Kids that don't mind even though you try to make them.

United States
August 26, 2010 1:08pm CST
What we have been so afraid would happen has happened. My step granddaughter, age 3, absolutely will not do as she is told, no way will she mind, no matter what it is. This is hard to explain as most kids this age when told NO will quit, this one will wait till you might not be looking then do exactly what she was told not to do! No matter how much she is punished the next time it will be the same all over. I have 10 grandchildren and this one is so bad that under no circumstances will I watch her! I refuse! We are constantly getting her out and removing her from something. Well today, my daughter was babysitting her and came over to get rabbit food for their pet rabbits. She sent her oldest one in the house to get the pellets and she went in the barn to get the straw. She told the two little ones to STAY IN THE CAR IN THEIR SEATS! Guess who didnot mind! She got out and when the oldest found her and told her to get back in the car she ran away from her! This is nothing new, when we try to get her out and tell her she can't do something she will argue with us and run away from us! She ran into the barn and fell in some metal and cut a large gash in her leg. Her father has come home from work (no mother in the picture) and is taking her to the ER because she will probley have to have stitches in her leg. What do you do with a child that behaves this way. Stubborn does not even begin to describe her, Determination is extremely strong. Maybe these will be good traits when she is older but HOW do you control a child like this. I have never experienced an attitude like this and I had 5 kids!!!!!
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
27 Aug 10
I imagine i would spank her tail till she learned to mind. If kids are not disiplined at an early age u might as well forget it. I didn't beat my children but i did spank them . I didn't have to do that often but i did it when i thought they needed it. hope the little girl is o.k.
• United States
27 Aug 10
ME TOO! That is why I refuse to watch her. She got 11 stitches in her knee/leg where she got cut. Right above the knee. He said she just watched them stitch it and never cried. She must have an extremly high pain tolerance! I couldn't do that!!!! As far as I know she is fine. He took the rest of the day off work. My daughter was glad. I asked if he would tomorrow too and she didn't think so, but he might, depends on how things are in the morning. I hope for my daughters sake he does.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
27 Aug 10
That is alot of stitches for a little one. I can't believe she didn't cry. I probably would have been crying myself. That is just not normal.
• United States
31 Aug 10
I remember my daughter (the one that watches her) cutting her knee about this age and she SCREAMED and even into high school if she thought that knee was injured the whole world ended. I remember she fell at my neighbors once and was crying cause her arm was bleeding and I told my neighbor to just tell her "your knee!" and that would be the end of it! She forgot all about her arm cause she was checking out her knee! So yes, this is not normal!! I remember the other day telling someone when she fell that "she's tough!" I didn't realize how much! Seen her yesterday at my granddaughters birthday, she isn't the least worried about that leg...I would be keeping it covered with neosporin so that it would be moist and less scar and easier to have the dr remove the stitches. He isn't doing anything with it! Said they told him not to!!!!! I think he misunderstood something but dah...I am female I know nothing! I am not the one that has to deal with it so let him deal with it!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 Aug 10
I think with a child like this, you have to do more than just tell her. You have to get right in her face and enforce things, let her know what the consequences for not listening are, and then follow through with discipline consistently. Lots of patience needed here...
• United States
27 Aug 10
We do!! Thats just it.... nothing gets to her! We make her set, we make her repeat what we say, which most of the time she can NOT do, or will not. We tell her You can't climb on now what did I tell you say it...and she says "I am going to go play!" It is an argument! Paddle the butt, soon as she is done crying, if she crys, and we let her up...she does what she was told not too. My daughter baby sits her and has a horrible time with her, she is to her wits end.
@GardenGerty (100472)
• United States
27 Aug 10
If she were here I would know what to tell you. I would have her evaluated by a special pre school and by community mental health. We dealt with children like this in the preschool where I worked for seven years. If that is not a possibility and early childhood intervention cannot be done, it might be helpful to do some note taking on your own and figure out what this child gets out of this misbehavior.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
27 Aug 10
I was thinking something along the same lines.
@bunnybon7 (36881)
• Holiday, Florida
26 Aug 10
todays kids are getting worse and worse. i think theres to much fear in parents or else to much not caring about how to handle them. to many have been told they cant punish them certain ways and its against the law,etc. and most parents think its ok to let them do as they want. right now im probably the wrong person to answer this right now, (company is still here) with the rotten kid. also, doctors are trying to always make more money by saying kids have this and that wrong thats excuses. ADHD, autism, etc. maybe you can suggest therapy. especially since the little girls mom is gone. that could have some to do with it.
• United States
27 Aug 10
YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!! But the fear in parents isn't this little girls problem, I've written more about her above in the other responses so won't repeat here. Yes they have some pill for everyone to take!!!! for something!!!! The therapy will never happen he has no insurance. Sorry to hear that your company is still there. I don't think I could handle that. I can't handle this little girl and have decided I don't have to!!! I feel sorry for my daughter but her sister and I have both told her to tell him to get someone else. thanks for your response.
@GardenGerty (100472)
• United States
26 Aug 10
Perhaps she needs to repeat the instructions back to you when they are given. Then, when she even remotely does the right thing, praise her a lot. Catch her being good is what I would say. I know that she is probably exhausting to be around. Avoid situations if possible that are going to cause these issues.
• United States
27 Aug 10
We have been having her repeat the instructions, as I said above it doesn't work. WE are more frustrated and as soon as she can she will be in to what ever it was we told her no on. My daughter has an elicptical and this little girl is constantly sitting on the handle bars. My daughter takes her off and as soon as her back is turned she will be right back on it. The other day my daughter was in her bathroom cleaning and the little girl went into the bedroom where it is and was on the handle bars, she didn't know my daughter was also in the room. When she discovered it she went to run out but couldn't get out because she had LOCKED the room when she went in. She had purposely locked theroom. She KNOWS what she isn't to be into and SHE WILL do it anyway. We have told her constantly to tell her brother she can't watch her anymore. It would be great to avoid the situations but it is with everything. If she isn't to go out to play, she will be out the door! It is getting worse. thaks for your response.
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