FIRST LOVE never dies....

@len1415 (195)
Philippines
August 24, 2010 9:59pm CST
How is that possible? I remember my first love back when i was still in high school. We were steady for two years, young but serious relationship indeed. I am already married but we still communicate through networking sites until now, only, we share thoughts as friends, for all times sake. It is difficult to avoid talking about our past and what would it become if we were the ones who have gotten married. Awkward, and yet there is still something, a feeling, that you would still feel...like the same as before, when you talk or come across to someone who had once became a part of your life. Like a chapter of a book you have finished reading, but when you review the whole book, you cannot ignore that part that has somehow, someway, become relevant to the ending of the story...
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@dapers (51)
28 Aug 10
Yes, can't agree more. It is easier to remember first and last situations than in-betweens, specially about love (if you're emotional). Maybe that's just how human feelings work.
@len1415 (195)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
You're absolutely right about that my friend...
@cheribam (448)
• United States
26 Aug 10
Our mind loves positive emotions and our mind also remembers, and what you're feeling is normal. But always remember that you are already married and if you keep on talking to him about what things would be if both of you end up together, it will be unfair to your spouse. You have to let go the romantic emotions you have for your high school sweetheart, though it's hard but keep the platonic feeling. You said it's hard to avoid talking about the "What if's" but remember, you can always tell yourself to STOP, and then just talk about another topic.
• United States
26 Aug 10
I believe that it is not so much the love but the mere thought that perhaps it was the best in comparison. Sometimes the old phrase comes to mind when I think about first love. You do not know what you have until you lose it. This phrase reminds me on how we need to appreciate a bit more during the relation love phase.
@katland05 (136)
• Guam
25 Aug 10
I can't say that I have experienced this because I'm still with my 1st love for 22 years now & still going strong. We first met when I was in high school through one of my brothers. He is my true love, my best friend, & the father of my 3 beautiful kids. I pray to have faith in the lord & to keep our love strong but if for some reason it does not I know that he will still hold that special place in my heart that no other can replace... Happy mylotting...
• Thailand
26 Aug 10
Dear len! Your story is romantic for me! You have a first love. and when you don't love each other, the lover become a friend. It's difficult to do that guys. Yes, First love is always fantastic. I am lucky when my first love become my wife!
@slugs417 (25)
• United States
25 Aug 10
It's crazy how things happen the way they do. My first love was in Jr. High. We dated up to our freshman year I broke up with her and then she ended up moving away. It was something I felt crappy about for along time. Then We met up much later in life and I felt that we would get back together. We have a few itimate times and she would always talk to me about how much she hated her ex boyfriend but later on I called her and her ex boyfriend answered and said she didnt want to talk to me anymore, and i really didn't care what he said so i talked to her later and she confirmed that and I felt so low. So it's been years and still haven't talked to her. I mean I feel like I would like to contact her and just let her know I would rather have her in my life as a friend than not at all. I have a girlfriend and the most beautiful daughter anyone could ask for that I love with all my heart. It's just so crazy how things happen and you wonder if their was any reasoning why you met someone or what role their life played in yours.
@GemmaR (8517)
25 Aug 10
I remember the first boy I was in love with, and I am 100% certain that I do not hold any such feelings for him anymore. It was in 2006, and we went to New York together, as friends. While we were there, feelings developed on both sides, and we ended up dating for two years. After that, we came to realise that we were more like friends, or maybe even brother and sister, than boyfriend/girlfriend. We decided to split up then, but we are still good friends, and will be for a very long time providing our friendship continues to go to plan.
@Godmother (476)
• Indonesia
25 Aug 10
yes, I'm 52 years now, but I can still remember my first love back in high school. And yes, he has a space in my heart, as a part of my life, a part of growing up, a part that teaches me the bitterness and the excitement of love and relationship. we do see each other at certain parties, because of course our old friends are still the same people. But sad to say, his wife is really the jealous type, so I tend to keep him at a distance for his own good. But whenever he came to a party without his wife, we would make jokes of the old times and laugh about it.
• China
25 Aug 10
Everyone must remember their own first love in heart. I always think that its happy when you married your first love,but its probabillty is too small. First love is part of life,even though sweet or pained.
@kreasa03 (54)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
My first love isn't important at all. I was able to get over the thoughts of him. But the one that I have loved most, I have to admit that even 3 years already passed. I have been struggling to forget him which I won thru prayering but I have to be honest to myself that somehow he is always attach to my heart and occupies a little space. no matter what I did nothing can change that fact.
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
hi friend sorry to say that I don't agree in your saying first love never die for as long as I know it's just only part of your memories and I think true love never die not first love
25 Aug 10
First Love Love has never been defined from the time gave birth. Love differs from heart to heart.Love is happy and love is sad. When you love something it makes you comfortable.
• India
25 Aug 10
Love is blind. but not lovers. Yes, we can show love to anyone. First impression is the best impression. First love is the best. We cannot identify whether it is love or infactuation. But still love continues......
25 Aug 10
I can relate to this, I'm not married though. but anyway, I think that it feels special cause they were the first right? and basically the most memorable and so with that its quite obvious that we remember it very vividly than other relationships, cause he/she was the first one to every enter our heart and the first person to share an intimate side of your life. :)
@Lore2009 (7378)
• United States
25 Aug 10
I sure hope mine does, because he broke my heart... and I still remember him too but I think the pain is what I remember. But I don't talk to him and I hope I never will.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
25 Aug 10
I'm going to prove it otherwise and let it die than to keep on reminding of it.it wasn't worth enough for me though.good to know that you keep in touch with her.Unfortunately i ended up loving one psychotic devil thereby forcing me to stay away from her than to be closer and i dont want to even remember any of those interactions we had until now.great day.
@madteaparty (2748)
• Japan
25 Aug 10
Well, it`s nice that your first love was such intense. In my case, feelings come and go, and I have already forgotten everything that I felt for my first love. If a relationship ended, there`s a reason to it, and it`s important not to forget it so we can go on with our lifes and find new loves if we lose the old ones
@CTHanum (8234)
• Malaysia
25 Aug 10
usually it's hard to forget the first love as it was our first sweet memory ever.even if we have fall in love several times or ended getting married with someone else,our first love will always be in our heart and mind- i mean as a memory only.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
I believe in this too.., I do still recall the guy that I had a big crush on when we were still in high school but we never dated.., He knew I like him but he only finds me as a friend.. it took me a long time to get over him.., and he is already married now and i am already engaged.., I love my fiance.., and he is the one I consider my first love.., The one I had in high school was just and infatuation.. but I can't help but wonder sometimes.., what if.., it was the two of us who ended up marrying.., But it's all in my head.., and it's just a thought.., Nothing less and nothing more..=)
• Philippines
25 Aug 10
wow nice lovestory well thats life you have your own life and family now and be happy what you what have now