When is love going wrong?
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
September 1, 2010 2:44pm CST
As the many people are saying, love is the best thing to happen in ones life. Since, you feel the love, it will be easy for you to do all things.
However, there are times, if you have and feel the love, this sometimes go wrong. As in you go on over protective. Aside from that, there are times, people becoming selfish, hence, they dont want to share their love to others. Due to these reasons, love goes wrong.
How about you, do you have any idea when love is going wrong? Would you like to share it for us, so we can prevent and take the necessary precaution before its late.
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19 responses
@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
1 Sep 10
love goes wrong when you dont respect yourself anymore and do just what other person wants you to do. Then this is not love anymore. this is obsession. is like you do all just to dont lose that person and dont mind to be humiliated over and over again as long as that person doesnt leave your side. love is respect ourselves also. sure we love other person and do all for them but they also must do the same otherwhise we will just get hurt and end with nothing but a sad life.
@jodyangelann (39)
• United States
1 Sep 10
This is so very true. You should never lose yourself in someone else's identity. If someone want you to only what they allow you to do, then they do not love you at all. When someone loves you they love you for who you are.
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@sweetloveforeve (13107)
• Portugal
2 Sep 10
thanks jody and zeeth ^^ is just that sadly some people humiliate themselves so much and those people dont even appreciate what you do sometimes. like me i had this best friend and i even got humiliated by a girl he loved she said a lie about me and even after he ignored me before and all that happened i still was sweet to him and he didnt defend me bcs was in love with her. and he doubted when i said i didnt do something and she said i did. he doubted about my word. even after i care so much for him and people said things like i was a stalker and so much bad happened to me bcs i loved him and still i was sweet to him and he just ignored me and was mean to me :( we must never forget ourselves. thats why i stopped to talk to him. then i thought i can forget all and be friends with him again. i sent him a message and he didnt answer it. for now i decided i wont talk with him ever again. is sad to accept that someone we loved so much are like this but he was the one losing bcs i truly loved him and he didnt care at all. also those that said i was his stalker just i cared for him and we used to talk always and i didnt understand why he was changing his attitude so i wanted know why and put things like before so i used to go talk with him when i saw him. thats why i say we must care for others but never get humiliated. even we lived far, we met in a chat, i cared for him and he and many people were bad to me. so for now i wont forget myself and wont let noone humiliate me again.
@pinhornudo (437)
• Brazil
2 Sep 10
Well, I have two ideas... One that creates variables.
And dependent on the result of the first, comes the second.
The first idea is: Try to have a conversation like grown up persons and so, put some FIRE on this love. And if it give good results, good. But if it don't make any results, is better to break up, or both will end this bad, bad. Would hurt any more if the situations goes worse.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
2 Sep 10
Hi airashelia,
Love, sometimes, does go wrong. What can we do about it when it does go wrong? Well, we can try to fix it, but if that attempt doesn't work, we have to accept the fact that it is over and move on to a better place in our lives.
There is not guaranteed prevention plan to put into place to save a relationship. You do your very best, while the relationship is going well, to assure that it will remain a healthy one.
Remember, you don't have the mind of your partner. You may think things are great when the partner is unhappy and wants to move on.
We can't hold on to a bird that want to fly; setting it free is the right thing to do.
@luukimlong2000 (658)
• Vietnam
2 Sep 10
In thi opinion, love is the wonderful thing, When one's in love, he or she will try to do the best to the other, so, I think everyone should protect the love and always refresh their love, share ideas, feeling, always motivate other, I am always protect and love my girlfriend. Hope everyone will happy with the love.
@Yoneh08 (99)
•
2 Sep 10
Love goes wrong when the disagrement takes place betwen the couple. A lot of couples break out because of a simple conflict or silly missjudgement. However, and as far as I'm concerned, we should focus on strenghting the relation instead of looking for what is wrong and what is not: A strong relation can not be easily destroyed, it lasts for ever, simply because it is build on trust,respect & comprehension, We have to know each other, we have to feel each other and to go with the "mecanism" of each other.This the only way to prove that love is true, and to "prevent" ourselves from all kind of "wrong stuff" which we can't avoid.
have a nice day.
@zeethegr8 (785)
• India
2 Sep 10
Love is not true and everlasting unless both of the lovers actually stick with each other through thick and thin, if they do believe that they truly are made for each other. Also it is important not to lose your own identity in the process of loving someone.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Sep 10
Love is the best thing that can happen to anyone on this planet. However there are a few things that you must use your brain to handle and not allow the heart to take over. I have seen many people who have been love-struck and in that they stop or seem to neglect the other things that they should have been doing. Consider this - I had a case where the boy just stopped reading when he was at college and fell in love. You should not ignore the fact that you are a human and have other things to accomplish too.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
2 Sep 10
sometime we feel that love is going wrong...... this is a thing that no one like to happen with their love.... i think it happen because of the our over care towards some one......... we have to measure the love to different people according to their place in our life... but when we start loving some one we fail to do so ...... i think that is the problem which lead to the wrong with our love..........
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Love goes wrong when you get to possessive with each other,.. choking each other and taking away each others freedom.., that will result to arguments which will threaten the foundation of a relationship.. everything should be in moderation...=)
@rautrahul (267)
• India
2 Sep 10
Our loved one is our shelter in life. When this person is unavailable & unresponsive we are assailed by the a tsunami of emotions, sadness, anger, hurt & above all fear. This fear is wired in. We know from all the hundreds of studies on love that have merged during the past decade that emotinal responsiveness is what makes or break love relationships. If we are in a wobbly relationship & are not sure how to voice our need, we either angrily demand & try to push our partner into responding, or we shut down & move away to protect ourselves.This is how the love relationship breaks up.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
2 Sep 10
When it is one-sided, it has gone wrong, when it is abusive, it has gone wrong, and when it is selfish, it has truly gone wrong. When you can't love someone, just to love them, then you shouldn't love them or be in love with them because your hurting them and eventually hurting yourself.
@ladygator (3465)
• United States
1 Sep 10
Love is a wonderful thing, I think that it really is more to be said that Love and not Money makes the world go wrong. Now with that being said there are many different degrees and types of love. But the real Agape love means just love without any motives behind it. When it comes to that kind there should not be any issues that would make the love go wrong. I think the the over protect part there usually are some small indicators that this will become an issue eventually. If the other person seems to rely heavily on knowing where you are or what you are doing early in the dating. Or the other person just seems to not care a bunch about your feelings or if they have offended you or just seem to not care about your interests and only talk about themselves. But when real love comes along it is worth the wait and is the best thing that happens to you.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
They say that there is right love at the wrong time. And others also said that love is always right it's the way how people handle things or love that make it wrong. I think love really differs when you try to seek the true essence of it. Love can only be wrong if you used it in a wrong kind of way.
When the one you love tried to influence you in doing something wrong or destructive about your self or future, it's safe to say that love is surely going wrong. When you kill someone because of jealousy then it is really wrong.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Love goes wrong when you are too confident and secure about it. All right you two love each other so much, decided to tie the knot and build a family. Your life, like almost everybody's life, goes in a topsy turvy relationship but you are still together, still feeling such love.There's nothing impossible, so it seems.
Until, one day, you realized you wanted something new.Out of ordinary, a thrill, a suspense. And you went out there looking for that. Thinking that no matter and wherever you go, therre's a home you can come back to because you feel such home with much love and security. However, you did enjoy so much the thrill out there that you forgot there's a human soul waiting for you to come home. You ignored, and went on.
For the one waiting for you, she/he got tired of waiting and decided to shut the door for you for good.
Do not take for granted love because it isn't perfect. It could also go wrong especially when abused...
La la love,:)
@Danzylop (1120)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Love means respect. When you disrespect a person that is no longer fall under love.
If you love a person, you have to respect his freedom, his decision and his personality.
When you become selfish, and you deprived him of his freedom and accuse him of many things, that makes it no longer love.
