There is difference between love and marriage

India
September 2, 2010 3:16am CST
Friends just now I received this in a mail forwarded to me, I really like this, hence sharing with you all. Love is holding hands in the street. Marriage is holding arguments in the street. Love is cuddling on a sofa. Marriage is one of them sleeping on a sofa. Love is talking about having children. Marriage is talking about getting away from children. Love is going to bed early. Marriage is going to sleep early Love is losing your appetite. Marriage is losing your figure. Love is sweet nothing in the ear. Marriage is sweet nothing in the bank. Tv has no place in love. Marriage is a fight for remote control. Love is 1 drink and 2 straws. Marriage is "Don't you think you've had enough The conclusion: "Love is blind, Marriage is an eye opener!" Well I am happily married since last 45 years, I never had premarital love affair, but I have seen the world in the past 65 years. I can say, you can buy a woman, not a wife; you can buy a house, not a home. A happily married man or woman has a ‘home sweet home’ always.So what is your view on love, marriage and a happy family? Add your thoughts too. Professor
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• Philippines
2 Sep 10
The quote you just shared about love and marriage depends on people. But as for what the author defined marriage is somewhat i can still call "worldly" because it is too shallow and it does not last because it was patterned in this world and not based on the Word of God. The sanctity of marriage is what both the couples agreed in the eyes of God and man (as their witness). But most couples don't give a d*mn on their relationship with God and that is why they break their human relationship as well. Most of what the author quoted on marriage is exactly the opposite of what me and my hubby is sharing because we both have high reverence to God far above than our own. God is love, He created it, He shared it with His creation and marriage is a responsibility you give not to your own, but to your other half, your beloved. You both help each other, love each other, protect each other and care for each other, and most importantly, you don't leave your beloved behind. It is how people handle, manage and nurture their love for each other and how they deal to solve their marital problems. But most importantly, you are both together because God is in between that bond, when you exchange vows at the altar. I speak what I do believe about love and marriage and if my opinion is opposite of what others believe, i respect that. Life is short, love the more. Don't give room for hate and jealousy and negative things that will not enrich yourself and your relationship with God. I want to share one of my favorite verses in the scripture about love and it is in 1Corinthians 13:4-8 it says "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
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• Philippines
30 Nov 10
Thanks for the BR Professor, Have a pleasant day!
• India
15 Nov 10
Thank you so much for the wonderful and detailed response lol.It is the BEST. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
• India
3 Sep 10
Hello my friend Professor2010 Ji, WEll, with due apolozy from everyone here, we understand taht botth have different angle of approach and differ by leaps and bound. They are at daggers drawn type. Their aim is different. Marriage was introduced for survival of man-kind. Love has no such goals. We too are married since 41 yrs and have no problem till date. There is no comparison with marriage and Love. One is Night and day. If marriage takes place afterLove, it is mostly failure befor Night comes. Take care. May God bless You and have a great time.
• India
11 Dec 10
Hello my friend Professor2010 Ji, I apolize for my delay to tahnk you for positive coments. I feel Love should never be biased, whereas the very purposeb of marriage is with some goal to keep humans alive. May God bless You and have a great time.
• India
15 Nov 10
In my city most love marriages were failures, but arranged marriages are 100% sucessful.. Thank you so much for your opinion Mrs Mishra. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
2 Sep 10
Some of this I go with but you have to work at a maraige and come together on most of what you want out of it. MArriage is to work as a team on all things if one pulls the wrong way it can go sour. I had 42 year with my 2nd uhbby for we worked as a team still would be if he was alive and I would have had 48 years with him and I still beleive I do as he is around in spirit!
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• India
15 Nov 10
This shows how much you loved each other, you are right, his spirit is with you!! Thank you so much. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
15 Nov 10
yes thanks and your welcome
@sminut13 (1783)
• Singapore
15 Nov 10
hi professor, it's really interesting to see the differences between love and marriage and although it might not be the case for most, i think there are some people who might agree with if not all, at least some of them hehe. 'love is blind, marriage is an eye opener.' in a way, that is well said in my personal opinion. but what you said makes a lot of sense as well. so i guess, it's as someone said in an earlier post. marriage is what or how you make it. well i think that's roughly how it was said, though not exactly. but for a marriage to be successful, there should not only be love, but trust and understanding as well i feel. those are like the main ingredients to a good and happy marriage i feel. and it's not just one sided, but both should feel the same.
• India
15 Nov 10
Welcome to my discussions friend.. Thank you so much for response. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
dear professor, your friend's description is funny! basically, love is pure emotion, also a feeling at the same time. it is almost impossible to concretely define love but most people can regard it as the sum of all feelings, emotions and experiences that show a deep or strong sense of affection towards something or someone, may it be an individual or a group of individuals. It is clearly more than friendship, for it is an enduring experience of want and care towards somebody else. when you are in love, you are not obligated to undergo marriage, for it is a choice and not a requirement, although, most societies end (or actually begin) love with marriage. but not all marriages end up as a result of love, as in the case of fixed marriages. even if love is one of the primary factors to be considered in a marriage, there are still a few couples who get married even without love. marriage is more of a civil status. It is the event in which a couple officially becomes married. this activity gives more meaning to love, and dictates a lasting commitment or contract between the two parties. marriage is practically dependent on culture, and it is usually a union between a man and a woman, although not physically. have a great day. ann
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@tigeraunt (6326)
• Philippines
16 Nov 10
very welcome
• India
15 Nov 10
Beautiful response Anny dear Thank you so much for sharing in details. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
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@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Sep 10
I love all of those comparisions that you've shared, but I have to admit that the vast majority of them don't apply to me as a married woman. My husband and I have been married for six years now and we've been together for nine years. We do have a very happy marriage and a happy home. In fact, in nine years there have only been a couple of times that we've ever fought with each other. We do occasionally talk about getting away from the children but that is because I'm with at least one of them all the time and I really need a break.
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• India
15 Nov 10
Thank you so much. I am happy to know you are happy with your husband. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
• United States
2 Sep 10
There shouldn't be a difference between love and marriage. If you love a person, then marry them. That's how it should be. If you don't love that person, then why marry them?
• India
15 Nov 10
Thank you so much rogue. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
3 Sep 10
Well my Marriage was like the one said here no matter what I tried the Ex Husband was not interested in making it work 6 years ago after 21 Years I ended the Marriage including the Abuse Now I have Love and I have never known anything like it I always say a marriage is what you make of it and as long as both of you work at it
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• India
15 Nov 10
Thank you so much for sharing gabs. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
4 Sep 10
My dear Professor what you say is very...very true I was married twice...once for 16/2 years and another for 20 years...now I Am 65 and live on my own I will never regret my marriages...but you know what? I Am the happiest I have ever been! I do not think marriage was good for me I tried and I can't say I fail because I did not fail in any way as far as I Am concerned. Any way I have 4 children and 2 grand children and I Am happy with that. May be marriage was not for me after all!
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• India
15 Nov 10
Thank you so much for details.Some times destiny is cruel. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
2 Sep 10
Wow that was nice :) I think that for a marriage to work both parts have to be on the same page. Of course i also believe that people should only get married if they are actually in love and not for other secondary reasons.
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• India
15 Nov 10
I agree.. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
• Indonesia
3 Sep 10
i think locve and marriage is same story meby where the wich way what are u looking for if we love someone we must keep our wife and guard them until we die..because we all know what true love
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• India
15 Nov 10
Welcome to mylot and my discussions.. Thank you so much. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
2 Sep 10
There is a great difference between love and marriage. Love is an emotion and feeling we have for another person. it is a commitment of your heart to another person. The joy of love is greatest when it is returned to you. Marriage is a union between two hearts. it is the joing of two people who want to share their lives and futures together. You can have love without marriage and still be happy. if you have a marriage without love, there is not true happiness in your life.
• India
15 Nov 10
I agree with your views sender Thank you so much for sharing. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
• India
4 Sep 10
HERBERT SPENCE had said this in his Autobiography: If men were wise they would see that the affection that God has implanted in us is amply sufficient, when not weakened by artificial aid, to ensure permanence of union; and if they would have more faith in this all would go well. To tie together by human law what God has tied together by passion, is about as wise as it would be to chain the moon to the earth lest the natural attraction existing between them should not be sufficient to prevent them flying asunder.
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• India
15 Nov 10
I agree with you friend. Thank you so much. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@xandavon (102)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
Marriage is a state. Love is an emotion. In order for marriage to work, you need love. So both are different but works well together
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• India
15 Nov 10
Yes it is lol Thank you so much. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome to mylot.
@eurekafemme (5877)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Hello again, Prof.:) I love this , too. Thank you for sharing this with us.Despite of the many not so good things I've experienced about love and marriage, I still believe in both.:) but, based on experience "Love is a beginning of a hope of having a beautiful life together with that someone you love whilst marriage is the end to that hope...." Isn't it pathetic, Prof, to have this kind of mind set? I hope one day I can say that "love paves the way to a girl's fairytale:and they live happily ever after, whilst marriages leads the way to make the fairytale come true.":)
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• India
15 Nov 10
Hi eurekafemme I am sure your hope will be fulfilled soon.. Thank you so much. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@advokatku (4033)
• Indonesia
2 Sep 10
love is the beginning of everything, while marriage is a form of real love because in a marriage always there blessing from God
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• India
15 Nov 10
Thank you so much for sharing Advokatku. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
Love leads to to marriage or should I say happy marriage. When two people are in love, they get married. Once they decide to get married, they are both aware of the things that they are suppose to work out on how to make their marriage happy and successful.
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• India
15 Nov 10
Thank you so much for sharing your opinion. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@johnpillai (2082)
• Germany
2 Sep 10
Your stuff is interesting. Mine is love marriage. At the moment I have no possitive attitude about love. one should learn to control love affair. It is just a matter of pleasure. We should learn to enjoy the pleasure in jenuin ways. But we have a great task in marriage life. We should bring up our children in a happy family. To make a happy family as a mother, as a wife i have lost "I" more than 10 years. Making a happy family is the MOTOR of my family. I am ready to sacrifice anything for my target. I totally my children will also follow me.I wm sure they will also make happy family.
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• India
15 Nov 10
Mrs Pillai i am sure your children will also make happy family. Thank you so much for response. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
2 Sep 10
This mail is very interesting and reasonable,to be fact,i have read one parallel artcle in the qq space of my friends last year when i was fall in love with my ex bf. one years later,our emotion break when i talk about the time of marriage seriously but he keep silence.so that this fact make me severely realize that there is a long way between love and marriage.when you with your bf(gf),the more you aspire the marriage,the less reap you gain. As we know,we all will marry with perfect partner under the intense love.but there are two concepts much diffirents between both in our generation.everything we can't last forever,who could carry out their promise when they are in love. So what we can do maybe is that share and enjoy the nice feeling when we are encounter the both.
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• India
15 Nov 10
Welcome to my discussion and mylot friend.. Are you married now? Thank you so much. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
2 Sep 10
It was great reading the description between love and marriage. I like them. This is very true. Love and marriage are two different things. When we are in love, we lose our sleep just thinking about the man we love so much. However, after marriage, we try to sleep early to get away from the other party. When we are in love, everything is in the sweet stage. Marriage is a whole new level. I am only 20, and an unable to compare with you in terms of experience. But, I have seen many of my relatives that gone through marriage and then a divorce after that. It does make me wonder what is the purpose of marriage when we have the option of divorcing after that. However, I still do believe in marriage. Getting married to the love we love so much is a blessing. When we are married, we are a complete person, never the lock without the key. All the things mention are part and parcel of marriage, we have to go through them. And I believe that I will marry the love of my life, to go through all the ups and downs with me in my life.
• India
15 Nov 10
Welcome to my discussions dream Thank you so much for sharing your opinion. Professor. . Cheers have a great day ahead. God bless you. Welcome always.