be my downfall. Like if someone that constantly asks me for money asks me if I have any...the answer will be no. This is just so I don't go broke. But as a general rule, I still believe that honesty is the best policy, and should be used in almost every situation. BTW...I also believe that anyone that says they NEVER lie...is definitely lieing.
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
Im bout to answer the question above but first browse all the answers and go thru your message and yes i agree with you with the last sentence that anyone that says they NEVER lie is definitely lying. They're the one who try to wash their hands about lying and try to encourage others to believe in them but in reality its too impossible for a person to be too honest. We sometime lie for a reason.
25 Aug 10
It really depends on the situation, not all the time you need to be honest. Because others might miss interpret what do you like to discuss or say something.
• India
25 Aug 10
Exactly it depends on situation. If other miss interpret it then its more dangerous then to not to be honest.
@akn1961 (1035)
• India
25 Aug 10
yes abouslly i am always with the honest people. now honest people meet very difficult because 75% people are selfish but i am do it. my friends is very honest for me. so i am so lucky. thanks for opinion.
• India
25 Aug 10
Honesty is good habbit the man , but its time honest man or friends meet , i like honest man , if we together no harms the people, Honest person is show the differnt people.
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
25 Aug 10
I will admit I lie sometimes in order not to hurt the person's feelings. When the person asks for my honest opinion, I usually give it honestly. I expect the same from my friends. If they didn't want the truth, if they like it or not, they wouldn't ask.
• China
25 Aug 10
hello,I just went through the answer for this topic from the very beginning,very glad to see I did the exactly same as you do for the honest policy. as long as I give a suggestion,i am always think of if the answer is favirouble for this guy.we have some friend who just want to hear the positive opinion,what you need to do is just encourge them.
• Malaysia
24 Aug 10
I'll reflect to the degree of honesty needed or required in providing the sharing. The next thing to do is waiting for the feedback given by the third party in detecting their honesty of asking. As life physics is concerned, every action there must be reaction.
@jugsjugs (13045)
26 Aug 10
I think that you are right there.I know that there are alot of people out there that would really be hurt if i was to say to them what has been my honest opinion over the years,but in some respects they know what the honest opinion is going to be.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
24 Aug 10
With other people, I always be honest to tell what I think. With my girlfriend, that is a different story though. Should I tell her the honest answer, sometimes she might not want to hear. So, according to her demand, I have to tell a lie sometimes too.
@jugsjugs (13045)
26 Aug 10
There are alot of people out there that do not like people to be honest and they would rather hear things that were not soo honest or not too honest when they say things to them.
• Canada
11 Nov 10
I think i try to be honest, in as nice a way as possible, unless i suspect there will be serious consequences such as the person will really not be able to handle it and the whole relationship will go down the drain.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
9 Nov 10
Honest to an extent.^_^ With my close friends I can be brutally honest and I know they wont get offended by it. By brutal honesty, I mean real details as I observe them and not details laced with sarcasm or unnecessary opinion. But with those people who are only my acquaintances, I would choose my words carefully. I of course dont lie and say what they wanted to hear but I do tell the truth in a manner that wouldnt offend the person I was speaking to. It is most definitely better to tell the honest truth rather than tell beautiful lies that could just bite you back in the future. That's just what I think anyways.^_^
@gaboni (644)
• Israel
5 Sep 10
Well I usually am trying to be honest with people, but when I am sad or upset I usually feel better not being like that... I think it is about a person's personality, about lying / not lying. I know some people who would just lie out of a habit, even on ridiculous matters such as if they ate lunch or not...
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
31 Aug 10
Hi jugsjugs!. I think its depend on the situation, I had to look in the situation first. Like in the party I meet my best friend and she ask how is her new dress look like, I will answer its lovely even if it not. I don't know to lower her confidence level in that party. It will a difference story if she ask that question in the store, when he buy than dress I will tell the honest opinion.
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
30 Aug 10
Many people can't handle the truth. If they don't hear what they want, if the truth upsets them or embarrasses them then they react badly. Some need to hear some truths but they will most likely ignore it anyway. It doesn't matter either if you say it from your heart as a friend some people will turn against you. It's a sign of immaturity and instability I feel. It5 happened to me recently here.
@bounce58 (17524)
• Canada
29 Aug 10
I am always guarded, so I can't really say that I can be too honest when anybody just asks for my opinion. Specially if I don't know the person askin too well. Of course if the one asking is a friend, and I respect them too much not to BS them, then they deserve the honest truth when they ask it. And I agree that it pays to be honest.
@drannhh (15245)
• United States
29 Aug 10
I am pretty honest, but I do try to arrange the words so that they do not sting if you know what I mean. Example: Friend asks "Does this skirt make me look fat." and I would not say "Yes!" but I might say "You look nice in that skirt but I personally think your green one is more attractive on you."
• Saudi Arabia
29 Aug 10
Hi jugsjugs, it is indeed good to be honest. But we must be tactful if our opinion would really affect the other person's life and cause adverse reaction. So it is advisable to be more cautious in giving our views especially regarding serious matters or very personnal issues. May you have a great day and happy posting.
@ElicBxn (60894)
• United States
28 Aug 10
I decide if honestly is the best thing, and over the years I've learned to try and temper it with diplomacy and kindness.