Married Got Pregnant By Somebody Else!

Philippines
August 28, 2010 2:06pm CST
I know of someone who has 2 kids and have been married for around 9 years. Her hubby a seaman, well they could afford a quite decent home and provide well for the kids, however the husband refuses to give the wife a good sum of money sufficient to run a household. You might be asking why? Because while her hubby was working hard she decided she wanted to live like a single woman carefree. They used to live in the compound of her hubby's parents and now she moved in with her parents. The reason was that she was being brought home early dawn in different cars and motorcycle by different men! She claimed they were just friends....while trying not to be judgemental well you can tell that to your grandpa lol. Well anyhow while she said she is not getting enough money from her hubby as a result of that incident she became a mistress of another guy who is married too. And you know it was just the bucks that she wanted a year after that illicit relationship it produced 3 abortions which she committed willingly to cover her shame. The truth of the matter is ...she told both men it was their child! Quite deceptive eh?And as she was scared what the child might look like she decided to kill all three! I feel sorry for the unborn children. While I feel sorry for her I just can't seem to understand why she was doing that. In fact I suggested she work but she is one lazy person who likes everything served on her platter. She makes up excuses about finding work. How do you feel about this? What would you say to her if you were her friend?
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@deve_annrn (1857)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
ohhh..this is a horrible real life drama!!! my heart cries out for that innocent aborted fetuses... it isn't their fault if their mother was an unselfish evil who doesn't think twice of killing her own blood.., and not responsible enough to be cautious not to get herself pregnant by men who are really cheap in engaging *** with a woman like her.. I pity his husband.., who faced the loneliness just to provide her a better life and what have she done.., =(
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@atv818 (1988)
• United Arab Emirates
29 Aug 10
She admitted to making abortion 3 times? Well, that woman has some nerve. I don't want to point any finger but regardless of the reason, no one has the right to kill another human being, full-grown or just a fetus. She may get away with her crime here on Earth but in the after-life, there is price to pay and that could me eternal life in Hell. I feel sad for her. If I were her friend, I would advice her to ask God for forgiveness and live a new life. Of course, I have to warn you that any unsolicitied advice may not be welcome so brace yourself for the worst result. Don't take it against her. Sometimes when a person is doing something bad, good advice may rub her the wrong way. Pray to God for assistance before doing any action.
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
I have tried to distance myself from her and for giving her advice. Her other friends have given her the best advice but when someone just don't wanna listen then there is nothing her friends could do because the choices are still up to her.
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
I felt really scared after reading what you posted. I feel sorry for the unborn child too, and there are three of them?! Oh no. Poor kids, they are innocent kids and yet they are killed by their own mother. If I were her friend - honestly I don't know what to tell her. I do want to tell her husband though. But it's a family issue. I guess I'll just tell her to stop everything she is doing because it is bad. I hope she'll do good after.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
31 Aug 10
Actually, it would be quite difficult for me to be able to remain her friend after these kinds of situations. The reason that I feel this way is because of the fact that I've always been brought up to be a very prolife person. It is not the fault of the poor little babies that they were concieved as the result of an affair, once they are conceived, they do have the right to enjoy a life and they never had that opportunity. I think I would point out to the girl that she is not only ruining her life, she is also ruining the lives of innocent people.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
29 Aug 10
Honestly, i would be ashamed of her. How could she be doing like this just because she doesn't receive much money. This is totally out of the equation. She has no business clinging to other men just because she doesn't get sufficient money from her husband, just what does she think her husband is supposes to mean to her! I think i would retire from telling her anything if she does not listen to me, because as you describe her, she seems to get everything for her and to her!. I am sorry for sounding rude but i will be if she were to be my friend and i honestly can't help such people much unless they try to realize what is wrong and what is right!
@choybel (5059)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
I wish I could describe how I feel for her but honestly I can't, I could picture it as a mixture of sadness, hate, anger, and more,well, also for some personal reasons. I just wished she gets enlightened before it's probably too late.
• United States
29 Aug 10
That is so wrong. What happens when her children find out about this? Has she ever thought of that? Even though I know that this is quite common, it is ridiculously stupid on your friend's part. She isn't hurting herself, she is hurting these men, and her children. I feel bad for the men and the children because they don't know how deceptive she really is. Women like this how know idea how much damage they do to people. They don't know who they are hurting. You better tell your friend to start telling the truth before one of these men or own children go off on her because that is the only thing that can result from this.
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
Hi Candyfairy, It was unfortunate that the woman of your story has made herself the topic of your post but I agree with you feeling sorry for her. Adultery is a sin in itself and considered a crime in the legal system but to kill innocent lives is even more a detestable thing she could come up with to cover her crime that she has to answer to. She may not be found out by her husband but she can't hide it all from the All Knowing God. Besides the guilt will always be there for her to deal with. It's not a good thing when one harbors such a feeling of guilt for having cheated on her husband. I don't know if she could sleep well at night knowing that. I hope she could find it in herself to think about the repercussions of her actions and that she finds her way back to God. If I am a friend of hers, I will have to face her head on and if she listens to me, I'll tell her straight that she got it all wrong but that I wouldn't rebuke her for doing so, she just have to know what she'll lose and what the outcome might be if she doesn't come around but that it's not too late to turn back and renounce her ways and save her marriage if there is still a marriage to save or if she thinks she is still up to it. I can't force her to do other than what she want to do to her life, it's her life in the after all but as a trusted friend, I can lay down her options for her to think about. That way I can help her find the best option to take if she is willing to take it. Other than that, there's not much I can do for her than she can do for herself. I hope your friend finds the best option to take. Have a nice day.
@jamed28 (1910)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
It seems like this things are only happening in the movie only, but the truth is, it does happen in the real life. I'd never check your profile, but I can say that your from the Philippines and this story happened in the Philippines.
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
She needs a spiritual counseling. I think there are many factors like maybe she wanted to avenge her husband because her ego was hurt due to the fact that she wasn't given enough money. Although maybe at first she wanted to avenge, it become a habit of her to take different men.
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
Woah ! I'm quite speechless. I don't mean to insult you but your friend is as lazy as a cow, promiscuous and crazy. I can't imagine knowing and dealing with someone like that. I can't describe how in shock I was reading your short summary of the crazy life of that woman. I can't believe as well how she managed to do all the things she did. Is guilt and self-respect even part of her dictionary? She is old enough to decide for herself .and that no matter how much you'd like to give her advises and all, one thing's for sure. She sure as hell isn't willing to work during the day. She works at night with men who can pay her her dues. And to think, she already has a husband but she still keeps on getting money from man after man and still feel good about herself. That's nuts. Let's just wish her the best of luck.