whats wrong with my guy friend?

United States
September 2, 2010 6:32pm CST
(i know this is a little stupid but i want to know) I have know my guy firend for 9 years he is 22 6'1 and 199lb(i just turn 21 aug29) i'm 21 and 5'3 and 145 for years we would some time play and joke around and he would sit of my lap and try to "beat" me up, he would do this when ever, when he is with or without someone but he is single now and i have never sat on him so we were joking around and this time i sat on him but he shove he off like i was gross or something i thougt it was wierd casue he sit on me for year and the one time i do it he shove me off like i'm gross can any one help me? i'm not trying to get with him or nothing like that i just thoug it was odd. i have asked him whats wrong but he didn't say anything.
8 responses
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
no offense but i think you need to be mature. since you're 21 even though you are best friends with a guy it still isn't nice to just sit on his lap. For instance, both of you are fine with that but if other people sees that they might not approve of it and might think wrongly of you. I think your guy friend was shocked of what you did since to say that it was the first time you did this and you're such a grown lady. maybe for him it was unexpected or might even thought maliciously out of it. don't shock your guy friend! lol! he might get a heart attack. I hope you two are both okay now. ^.^
• United States
7 Sep 10
its cool that you told me you opion but don't come on here jugeing me he is way oldder then i'm and do the same thing i'm tired people at like i'm doing more wrong just casue i'm a girl i wasn't siting on him like a girl firend that would be ridicolus.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
I'm sorry that it seems that I offended you, but you stated that you sat on his lap. So, please understand all of us that got the wrong impression. anyway, if you just place a leg on his lap, that would look unfeminine too. my comment is still the same.. Maybe he wasn't used seeing you like that, since as you say you only did it for the first time. and might thought maliciously about it and since he is your good pal he was shocked out of it. I'm sorry again. happy mylotting! ^.^
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
3 Sep 10
hi, as i think,you both are so younger that especially for you don't consider some apprehensions about the difference of female friend and gf. I never touch with malefriends so closely like you,let alone sit of malefriends lap.so you guy friend maybe would feel embarassing and shame,this act will make us mistake that you are lovers.......so,friends,don't do so intimate action with your guy friends on sake of that he is not your bf.
• United States
3 Sep 10
i didn't sit on his lap like a girlfirend it was more of my legs ihe do that do me all the time so i didn't think it was a big deel.
@jenny1015 (13394)
• Philippines
8 Dec 12
Maybe he just don't want you to be doing it to him. Either he feels you should not be doing it or maybe he thinks that someone might see the two of you and think that you are lovers.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 10
Girl sitting on guy lap at those age of 21 years may be too sexually to be handled by the dude.Maybe he consider your as friend or sister so that approach is too much for him to handle. If he is not talking about it i think don push him and just continue your friendship it is not big deal.Maybe he starting to have feeling for you too and don want to , conflict of self mind maybe.
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
3 Sep 10
yeah maybe he might thought as not joking around. but he look at you as a friend only. but like my b/f is a female and i wouldnt freak out if she sat on my lap. but some guys are just like that
• India
3 Sep 10
I think may be your action have caused a sudden feeling of seductiveness and perhaps he dont expect anything like this from you. So he felt quite embarrassing at that time and so just shove you off like that. I understand that you have none such intentions but still its not about you both its about the age span in which you guys are. So you should also try not to be much physical with your guy friends as it can generate some unwanted feelings in them. Take care :)
@Mymill (42)
• South Africa
3 Sep 10
Maybe you are not the one with the hidden agenda. Just maybe he is the one who is facing a serious question in his own life and might be afraid to face the answer. That may be the reason for his reaction, he might be dealing with emotions he does not know how handle. Give him time to sort out his own phsych then talk to him again. Mymill
• United States
2 Sep 10
The most logical reason is that he might only see you as a friend. It's one thing for a guy to sit on a girls lap and another for a girl to sit on a guys lap (since we have diff stuff lol). I know you were only intending to be friendly, but unfortunately some guys take things too seriously. He may have been used to having his girlfriend sit on his lap, and when you sat on his lap he may have taken it the wrong way. He will forget about it in a couple of days as long as you don't mention it haha. Have a great day!