Do you (or did you) sing to your kids?

@owlwings (38091)
Cambridge, England
August 29, 2010 1:17pm CST
Most of us are embarrassed to sing in public but how many of us sang lullabies to our kids? My mother used to sing to me but it was really the songs my dad sang to me (and he was no singer) which I remember. I passed those on to my children (or, at least, I sang them) but I don't know if they remember them the way I do. They have never said! My mother used to sing 'Rock-a-bye Baby' (but to a different tune to the one most Americans seem to know - and it always grates when I hear the other tune!) What lullabies do you remember and do you think that music (whether it's sung or played) is a very calming thing for little children?
9 people like this
47 responses
@rameshchow (5284)
• India
2 Sep 10
generation is changing, its become faster. The mother and infant is not same to the past. my mother used to sing a famous lullaby in telugu. It is really so sweet to listen, its makes us sleepy. If possible check these famous lullabies in telugu language, really melodious... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TnvqDkajBrg http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AX1bppEQIL8&feature=related
1 person likes this
• United States
30 Aug 10
Firstly, I have a very sensual and sexy voice at least this is what I am told time and time again. But for singing oh gosh you would require ear plugs. I can easily pick up songs and all the lyrics after hearing them the first time around. But please tell me to shut up. I know I cannot sing. But for my children they loved it. They loved that I cooed and sang to them daily. In fact when my son had his 21 birthday I called him right at midnight, as he was away at college. He answered naturally because he was out with his buddies celebrating the big 2 1. There I went sang this Spanish old traditional song I use to sing to him, now I know it did not sound good as my boyfriend not being advanced told that I was going to do this was looking at me weird, also too because my boyfriend is Caucasian and does not speak a word of Spanish. But anyways I sang to my little guy and wow did we both tear of joy. So regardless what anyone says singing to my children was a very good thing.
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
30 Aug 10
Your boyfriend has obviously seen a new side of you! I'm sure that you sounded good to your son, however, and that's what really matters!
• United States
30 Aug 10
ahahaha, good one! Yes he and I teared so hard than we laughed.
@nannacroc (4049)
29 Aug 10
I've never been much of a singer but I have sung lullabies to my children and grandchildren. Rock-a-bye-baby, didn't know there was a different tune, was a favourite and one my mum used to sing which started 'Go to sleep my baby'. My dad used to spend hours singing Teddy Bears Picnic to me and my eldest daughter, we both still get sleepy when we hear it. It doesn't matter if you can't sing, lullabies can settle babies. Nice to see you here. Take care.
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
29 Aug 10
I know that you can make up delightful pomes, Nannacroc, so I'm sure that you can sing very soothingly (if not the kind of thing you'd put on SingSnap). It's odd how a rather 'jumpy/dancy' tune like 'The Teddy Bear's Picnic' can be a lullaby ... but it can! Nice to see you here, too! Give that little blue fish of yours my best wishes for September. I suppose, in a way, it's all about Finding Nemo (or Nemesis) and panda'ing to people's requirements ...
1 person likes this
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
29 Aug 10
Sometime we shall have to compare tunes to 'Hush/Rock-a-bye Baby'. Mine is slightly dancey and starts at the bottom of the hill, goes up by little steps and comes back to the bottom, then the next phrase is the same but up a step. The other tune is much more 'hilly' (and more difficult to sing, in my opinion) and goes up by leaps and bounds to the top and comes down the same way ... I could write the note names down but I don't know if that would mean much!
1 person likes this
@kalav56 (11503)
• India
7 Mar 13
I sing reasonably well and still sing to my grandson.He is a two year old kid and has an amazing ear for music.He loves my songs and the beautiful part is he captures the expression with which I sing and repeats it.As typical of a child he will get cranky and recite [scream]it like a poem and cast me a naughty glance too.I used to sing to my son but he , like you, would sleep on my husband's lap choosing his favourite songs. He too has a great ear for music and can play violin .
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
7 Mar 13
How lovely to have a musical grandson! I also have musical children and grandchildren and one, especially, who is now nearly three is so clearly musical that his parents are considering putting his name down for King's College Choir School. What a proud grandfather I would be if my grandson were chosen as the treble soloist for the opening carol, 'Once in Royal David's City', in the annual Festival of Nine Lessons and Carols, which is broadcast world-wide on Christmas Eve. But I am dreaming!
@flyinghi (130)
• Canada
13 Feb 13
I remember my mom singing 'Rock-a-bye Baby' as well, but other than that song I don't really remember her singing anything else to us. I sang lullabyes to my daughter and now I sing them to my grandchildren. I should say I try to sing to my grandchildren. I have two grandsons and one granddaughter (4 months old), the two boys do not really appreciate my singing--they are too busy getting into things and trying to fight each other to settle down for a song.
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
7 Mar 13
There is a 'certain age' when boys (and often girls too) are too occupied with other things and begin to think of 'Grandma's songs' as, perhaps, somewhat 'babyish'. In fact, even though they don't seem interested at the moment, they may probably remember in later life and so the tradition has a chance of being carried on!
@Anne18 (11036)
4 Oct 11
Hi there, Yes I did and still do sing ot my children, but only when no one else is about as my singing is really awful, but I do enjoy singing. I think there should be a group we could go to called Can't sing but want ot sing!! PS I asked ot be your friend and it is still pending, hope you will accept me as yor friend very son.
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
4 Oct 11
I'm sure that your children don't think you can't sing. I bet they really love it when you do! We often far more critical of ourselves than we really need be! I'm sorry about the friend thing! I currently have over 600 and am thinking that's too many so have been holding back on accepting any more until I have had a good sort out. I've just accepted your kind offer (because I was thinking that you were one of the people I should have on my friends list, anyway!), so there we are!
• United States
30 Aug 10
Well I am not embarrassed to sing anywhere I sang to my kids all the time (still do) one of my favorites is one that my mom used to sing to me, "you are my sunshine my only sunshine you make me happy - when skies are grey you never know dear how much I love you please dont take my sunshine away"
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
30 Aug 10
That's one of my favourites, too, as, perhaps you were aware http://www.singsnap.com/snap/r/b5129649e and it's really great to harmonise with!
@ankches (26)
• Indonesia
30 Aug 10
helo owlwings, i dont remember a lullabies that my parent sing it to me. but i did and do sing a lullabies for my son. i know i'm not a good singer, but it came from the heart. ang it could make the kid calm. salam
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
30 Aug 10
It really doesn't matter how good a singer you are, Ankches. It's what comes from the heart that matters.
• China
30 Aug 10
I'm sure I will when I'm going to have a baby~~
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
30 Aug 10
That's a very good point you make, Betty (though perhaps you didn't realise). Babes in the womb after a certain age are very aware of sounds and the mother's voice is something that's very important (even though it sounds quite different from inside the womb to the way it sounds once the baby is born. It is one of the things that bonds the baby to the mother, so singing little lullabies to your baby while you are pregnant is probably one of the more important things you can do.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
29 Aug 10
I used to sing lullabies to my children when they were small. One of my favorite motherhood memories will always involve singing rock a bye baby to my son. My son was my first baby. When i would rock him to sleep, I would sing this lullaby to him. he would make the funniest face and almost start to cry. I could hum it and it would be the same reaction. i guess he just didn't want to hear it.
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
29 Aug 10
I'm sure that he LOVED to hear it. Maybe he just didn't want to go to sleep or maybe he was just trying so hard to go to sleep because he knew that's what he was supposed to do ... I don't know! Kids are the funniest people.
1 person likes this
@savypat (20248)
• United States
29 Aug 10
I use to sing all the time, to the kids, in the car, in the shower, now I only seem to remember to sing at Christmas. To old I guess
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
29 Aug 10
Never too old, Savypat! I guess that kids grow out of being sung to, though ... but there's always grandkids! We had 'bathtime' songs, too: [Sung to the tune of Frere Jaques] "[i]Where is fishy, where is fishy? On the wall, on the wall![/i][there was a picture of a fish on the wall by the bath] [i]Does he wear pajamas, does he wear pajamas? Not at all, not at all![/i]"
2 people like this
@CRIVAS (1822)
• Canada
29 Aug 10
First I just want to say that this is a great discussion. I was sang to as a child just like you. Although it was mostly my mom's songs that I remember. She used to sing to me, every night before I went to bed. Now that I have 2 children of my own, I sing to them every single night. In fact the only time that I have not sung to them before bedtime, is when they are at sleep overs with family. One of the reasons that I sing to them is because bedtime is usually the only time we really get when there are no other distractions around. I think it is important to spend that time with your children because there is nothing more important than making sure that they know that you love them, and value your time with them.
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
29 Aug 10
Singing to children (however unaccomplished a singer one is) has a very special 'togetherness' factor ... possibly more so if one ISN'T a 'good' singer because it is sharing something about oneself that is 'vulnerable'.
1 person likes this
• United States
29 Aug 10
I sang both of my children to sleep. They each have they're own special song. My son's is You Are My All in All, and my daughter's is Amazing Grace. I'm no Amy Grant but I want to leave them with a special memory when they get older so when they hear their song they can always think of mom :) (fondly, hopefully!)
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
29 Aug 10
Awww! I hope that they always remember their 'special songs' and, when the time comes, pass them on to their children! Who wants to be Amy Grant, anyway?
1 person likes this
• United States
29 Aug 10
It is so funny you asked this. if I said yes to this I might be telling a lie. I don't remember singing directly to my daughter when she was younger. i am not at all a good singer and would not have done this around others. I think it was really cute that your parents sang to you. I will be singing to my 16 year old tonight before bed just to see what she says. LOL
@owlwings (38091)
• Cambridge, England
29 Aug 10
You do that, Gifts! I think that, at 16, your daughter might think it either hilarious, embarrasing ... or touching! Who can tell with a 16 year old! Whether you think of yourself as a good singer doesn't matter. Most of us are far better than we think we are!
1 person likes this
• India
5 Apr 13
do you miss your parents and your childhood? well, I miss it a lot and sometimes I remember and sing the song I used to hear by mom. I sing that now for my baby...
@KrauseHome (33267)
• United States
9 Mar 13
Well, I was never able to have any kids myself, but I can remember many times singing to younger ones to help them sleep when I babysit, etc. Or just to help calm them down and many times entertain them. Singing is a Great way to help cheer someone up or relax them when they need calming. Just like when we hear certain songs from time to time what it does for us as well.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
7 Mar 13
My kids love to hear me sing twinkle little star when they were a baby but now not anymore since they grow to teenager I miss that time a lot They tend to hear a pop song from artist than to my voice maybe because my voice is not as sweet as artist..lol
@nupur123 (392)
• Hyderabad, India
20 Sep 12
Yes whenever she is angry and don't want to talk to me at that time i sing her favourite song. She also make me sing rhymes which she learns in school. Not onky this sometime when she wants to.dance she tell me to sing song for her.
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
20 Sep 12
I sing to my child. Just now I was teaching him to sing "Hello Mommy, hello Daddy, hello my dear." I taught him several times and will still teach him to sing it till he knows how to sing it.
@urbandekay (18314)
11 Feb 12
I have no kids to sing to but I sing (very, very badly) all the time. I often sing to my dogs, usually making up some lyrics to a known song. Two little beasts so very lairy Covered in fur and very hairy Two little beasts are you Think Gilbert and Sullivan Or Bob Marley Your a beasto, she's a beasto Your beastly little beastly beasts When the older dog was pregnant Who's got a big fat belly Who's got a big fat tum Who's got a big fat belly That's where you pups come from Now, as you can see, these ditties are sadly lacking in lyrical inspiration but I don't really care. I also sing to my wife, usually just what I am doing or thinking but also sometimes songs of love Would you like a cup of tea I going make for you and me I think it sometimes annoys her but keeps me happy I don't think my mother (only parent) really sang much to me, she is one of those strange people who have little appreciation of music. all the best urban