What Would You Do?

United States
September 6, 2010 2:21pm CST
My roommate has spoken extensively about getting another TV. One that is flatter and larger. Since the economy is so bad and our relationship is not the best, I suggested a smaller size like a "32 or 36 inch. None of the TVs are broken and in my family, there are spare TVs (the last was a hand me down) that either go to me or charitable organization. Anyway, we came to agree on an amount to be spent and since I'm the one with a vehicle, a time is set for us to get out there. OK. About half and hour before time to leave, he starts drinking and smoking (not a cig). When I call him on it, he denies being drunk and will be ready. As I'm warming up the car, he's nowhere to be found for almost half an hour. His excuse was he got a phone call that was not an emergency. The engine was turned off for good that day and he slept most of the day when he was not drinking. Although, I made an offer to try again another day, he got so plastered that the next day he stayed in bed. I can still tell today that he's hostile but I feel it's a matter of respect. How would you have handled this?
2 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
6 Sep 10
To me it sounds like you are putting things a lot more light hearted then they really are. I would not split the money to buy the new t.v. and if he wants to say you can't watch it then just don't watch it, like the first responder said I probably wouldn't have even taken him to get the t.v. either.
@slothgurl (569)
• Enumclaw, Washington
6 Sep 10
Tell him when he climbs out of the bottle, he can go buy his own tv, with his own money and transportation to get there.
• United States
6 Sep 10
Hey Slothgurl, When he came up for some air later that day, we talked and though I got no apology, he did recognize that it shouldn't have been a problem for him to come to the car and say 'I need a minute' or 'Can we go another time'. In this little discussion, I mentioned that I did all sorts of things - sometimes without a car. This is what family and real friends are for as we look out for one another. He started whining about he'll have to get a cab or something. My male cousin who's a drag performer,acts more like a man than he does sometimes.