What do you do when you are betrayed and cheated of a huge amount?

@devijay78 (1575)
India
August 24, 2010 3:33pm CST
I ask this because my husband trusted one of his friends and got cheated. He came to know about this just two days back. It has been going on for about two years and my husband had been blindly trusting this guy inspite of my repeated warnings that something was not right. Now he has been cheated of his hard earned money of about 4 lakhs. More than the money, I am worried about my husband whose heart is broken. He is now inconsolable. He is a self made man and mistakes of this kind take a toll on him. I had my doubts from the beginning but he choose to ignore them. And worse, there is no proof that his friend took money from us. My husband trusted him so blindly that he did not take any proof from him. Getting money from that guy legally is also not possible now. I want people to know of this and be careful with their money. Do not trust anyone, even if they are known to you for years, with anything. It is always better to be cautious than regret later.
3 responses
• Philippines
24 Aug 10
If i was your husband, i'll learn from that mistake and never do that again and be careful if something like that happens in the future.
@devijay78 (1575)
• India
24 Aug 10
Yes. But is was a very costly mistake to make. We lost our savings of two years.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
Think about it this way, you've lost your savings for two years just to learn the lesson. So would you ever repeat the mistake again? :)
@devijay78 (1575)
• India
25 Aug 10
That is what I have consoled him with. Told him that it is a costly mistake and that he should not trust people with his hard earned money. But there is something good out of this. We have become closer and our bond has become stronger. There were a lot of misunderstandings earlier because of this and now he understands what I was trying to tell. He has started discussing and asking me for suggestions now.
• United States
24 Aug 10
At this point all you and your husband can do is ask straight up if you will get any of it back. Hope that you will. It is a life lesson though, a tough one to learn.
@devijay78 (1575)
• India
25 Aug 10
He was totally shattered. We fought over it many times because I did not trust his friend. Now my husband sees how wrong he was and how badly he treated me because of that. I am trying to get him out of his grief and try to get the money from that person. He moped for two days and now he sees reason and is putting in efforts to get in touch with that no good friend of his. Hope we get back at least half of it. Thanks.
• United States
25 Aug 10
Make sure your husband understands that we all make mistakes, none of us is perfect. That you are there for him, that the arguments were only a show of who you are that you were worried as strongly as he thought everything was ok. We don't always listen to reason its in our nature. He needs to forgive himself, then move forward beyond this problem so that you both live your life. Mistakes happen, it is what makes us stronger as we go through them.
@shopy99 (20)
• Romania
24 Aug 10
go ape !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!