Introducing your bf to your family

@hanagi (391)
Philippines
August 31, 2010 3:58am CST
I have a problem and it is about introducing my boyfriend to my family. I am afraid that my parents would not like him. My parents are very conservative and I don't know how they would react. The last time I introduce someone to them they asked me to break with my boyfriend. Now I am afraid to do it. My boyfriend is someone I know they would not like much but I don't know what to do... Hope you could give me some advice.
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
31 Aug 10
I also had the same problem when I introduced my boy friend to my parents. They are very conservative and me and my boy friend where very nervous about how my parents would take it. But, nothing bad happened. My boy friend acted in a very nice way and was able to convince my parents. He even wrote a card to them and got a small gift for them. You can tell your boy friend to behave very nice to them.
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@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
31 Aug 10
hanagi, In the first place, did you find out what your parents' objections were with your previous boyfriend? I am sure as any loving parent, they just want the best for their child - like you. Your parents must have sensed that there might be something very wrong with him and as such the intervention. Your parents may be protective but you have to remember that they've experienced more than you. They would be very hurt if you had suffered due to their lapse. So, don't guess anymore - seek for the answers. Have a nice day.
@GemmaR (8526)
31 Aug 10
I was really nervous when I introduced my boyfriend to my parents as well. You should let them meet him in passing first of all- for example if he was to pick you up from there house, you could just introduce each other, but don't organise anything more formal until you're sure he's the one for you. Once you are, try inviting him round for watching television with your family or something. Nothing formal, just a nice quiet evening where there's the TV to watch if the conversations fall silent- which they will naturally do with people who are only just meeting for the first time.
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• Philippines
20 Sep 10
frankly to say that i have a lots of boyfriend but i never been introducing them to my family.cause my family are so very strick so im so sorry if i cant give some advice..
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
1 Sep 10
Hi Hanagi, Well it doesn't say how old you are in your profile but I am assuming that you are still very young and living at home? I'm a parent and I have to tell you that I did not like some of the boyfriends that my girls brought home either. The reason for that is that I could see that they were not right for them. I did not make them break up with them but I was honest when they asked what I thought of them. Then I had faith that sooner or later they would see them for what they were or that the guys would somehow prove me to be wrong. Now back to you. You seem to be very sure that your parents won't like this guy. I'm curious as to why. What is it about him that they won't like. I think you should have a talk with your parents before bringing him over. Let them know that if he is not worthy of being with you then you will figure it out and they have to trust in your judgment and respect your choices.
@jhyan007 (467)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
...in my own opinion, it would still be best to introduce him to your family...personally, when me and my girlfriend just started dating, and she introduce me to her family, it was not as nice as I expect it would turn out..in fact there are times that her family wants to separate us apart..but I am proud we were able to surpass all those challenging days..i just did my best and prove to her parents that I am worthy of becoming their daughter's boyfriend...later I realize, I become a part of their family..isn't it nice if yours will turn out that way as well?
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
For me take time to your mother until you can say in the time that they feel good you what time is to your mother it is the time to tell.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
I was so afraid to introduce my boyfriend to my family..I even didn't introduce him to my parents not until he has met my siblings. I really think that my parents would not like him because of a lot of factors and my parents are kinda picky on boyfriend issues so it took me a long time to introduce my bf to my parents. I worries were actually wrong because my parents didn't say anything bad when they first met my bf.. So i suggest you have to try, there's no harm in trying and you can never know how your parents may feel not unless you introduce them.. If they don't approve with your bf try to talk to them and let them understand. If you really love your bf then fight for him :)
@Absinto (2398)
• Portugal
1 Sep 10
Well first of all you should talk to your parents, tell them you have a boyfriend and tell them reasons why they would like him. Ask them what they would think about meeting him. Then talk to you boyfriend about your parents, tell him how they are and what to expect. It is easier when you have everything prepared. Hope everything works out for you :P
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
the decision to introduce your boyfriend to your parents is a big step. It means your relationship is teetering toward commitment and it's time to see if your special guy is going to get along with your family. If your family has any quirks or thickly subjects let your boyfriend know beforehand. Let your parents know about your boyfriend. It will pave the way for decent small talk and avoid awkward missteps. Tell your boyfriend how to act with your parents and have open communication with him and have a plan how to do that.
@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
First of all do your parents know that you have a boyfriend already? I think that's the best way to let them know first that you really love your bf. Secondly when you are going to present him, make sure that he looks his best and always tell him just to be respectful, nice and be himself. Of course he is just as nervous as you are. Also parents really just take some time to accept that their child is in love with someone. Just don't forget that they do care and love you too.
• Portugal
31 Aug 10
ohh why you say they wouldnt like him much? :( is he like those gangster guys? well i dont think is bad to like him bcs me too i liked guys like this ahah^^ their heart is what matters if they love us^^ or maybe he is not much polite? well whatever he has that you think your parents wont like tell them you love him^^ they have to accept him bcs he makes you happy so they should be happy for it^^ as long as he loves you its all ok^^ dont be nervous and show him to your parents :) maybe they will like him^^ and if they dont its ok bcs with time they will like him when they see he really loves you^^
@mlhervas (482)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Talk to your boyfriend about it. It is important to have an open communication in a relationship. Tell him what is bothering you then maybe both of you could come up with a solution to your problem. How old are you anyways? If you are still underage, then you definitely have to respect the wishes of your parents. It is not that they always know what is best for your heart. It is because you are too young yet for a serious relationship. But if you are old and mature enough that you could feed yourself and have a decent work then by all means don't be afraid to introduce your boyfriend. You are matured enough to handle matter of your personal life.