10 years in the relationship.. but husband and wife is not living together?

@chiyosan (29383)
Philippines
September 3, 2010 11:43am CST
This sounds really crazy! I have this friend who got married when I was in college. she met this guy online through a friend and they were talking often since then. They seem to have great time chatting, and texting and calling each other. The guy lives in the united states and the lady is still living with her parents here in the Philippines. I just find this odd, that after 10 years of their relationship, now they are married by the way , here in the Philippines... they have not lived together for more than a month! The guy would just visit her here whenever he is free from his work in the US.. i find it odd that he never seem to care if they are together... He's not asked her to go to the US... its weird, right??? Do you think this guy has something to hide from her? I feel like they are not a real couple because of their set up. I really am concerned about my friend, and i was really against this from the start, told her if hhe's serious and sincere then he's got nothing to hide! She's never seen her in laws!!!
6 responses
@creed30 (127)
4 Sep 10
That's really sounds crazy how can you handle stay in relationship that long if you love your partner you have know everything in your partner's life and how can you feel happy in that kind set up.Many long distance relationship but this is weird. For sure guy hidding for the woman in phils or your friend know already what's the reason she just accepted that.If the man never introduce his parents to her then for sure the man have already family in USA .
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
Yes, it is crazy! I hope they figure it out soon, i feel my friend is wasting a lot of time with him that she is missing a lot in her life, being married to him, this way!
@med889 (5958)
3 Sep 10
In this case I cannot say that this is a marriage because they are said to be married but they are not living together so this is weird to me and I feel that this relationship has to be seen again by the couple.
@chiyosan (29383)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
I have always wanted them to talk about it... really, i was telling my girl friend to consider this, a relationship is not suppose to be like this... thank you for your opinion
@libramie (563)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
10 years is a long span of relationship. How it happen that she didn't know the background of the guy with our hi-technology at this time. I don't think its amazing or they both weird. Why she jump into marriage with no assurance for her future. Anyways, many couple nowadays are not living together because of their working status, but their relationship still grow and developed if it runs smoothly and lovingly. Distance relationship nowadays will nurtured and well-nourished using these hi-tech communications.
@juggerogre (1659)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
They are married but not living together? It seems that they are just married in papers. As a husband and wife they should be living together. I don't know their situation but I think either one of them should go to either the Philippines or to the US. If not then they are just virtual couple even with a marriage contract.
• Vietnam
4 Sep 10
10 years, a long time for one relationship, I think they are serious about their relationship. you cannot doing everything for them, let they do what they want. It is the best thing you can do for them.
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
4 Sep 10
This is really weird situation because if you love someone and marring her its mean they love their companion and want her to stay with him. I think its not fair to let the woman wait ten years with her parent. I think her parent also start to think negatively about her daughter husband. I personally think there is something wrong with this man and a background check will needed.