Guys meeting gals and the way that times have changed.

Canada
September 1, 2010 9:08am CST
Isn't it sad how sometimes a guy can't even buy a gal drink without them saying; Hey, are you trying pick me up, or what?"...or... How sad it is that a guy can't even whistle at a gal without her getting upset? Have times changed so much that there is so much FEAR out there, that guys and gals can't randomly meet without someone thinking that they might just need to defend themselves? I miss the "old ways" when guys were gentlemen and women were ladies. Not that some of us aren't, but it doesn't seem to be the same any more. Have we come so far as to FEAR that much? cd
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@commanderxo (1496)
• Canada
1 Sep 10
I'm with you on this one. Now...can I get you a nice fresh iced coffee? cdrxo
• Canada
1 Sep 10
I just love the way you make the iced coffee you really put all your self into it.I guess that's why it tastes so gooood. cd
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
1 Sep 10
Anybody could offer me a nice iced bourbon right about now and I'd accept it without hesitation! I just went to the hospital this morning for some last-minute tests and instructions for Friday.
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
1 Sep 10
How the heck did I earn the No. 1 spot in relationships?????
@jillhill (37386)
• United States
1 Sep 10
I wonder if they are that leary how they will ever find anyone. It is a shame that the world has come to this....truly a shame.
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• Canada
1 Sep 10
I really agree with you about that it's shame people can't get along guys or girls I guess it's going come to point that people are going have the their boys match up with girls in freinds family.pick out bride or groom. cd
@pjdirect (15)
• Australia
1 Sep 10
Daisy , totally agree as a married man of 10 years now my self and my wife will go to a bar and buy a drink for male or female well ust to these days if we did something like that it would look like we would be trying to pick up
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• Canada
1 Sep 10
I totally agree with you it's really sad I got friends that will buy me a drink and then I hear other people talking itn't so sad people can't buy a person a drink these days and that's only coffee!!! what if I went in a bar...they would really talk.I like it when was like 10yrs a go people were ok. cd
@voldrox (7205)
• India
1 Sep 10
Absolutely! I am young but i guess others see me as an old fashioned person. Whatever, i am proud of the way i am. I don't like the developments these days. Teenagers are getting pregnant and what not. It's like the fear is all gone, and we are more open. Open relationships, changing partners and what not.. frequent breakups, increasing divorce cases too. This world, is it turning too fast for me now? These days, loosing virginity has become an issue of much lesser importance. How sad.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
2 Sep 10
Depends oh how you see that whistling. People whistle for their dogs and some people feel that they're not a dog. Given that many women are called a female name for a dog, you can see how people's minds might go there. It's about time guys feared something. I overhear them saying things they'd like to do to women's bodies all the time in public and loud enough for a lot of women to hear (men in my area go hunting, have atv, engage in loud activities or jobs like construction and forget the rest of us can hear) Every woman who dates takes her life in her hands, look at Unsolved Mysteries, 48 Hours, and alll these shows. I miss the old days when a woman could go out on a date with a Chaperone so she didn't have to worry about getting beaten up, raped, held hostage, tortured and murdered. That's all you seem to see on tv whether on the news or on shows these days. But at some point, you have to stop double-dating or going with a chaperone. It's not just Ladies and Gentlemen, it's respect for the other person/person's body that is missing.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Actually on the whistle thing, I would not be flattered at any time then or now if somebody would be whistling just to catch a woman's attention... it simply is not a sign of respect for ladies here in the Philippines. But I do agree with you on some parts where a guy and a girl can't be meeting each other anymore on the streets and talk without the other being too cautious or defensive of something that they are expecting to "come" their way. It must be because times have really changed and talking to "strangers" are not only a thing for the kids - it is as much as important for adults especially young ladies nowadays!
@pinkfray (24)
2 Sep 10
the way i was brought up my parents instilled in me fear of getting too physically close to a stranger. perhaps it's in my asian culture? add to that, i've seen a lot of violence on tv. there's always something bad going on somewhere, and often facts are contorted to "make the story more interesting". so going out with friends, we'd always have to be on the look out, always expecting something grave to happen. but i guess it's just the way it is only because there's a reason to fear. i don't know if this is relevant, but i guess with more [insurance companies] and whatnot out there, there's a greater emphasis on security.
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
1 Sep 10
I think there's more fear out there because morals have changed so drastically for the majority. A lot has to do with the ever-increasing crime rate and I blame that on all this BS "political correctness", don't DARE offend the offender! They have more rights than their victims. Children are allowed to get away with almost anything these days, especially in school. Teachers aren't allowed to discipline kids like they used to and, if they do, they risk being arrested for child abuse or molestation. Yeah, it's turned into a pretty fearful society. I'm kinda glad I'm a card-carrying member of the Old Fart's Club because I wouldn't want to be young and trying to deal with all this. As I stand, if someone smiles at me, I don't automatically think they're up to something. I smile right back, then go on my merry way. If someone offered to buy me a drink, and I actually wanted one, I'd thank them and ask if I could do the same for them. Part of my, uhh, "problem" is that I've always been too trusting. I suppose I'll die that way, too. Let's just hope that's a LONG way off.
• United States
1 Sep 10
hi crazydaisy, times sure have changed. nowadays alot of men are not gentlemen and do not have honorable intentions, if you know what i mean. some of them just want to hook up. if they do want to date or marry a woman, sometimes they view her as a means of financial support. i know the women's liberation movement has changed alot of things, but i would still rather deal with weird men than being completely dependent on my husband because of not being allowed to work, or not being allowed to vote, or own property. in relationships, i feel like we can only go forwards, not backwards. just my opinion. take care. happy mylotting.
• United States
1 Sep 10
CD- It's good to see you gal! I'm not old enough to know some of the flair from the 50's and 60's, but after reading a book by Anton LaVey about proper outings for a gal, I must say I do like it! There is nothing wrong with a gentleman buying a drink for a woman. I sort of wish I could catch more men's eyes, it would save me monies when dining out lol. And what a sense of womanhood and power to be able to turn a man's head without even looking at him. I've been reading over the last year as much as I can find on the Geisha, and it is said her true power comes from being able to catch a man's attention without making the effort. She is literally a living work of art. I believe that Western women can be this as well if they would allow it and not become so upset over the attention. Namaste-Anora