Shifting nature of a person

@picjim (3003)
India
August 26, 2010 10:39pm CST
How do you deal with a person who keeps shifting his thinking and doesn't fulfill his commitments on one pretext or the other?I have found it very difficult to deal with such people after investing with them.Any tips on how to handle such situations?
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@megamatt (14333)
• United States
14 Jan 11
I tend to step away to the side for these types of people. They are not someone that I want to be a part of my life. I wish for a bit more stability in my life and those people are rather not stable as far as I am concerned. I think that you would be better off with those people, as they are too flaky all things considered. They are just not worth your time or energy.
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@picjim (3003)
• India
15 Jan 11
Thanks for your response.I endorse your view such people lack stability and are erratic.Definitely as you say our time is better spent on more productive things.I hope you have a great day.
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
31 Jan 11
We are going to have different perspectives based on new information and moods but someone who keeps changing their mind, and backing out of things based off a whim, that is frustrating. I really do not like to give these people the time of day myself. I mean, we all do have a change of thinking every now and again but there are times where people make an art out of it. If changing their mind and backing out was an Olympic sport, they would be a gold medalist. I really do think that these people are just best avoided. Make sure that people are fully unboard. If they are less than one hundred percent committed, then there are some warning bells that would go off in my head. Those people just are not worth the time to deal with. Your time and investment would be better with someone who is going to be around for the long haul.
@megamatt (14333)
• United States
31 Jan 11
And I just realized I already responded to this discussion. Oh well, I had more to add I guess.
@picjim (3003)
• India
1 Feb 11
Hi!We do all at certain stages in our life based on new information change our earlier held views.But this person i was referring to leaps into projects of dubious nature.When i try to salvage the earlier error of our path he once again shifts his opinion.At times giving me the impression he doesn't pay heed to the contrary views of others who have his interest at heart.I too am now trying to gauge whether they are hundred percent committed else i'm not entertaining such people.I fully back you when you say our time and interest are better served with someone who will there for the long haul.Your views are useful and give practical answers to my problem.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
27 Aug 10
Very difficult to deal with people like this, the settlement is to give understanding, if not given a sense, I prefer not to hook up with this guy, because if passed will be difficult for ourselves.
@picjim (3003)
• India
27 Aug 10
I accept your advise with thanks.I too have found it difficult to deal with him.Once we commit it will be difficult to get back our money and effort might go in vain.It has created difficult problems for me.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
27 Aug 10
Hopefully everything can work well again.
@savypat (20248)
• United States
27 Aug 10
If it is after the fact I would say all you can do is learn from experience and research anyone with whom you are going to do buiness.
@picjim (3003)
• India
28 Aug 10
What you say is absolutely true experience is teaching me to discern.I ought to as you say have researched more thoroughly before committing to such a person.
• China
27 Aug 10
just don't care what he said too much,just smile to his commitments and don't give your promise to him.if i was you,i will keep him from distance.
@picjim (3003)
• India
27 Aug 10
I'm following what you have said not giving much importance to what he says.I'm taking his commitment with a pinch of salt.Since i have committed to a minor extent i'm trying to retrieve my investment.I'm keeping a healthy distance in all future business dealing with him.