Do you think a it is compulsary for a wife to help the husband?

@yspmyl (3438)
Malaysia
September 3, 2010 12:13am CST
Do you think that if the husband do not have a good income, and the wife is working as well. Is it the wife should help the husband by giving in the money for monthly expenses? Do you think it is the responsible of the wife to share the burden. I just would like to seek your opinion because one of my female friend do not agree on this, she said a wife is just a wife, and is a totally independent person. What do you think of this?
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26 responses
• Egypt
3 Sep 10
I think That they are in a life that they have to help each other, this is her duty, but She shouldn't be obliged to do that.
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 10
Yes, it is their responsibility to the family, that is what she should do as a modern wife.
@lacieice (2065)
• United States
3 Sep 10
Marriage is a partnership...a committment to each other to help and support under all circumstances. There should be no "his" and "hers". It should all be "ours". It's irragional and old fashioned to believe that one is more responsible for financial support than the other. Today's economy nearly always requires two incomes to provide for a family. She is totally wrong to feel that she doesn't have to share all aspects of the relationship
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 10
Yes, it is an old kind of thinking that my friend has, but she is just about 29 year old and how she will have that kind of thinking? I think it is because of her selfishness that make her think that way.
@prudent (314)
• India
3 Sep 10
Well, a family is built with both husband and wife. It is the duty of both of them to contribute to the welfare of their family. And if it happens that both of them are earning and any of them needs some financial or any kind of help, it is the duty of the other partner to come forward and support. If anybody loves and respect his/her partner then he/she will never think whether to support or not. It is that love and respect which will lead that person to take the hand of his/her partner in distress.
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 10
Yes, it is definitely the duty of both the husband and wife responsibility to take care of the family. If one of the person think that it is not their responsibility, then I think they must have problem in their relationship...
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
It would be nice if the busband and the wife is working and helping together but it depends on wife/husband on how he/she sees his/her role in life. Now a days a wife can do what a husband can do...
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@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Yes, they must help each other to get the family work and progress for to the future. If they do not work together, I am sure they will separated one day.
• India
3 Sep 10
To me, marriage is meant for both. mutual understanding, love and affection. Though wife can act as a independent person, but she cant so. Because, she has responsibility. Answer my question, if the husband's thinks in that way, he is an independent person that your female friend thinks, then what happens to the family???? if the husband doesnt give money for monthly exps, then what the girl will do, she earns herself and spends herself? husband and wife relationship should be like, give and take policy. .
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Yes, it the the responsibility of the both party. If the husband also have the same thinking like the wife, I believe definitely the family will be ruin. I just do not understand why she have got that kind of thinking!
@chayapathys (2113)
• India
3 Sep 10
I do not agree. I feel husband and wife should help each other at all times
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Yes, it is kind of common sense that everybody know, but I just do not understand why she think that way.
• India
13 Sep 10
Yes you are correct.People think in different ways.Every one thinks that he or she is right but the society is the best judge.As it is not an offence either in civil law or criminal law there is no punishment unless it results in violence or breach of trust.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Yeah, unless someone make the rules and whoever that commit the offense will be punish...then if that come true, my friend will definitely goes into jail...
@zhouxi (1756)
• China
3 Sep 10
i think husband and wife should independent.it doesn't mean they should spend their own money.they should share the burden of their family.if husband could n't share at least half of it .in fact he usually will be looked down upon by his wife though we should n't think so.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
I think either one should share both their income if the family needed the money. It is not to say it is my money or your money, it is the family's money.
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@zhouxi (1756)
• China
14 Sep 10
@ynahh1 (454)
3 Sep 10
to have a happy and successful family one should help each other..its for the easiest way to lie and handle situation especially in terms of financial and family problem.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 10
Yes, I agree with you, to live with the other one definitely is to share every moment of up and down. It is the responsibility of both the husband and wife to take care of the family, and this is a real common sense that everybody knows but except her...
@ynahh1 (454)
8 Sep 10
you mean her??? it seems that you experience thgis situation hah!!.... you know what helping each other makes the family stronger we can never solve family.financial problems without helping each other right..try to explain to her the value of helping each other...
@srisiva (199)
• India
3 Sep 10
Hi.. First of all I just wanna to say that it is not the wife's money or the husband's money. It is their family income.. If they think like that then it is not a burden for the working women to share the money for the family expenses. My opinion is that you try to make your friend understand the fact of life and not just money making. Have a great day...
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
3 Sep 10
Yes, that is how I think too, but she seem to think that the it is the husband responsibility to take care of. Wife should not get get involved. Whatever she earn will only keep by her. Her husband even said to her that she is so selfish..
@creed30 (127)
3 Sep 10
your right srisiva, having family its not only one person who decide not only one person who run the family. Its a resposibility of husband and wife its not a matter of money. Its how you help your family that you build.Its not good to that being selfish in a family theres no love between you. Its not healthy family relationship.. It's not like what is mine is mine and what is yours is yours or what is yours is also mine. lol.
@MsTickle (24983)
• Australia
13 Sep 10
What a horrible person. She is not only selfish she is nasty. I'm surprised she married a man who earned so little. But she did and they are now a partnership. They share everything. They should have a budget so that the bills are paid and any spending money should also be assigned as per their needs. I cannot help but think that this woman will make her husband miserable. I hope they never have children.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 10
Yes, she is real selfish. The husband's earning are just enough to support the family. That is why he need his wife money to help up a little bit. They have got 1 child at the moment and another one is coming this Nov. There is no way to return....Just hope that some one will tell her what is right and what is wrong..
@fannitia (2170)
• Bulgaria
13 Sep 10
I think that this is a question of traditions. In my country usually both the husband and the wife work and earn for the family. In many cases the wife continue at home with the homework! But she has a job, she can't take a proper care of the children and they go to a kindergarten...
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Normally in a high living standard country, both the wife and husband need to work to support the family, it is already a usual thing that the wife should help the husband to bear the burden. Unless the husband can earn enough to support the family and then the wife can just stay at home to take care of the children.
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
As a wife you are an essential part of your family. You have a bond with your husband that says "For better or for worst". So share too what you have, its for the good of the family.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
17 Sep 10
Yes, that is kind of promises that married people have made in their vows and she seem have forgotten about it.
• United Arab Emirates
3 Sep 10
It is not a compulsion. But a marriage vow states I choose you to be my partner: to have and to hold, from this day forward. For better, for worse, for richer for poorer; in sickness and in health; to have and to cherish, as long as we both shall live. Its is not an act of compusion but an understanding.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
To put the responsibility on the husband is something unfair for today family. The pressure is so great if just to bear by the husband. The wife should help the family if possible. It is also a must if the wife is working...what do you think?
@Sreekala (23605)
• India
3 Sep 10
Hello yspmyl, Marriage is an agreement with two people to live together like one soul. It means the responsibility is equal. In case the wife is not earning then the sole responsibility goes to the husband automatically. If anybody thinks that ‘it is his or it is her’ then there won’t be success in their relationship because commitment is very necessary for a happy life. There is nothing bad if the wife can support her husband and she can be proud to sharing/shouldering the responsibility of her family.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Yes, marriage is talking about one entity, when the both party get married, they should consider one and will need to bear the responsibility for the family and this can never being push to one of the person either husband or wife.
@chiumee (851)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
whatever your friend believes in, she is entitled to her opinion. but why did she marry in the first place if she didn't realize that she is going to share everything with her husband. in sickness and health, for better or for worse, for poorer or for richer. that should give her the idea.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Yes, she need to learn to adapt to the new "culture" and learn to share to be a wife.
• India
3 Sep 10
Financial independence is fine. But when it comes to family as a unit, there should be no division between male and female (or husband and wife). Each forms an equal part of the organisation called family and hence you cannot ignore the other in any respect. At the same time, it is the responsibility of each member to respect the other one's freedom.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Great, just another way of explanation. I totally agreed!
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
3 Sep 10
i think it is not a compulsory thing to do... i think helping husband is the meaning of wife..... helping her husband is her duty as a wife...
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
13 Sep 10
Yes, I am 100% agree with you, wife helping husband is her duty.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
3 Sep 10
Husbands and wives should work together to support the family's needs. the burden shouldn't be placed on the shoulders of one. If husband and wife are both working, both of them should take care of the expenses of the family.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
12 Sep 10
Yes, I totally agree with you, both husband and wife should help each other for the family expenses.
@liza21 (180)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
Hi yspmyl, For me definitely yes, the wife and husband should help each other...
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
I agree with you too...
@cac2010 (41)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
In my opinion, husband and wife now should share equal responsibilities in all aspects. Well if the wife can share a help to his husband financially by working, that would be a great help but the husband should also share a help in household chores in anyway he can. If money is not a problem to a family, we can say that it's a healthy and happy family.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
Yes, I totally agree with you. It should be fare and square for both the husband and wife in this century not like the last time.