Have you done every thing you've always wanted to do?

South Africa
August 30, 2010 4:36pm CST
My husband and I were talking and the conversation came to be about things we had wanted to do when we were young, but didn't get around to do it. Like I wanted to act in a major production play in a theater. He always wanted to drive a race car (not formula 1) around a race track. But we got caught up in other things, like work, school, etc. Now we're talking about how we can do these things. Are there any things that you had always wanted to do, but haven't been able to do them yet? What has prevented you from doing them (work? marriage? children?). Please share. And be clean, there're kids around :)
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• Bulgaria
1 Sep 10
Like really,I just can't understand people,never happy with what they've got.They call it ambition,well I call it greedyness :)
• South Africa
1 Sep 10
Ok, so you're telling me that you're absolutely happy with where you are and what you have? You don't have any dreams or goals to work towards?
• Bulgaria
2 Sep 10
Man I'm not saying ambition is bad,I'just saying some people got 2 cars-they want 3-got an apartment,they want a house,man I'm saying there are people who are never happy with what they got,and the only thing I want to change is the place I'm living now to a nicer country,that's all,other than that I'm perfectly fine :)
• South Africa
11 Sep 10
Oh I get you... Although I don't see anything wrong with that.. as long as they're not stepping over people and hurting people to get those extra things. And as long as they're generous with the extra they have. I know someone who has 3 cars between him and his wife, but he's always lending the extra one to people when they need it. He has two houses, but that means he has extra room for when relatives come over from far-off places...
@thesids (22359)
• Bhubaneswar, India
31 Aug 10
How very true Armorlife. Many of us would admit that there were things that they wanted to do but could not due to some compulsion or the other. Like I always wanted to be an astronomer or someone who was associated with Astronomy. Unfortunately, in India during those days(1980s) we did not have much knowledge about this and I did not know what path to pursue. So I finally had to give this thought up and then I wanted to join the Defense. I also had appeared and cleared the entrance tests and exams. But when the final call came in, my parents and family just said no and I had to abide by their decision because I am the eldest son of my family and have to think twice about what impact would my actions have on the others.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Yeah, I'm sure as the first born you have a lot of responsibilities in terms of the repercussions of your action... But now that you're a little older, maybe if you family doesn't depend on you so much... isn't there still a part of you that wants to go back and revisit those dreams? Or are you content now and you've completely let go of those dreams? I thought that I had given up on my dream to be in the media, but the thought always lingered in my mind. Until I felt compelled to go back into it...
@thesids (22359)
• Bhubaneswar, India
1 Sep 10
armorlife, now I am suffering from diseases that force me to stay indoors and am somewhat contended with my current profession as a web developer. But somewhere deep within I still want to turn back the clock and try my luck becoming an Astronomer. I fulfilled my dream of being in the Army when I was assigned to train them on computers and stayed with them at their Academy for 6 months. That was an experience that I would never forget. It only drew me closer to them and I wished if I was younger, I could try getting in even though as a trainer!
• South Africa
1 Sep 10
Gosh, sorry about your situation. But I'm glad that at least you got to find a way to fulfill your army dream. And you know what, you can create new dreams anyway... so keep your head up and conquer the world!
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
30 Aug 10
About the only thing i ever wanted & didn't get was a happy marriage. Other than that i'm pretty happy w/what i have. I'm just sorry i don't have somone to share things with but i have been alone so long it doesn't really bother me anymore. I hope y'all get to do the things u wanted to.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Aaw, I feel sad. I'm sure it's not a nice feeling when time runs out on your dreams. My husband always enjoyed playing volleyball, and he's been wanting to join a club. But now he feels that his age won't allow him to... even though I keep telling him that he can still do it. Don't give up. You know that anything can happen, as long as you're still alive :) All the best.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
31 Aug 10
Sorry, didn't mean to make u feel sad. It use to make me sad to but i got over that a long time ago. Now i tell my friends that are married they make me sooo glad i'm alone, lol. od course your husband should join & play all he wants. Bet it would be good for him. Age hasn't got anything to do w/it tell him, it's his attitude. I bet there are others his age there. I'm 67 , will be 68 in dec. I can't do alot of things on account of bad health but i keep on trucking.. Y'all have a good night.
• South Africa
1 Sep 10
Thanks, I'll tell him. Have a good night too :)
• United States
31 Aug 10
I still want to have children and I haven't yet. My husband and I bought a new house recently and I'm hoping to have them after we get settled in. I'm sure that one will be easy to accomplish.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Yeah, that one should be easy to do... and fun ;) Congrats on your new home
• United States
31 Aug 10
Thank you. :P
• United States
30 Aug 10
Well this one will perhaps be a switch from most other responses. I have to say it is a no on wanting to do and be everything I wanted when I was younger. As a child growing up in the total foster care system. I dreamed big! I wanted to do and and be all. Well I have my lovely kids which I have raised as a single parent, so although I did not get the full sha bang of a family. I did and made the best with my circumstances. I raised them to be wonderful, great, educated, and respectful. I have struggled hard, I have worked harder, I have achieved and lost lost. The one thing missing that I have not been able to accomplish is happiness. Do not get me wrong I live with a wonderful boyfriend. I just find well here is the story, I this year lost a job, a career of 19 yrs, none of us got unemployment and even our last check. Now I am struggling to find a job for almost nine months and well am told I am over qualified. Lost my house of 18 yrs, knee deep in debt and 140k in college loans. So to answer your discussions I did not achieve all of my life triumphs easy I had to burn the midnight oil, and to loose all of it in a snap well shows I have never really attained my happiness. Although one day I will get back on my feet, maybe not fully will I ever achieve the happiness I set out to accomplish in my life. This area for me has me questioning for years.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Ouch, you've certainly gone through a lot of challenges over the years... but I sense a never-give-up spirit in you. Which will certainly lead you to victory in the end. I'll be praying for you to have the strength to keep pushing forward. I'll send you a private message regarding a little of what I do from home. If you're also able to do it, you might make some money to get back on your feet...
• United States
31 Aug 10
So greatly appreciative as of September I will be weeding out a great deal of what I am currently doing as some are a complete waste of time. So yes please send me some suggestions. Yeah!
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
I have always wanted to take photography lessons/ Only that I need to save up to purchase an SLR camera so that I could really have lessons. Then I want to travel the world. If only money isn't much of a need, I would have done it a long time ago. Next would be enrolling myself to hip hop dance. I have always wanted to dance only that I am chubby now and my time hasn't allowed me yet. Maybe next year when I get a vacation leave. I will really enroll myself to one hip hop class and give them my moves. LOL Money and time has always been compromised so maybe one of the reason why I can't do my plans yet because of obligations. But maybe Time wouldn't be that selfish to deprived me from doing all the things that I want to. :D
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Hehe, well time is fair to everyone. It gives everyone exactly 24 hours each day... so I guess it's about prioritising your time and making space for some of the things you want to do. I'm also working on that myself! I suggest you buy some hiphop music videos and start dancing by yourself at home in the meantime while you're saving up for the dance lessons. I think the movie "Honey" with Jessica Alba had a hip-hop dance lesson at the end by the movie's choreographer. Then by the time you start the lessons, you'll already have some moves and you won't be so chubby. But you'll have to give up some mylot time for that :)
• Bulgaria
31 Aug 10
All I ever wanted to become was a non-worrying type of guy,and I was born that way,so It's cool,I also want to be famous,but one at a time :)
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Hahaha! You just made my day! Thanks for sharing. All the best on the number 2 thing on your "very long" list! :)
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
31 Aug 10
have i done everything on my bucket list? certainly not, what fun would that be? i would love to see Paris at some point and next year we are going to go to New York City for a weekend. I would love to go back to school and take writing or art classes. the main thing that prevents me from doing anything is money.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
I'm sure money is the main thing that prevents a lot of people from doing a lot of things... But I'm glad you're doing some things, like the trip to New York city. I think the important thing is to keep doing the things that you can do without a lot of money. As you do them, you're motivated to do other bigger things.
@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Oh myyy, lot of things i do really wanted to do, but those we're all drawn to the wind. I prevented of doing so because of my family. I am the sole breadwinner during my younger years. Just after I graduated high school, i started to work. Until now at my age, I was the one left to look And I believe that everything happens for a reason. But I'm not saying that I'm not happy. I'm happy though there are still some things I really wanted to do. Particularly to travel for leisure. But I'm still hoping time will come for me to do it.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
As long as you don't give up on those dreams, I'm sure that you'll be able to do them at some point. Your family won't always need you... and then you can take some time out for yourself, and live your dreams.
@bloemart (222)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
I missed a lot of things when I was young: I wanted to play outside but my parents didn't me allow to do that; I wanted to learn to drive and ride a bike but I was afraid to do so because I was afraid to get accident; I wanted to play marbles,play cards, and others because my parents told me that is a form of wager and it is bad; I wanted to have girlfriend at my highschool but I couldn't because I was still young. How I wish I could do that and I hope it is not too late for me.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
It's not too late to do any thing... I'm sure you're not still too young to get a girlfriend (unless you're married, which means you had a girlfriend). Find a bunch of kids and play marbles and cards with them... I'm sure they won't mind and they'll probably find you quite cool!
• Indonesia
31 Aug 10
Of course, everybody have that. For me, I really want to finish my college and get a job. But I didnt do that. Since I already have kids and busy at home, I can't do what I want to do. And that's only 1 from 10 of my list.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Aaaw... I'm sorry about that. But I'm sure it's not the end of the road. Kids grow up and leave home. At some point, you'll have you all to yourself again and then you can pursue some of those dreams. Don't give up on them just yet. You can even try studying part time, or maybe even online. It will take longer and more discipline, but it is still a possiblilty. Then you can strike one off your list :)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Personally, I don't think that's possible because I keep on wanting to take on something new once I'm done with one task. I try to get around to doing the things that truly make me happy everyday, some are easy enough to accomplish within 24 hours and some take so much more time. When I was twelve, I had the opportunity to study in London for three weeks but I didn't go because my friends weren't coming, I really regret that now. If I go to London one of these days, I'm sure the experience wouldn't be the same as the experience I could have had when I was twelve. I think one of the factors that prevented me from doing certain things in the past that could have changed my life greatly is fear. I was so afraid of the possibility of failing that I wasn't driven enough by the equal possibility of succeeding.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Well it's a good thing that you recognize what stopped you. So I'm sure that now you can go ahead and do some of the things you wanted to do before. When I was young, I had an opportunity to travel to Germany to act in a movie. But my mother wouldn't allow me to go. I know it would have certainly changed my life... I just don't know if it 's for good or bad...
@Libertywu (138)
• China
31 Aug 10
I'm 24 years old, two years after graduation from university. The thing i wanna to do is to have my further education in London. It's my dream. I don't know whether i have chance in the following few years. But i really really wanna to do it as soon as possible.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
You're still young, and I'm sure that you will get the opportunity. I think you should look for scholarships, bursaries, etc to study what you want to in London. You never know what might come up. There are a lot of opportunities out there if you search... All the best!
@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
31 Aug 10
Have I done everything I've wanted to do? Not by a long shot. I wanted to publish a book (still hoping on that one), join the Peace Corp, learn sign language, learn other languages, learn how to play a musical instrument, travel to New York, Europe, New Zealand, Israel, see a Broadway show (well, I saw one on tour, but I mean see it on Broadway). Most of the things I just never got around to doing or just never had the opportunity. Don't have the money for travel. I do know a little sign language but could never find a class to learn it fluently. Never had the discipline to learn a musical instrument.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Hehe, seems like you're a big dreamer, but you're also your own dream-crasher. Which is good in a way because you have the power to go and get your dreams at any time with no-one to stop you (but yourself...LOL). Oh, one thing that you, me and my husband have in common is the desire to publish a book. Tell me when you've done it... and I'll tell you when I've done it. How's that?
• China
31 Aug 10
Of course not. The things which I want all the way is to travel the world. But so far, so many place I have not travelled, and so little place I had gone. I am still young, I will go on to realize my dreaming all all life.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Yes, I'm sure you'll still be able to accomplish that dream. Start by taking any opportunity that comes up to travel anywhere... even if it is to a town in your country you've never been to before. Create a travel bank account and put a little something in it every month... before you know it, you'll have enough to take a trip somewhere further...
@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
well, im 34 and i havent got much time to do what i wanted in life though im taking it one step at a time and cherishing every moment for the things that i've done that makes me happy
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Ok, I don't get what you mean by you haven't much time to do what you want... you're only 34, you're still a spring-chicken! I'm sure you can start now reviving your dreams and make some of them come true...
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
I'm 23, I have always wanted to go to Disneyland with my parents and my brother. Seriously, that is what I really wanted to do. I want to spend time with them in another country without anything to worry about. At the age of 23, we have never been to another country together ever. I have not been to another country at all. This may be a child thing for my age and my brother(19) but it's one dream somehow impossible to achieve right now. Because, we don't have that much money, my brother is still studying, my parents are too busy. This is just a simple thing, just simple dream. I still want it to happen and I'll never get tired to dream that it will come true someday, no matter what my age is.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Yes, I'm sure it's a dream that can come true no matter how old you are. Although it's a childhood dream, I'm sure when circumstances change, you can still make it come true. I don't think anyone can be "too old" to visit Disneyland :)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
I've always wanted to star in a musical play. I was never given a chance to even try to audition or go for a workshop because I chose to prioritize my studies. It's perfectly fine, though. I love what I have become. I can still sing, anyway.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Well, now that your studies are over, why don't you find a way to get an audition in a musical? Maybe start with something small, and work your way up. Do it for fun for starters. I'm sure as you do it for fun, an opportunity will arise to make some money from it too :)
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@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
30 Aug 10
My husband and I haven't talked much about things we want to do. We want to visit Texas that is one thing, but I am sure we will get around to doing that at some point in our life. We want to get our own place, and we're working on ways to do that. I still need to get a job and we need to talk to the friends we plan on going in with to get the place... I just have my permit, I was late getting it because of procrastiantion, non motivation among the fact that I had to talk to the DMV to get things straigthened out. Well now I have my permit and I just need to wait to get my license.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Well, I guess getting your permit is a good start. I think what might help is if you start putting a definite timeframe to some of the things you want to do. From my experience, that that you plan to do "at some point in your life" never get done. Hope that helps :) All the best.
@zeethegr8 (786)
• India
30 Aug 10
I'm just 22 and getting over with my post-graduation. Quite a number of things I have done, many remain. Like marriage, kids, cars, travel the world, make money etc. I'm just starting in life.
• South Africa
31 Aug 10
Aaah, I remember when I was that age! The world is your oyster and there's no end to the possibilities! I wish you all the best for the future. I hope you accomplish everything you want to do. Don't give up on your dreams :)