Far tooooo many kids

@cher8558 (425)
Canada
September 5, 2010 11:40pm CST
Hi friends, I purposely do not watch these shows about numerous children. I think it is very un-natural for parents to have litters of children (and that's what they are, litters). The latest one "19 Kids and Counting". If that was not a sign from God to stop what they are doing, I don't know what is. They have a very sick baby on their hands now and that baby will probably suffer effects for the rest of its life. I think people should wake up. There is no way you can give the same amount of love and attention and affection that you can with a normal size family. I think 2 to 3 children are plenty. And the poor older children that seem to be there to take care of their baby siblings I just think is so wrong. They are not ready to be parents yet and they should not force to be. Well I just had to get that off my chest. Cheryl
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
17 Sep 10
I actually do agree with you and I think that the traumatic entry of Josie into the world should have been enough for the Dugger family to be done having children. Instead, I hear that they are talking about adding to their family yet again. As for me, I have two children, one boy and one girl and I really don't think that I need any more than that in my life. It is hard enough at times as it is and I couldn't imagine the burden of more.
@maximax8 (28247)
• United Kingdom
7 Sep 10
There are a couple in California that have a large house and in it they look after disabled and unwanted boys. They are called the Silcock family. They haven't got any of their own children. The husband himself is in a wheelchair. They are such a loving couple towards all the children they have adopted. The oldest children are now grown up. I think that family are doing something charitable. I think that it is normal to have between one and four children. One lady I know had six sons and she tried to get a daughter for her seventh pregnancy. However she got her seventh son. She tried to get pregnant abroad in a system with a chance of only having girls. Amazingly she got pregnant with triplet girls. So she now has ten children and all she had in mind was one daughter and one son. I think it is easy to give enough attention to my three children and my sister gets along well with having four children. I think 19 children and counting is way too many children for one family. Sometimes a lady wants to have a large number of children. Other times she gets pregnant many times without trying to.
@bounce58 (17526)
• Canada
7 Sep 10
I must admit I was drawn to this show when it came out. I just couldn't believe a family would have this many children. I had the same sentiments when I watched the show. Even though they try to portray their family as normal, and the kids have a happy and healthy relationship, I just could not believe it! I felt sad for the kids that had to wait their turn to get the attention from their parents. You're right! Just way too many kids.
• Canada
7 Sep 10
I don't watch the show so I don't know what you mean by the latest kid being a sign from God. What is wrong with the baby? I saw this family on Oprah or another show a few years ago and they seem to be a perfectly normal family with an amazing amount of love and respect for each other. I would like to know more about this last baby you mention.
@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
There are many factors why people have many children. One is socio-cultural where it is common practice to have many children. Lack of information about family planning also contributes. Poverty is also one of the reasons.
• United States
6 Sep 10
omg yes the duggar family is way to big and out of 19 kids they only have 1 grandchild thats a bit too much. And they dont even seem to be ready to raise that child. 2 kids is to much for me i don't see how they do it. I know the parents be wanted to stay sleep in there bed but the cameras be on them cause i no i would and the cost of feeding and clothing is way too much.
• United States
6 Sep 10
I think that having more than four children is WAY too many because you don't have that much time to devote to all of those children. Also, those children will all feel like someone got more attention than the other child. Those children will also not want to have big families either because they know what it is like to be the 12th or 13th child and they wouldn't want that for their children.
@JudithP (295)
• Canada
6 Sep 10
Hi Cher. My Grandmother had 22 children and I often wonder how in the name of God she did it. The oldest ones where already married with children of their own by the time the youngest ones arrived. I have aunts and uncles that are younger than me. I do understand my grandmother because birth control wasn't available back then. My grandfather worked for the railroad and was gone all the time. He came home long enough to get her pregnant and he was gone again. In today's age where most families have two working parents it would be impossible. I think over the next generation you're going to see even smaller families, 1 and 2 children at most. Our world is over crowded as it is. Housing is almost impossible to find and scientists are already saying within the next 50 years we're going to have a problem trying to feed everyone. It's a scary situation to bring children into.
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
You're absolutely right!!!! It would be very unhealthy for a family to have super dooper many kids especially if parents are not that rich to raise their kids. I think those people engaging with this thing(baby-making) lack knowledge on family planning. i really hope that they make up their minds. They must also seek medical assistance.
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
you have a point..these days,both husband and wife now work and it can be difficult watching more than one kid but i believe its a choice we make , whats important is parents have to be responsible enough to make sure kids are well taken care of by them and not the maids or relatives.
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
That's true! Parents tend to disregard some of their children if they are too many. My grandparents have 10 children and because my grandma had to take care of so many my mom acted like the second mother of her younger sisters so they call her mama. I wouldnt want this to happen to my children. they shouldnt have the burden of taking care of their sibling because I cant.
@pastigger (618)
• United States
6 Sep 10
I am with you there. I can't believe the Duggers with the 19 kids even want to try again after the last one, I had one preemie not close to as sick as theirs and we are not sure we want to try again. It seems like in that house her job is to pop out kids and when the next one comes the last one is buddied up with an older one and mom moves to the next baby. I really think that they need some help. I understand that when it is hard to have a child but they give you other options, I even choose the way that would take longer so I wouldn't have a chance at multiples (like 2). I think that so many people don't think about the end results and how hard their babys will have to work just to surive they just think about what they want and that is all that matters. I agree with you that these women need to stop having litters of babies. They lady that has 19 she just needs to have her tubes tied, she needs to stop or there could be 20 kids and no mommy.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
LOL! haha...i don't want too many kids myself.... not only is it difficult for the parent or the caretaker, i think it would be difficult for the child as well, to get a bit of mom and dad's attention since the parents will have to divide their time equally among them and other chores like work and stuff..... i want to have 3 kids and that's all. i'm fine with two. maybe four at most....
• United States
6 Sep 10
I hear what you are saying loud and clear. All I can say is atleast they can afford to do so rather than rely on public programs to help them support their exceptionally large family. And in modern times you are right 2-3 kids is plenty! Many of us don't have farms any more and don't need to have a large family for labor ;0) Nor are we as self suficent and or able to live off the land like families 100yrs+ ago were.