How easy/hard for you to forgive your lover?

@len1415 (195)
Philippines
September 7, 2010 9:23pm CST
What if he/she made a promise and broke it (intentionally or not)? What if he/she lied to you for some reasons that you can't understand? What if he/she made you cry, perhaps he/she didn't mean to, but you were hurt? Then he/she came to you asking for forgiveness. He/She was bribing you with sweet words and thoughtful gifts just to make you fall in his/her trap again or maybe to make you believe that he/she can change...Question is: would you be easy or tough on him/her before you accept the apology?
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14 responses
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
It is so hard to forgive a lover. But remember, to sin is human to forgive is divine. We are just human to experience hate to our lost lover. It really very painful especially if you really love her. But sometimes, we need to go on, to move on, to continue our journey. Life is not life without these thorns and difficulties in our way. We our bound to feel the pains and stumble our feet as we go on. But we need to stand again and continue. In that way, you learn the lessons of what life is truly all about.
@xtmlove (403)
• China
8 Sep 10
I want to say that it is depend on the situation. As for me, if my girlfriend made mistakes and then asked for me to forgive, whatever she had done that I will accept the apology. But if she trap me more than three times, I will refuse any apology from her.
@boymelvs (138)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
i accept the apology granted the forgiveness but for me my trust is hard to be return back,it takes time or not at all to give the same trust you given before to that person.i have to ask and make some condition or proof before i believe that he/she is sincere for begging forgiveness or apology.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
With my present relationship now, I think I can say it is easy to forgive him. He made a promise and was broken, I forgave him and did not ask him why he did not do it. He made me cry and was hurt, I was waiting for him to say sorry or even ask me why am crying or perhaps ask me the cause of the pain, I never heard anything from him and I forgave him. It is just so easy for me to forgive him because I love him. If not, it would have been pride that is controlling.
@barbull (70)
• Indonesia
8 Sep 10
i know, maybe that's very hard to apologize someone who hurt us in many times.. but, i think the most important thing in the relationship is the trust and how we can apologize each other, accept each other positive and negative, if love are burn in the couple heart anything gonna be okay
@rhodzptc (1319)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
They say one is enough, two is too much. I guess I could forgive him at first but doing it so on the second time and doing same strategy to please would not work. But this doesn't mean I could not forgive him I will teach him a lesson first so that he would know the consequence of doing it over and over again. It is easy to forgive but it is hard to realized someone mistakes.
• China
8 Sep 10
It depends on what kind of person he/she is,if he/she is a lier or cheater,then just accept his/her gift and kick him/her out.anyway forgiveness is a virtue only for someone who is worth it.
@swissheart (6478)
• Romania
8 Sep 10
usually I can forgieve almost everything. but there is something I could never forgieve and that's him cheating on me. I can't understand the meaning of that. I mean if you don;t like the woman next to you, why should you cheat on her? why don;t you find somebody else to form a couple with?...
@dapers (51)
8 Sep 10
As long as you show emotions to that person (be it love/hate/whatever), you love that person (maybe his/her very own existence). As long as you love that person, you WILL ALWAYS forgive that person no matter how many times. You know why? It's because we are molded from God's likeness.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Forgiving is part of loving someone. It doesn't matter how many times your partner have to ask for forgiveness but your willingness to forgive him. Give and take must play important role in this set up and each one of you should have the responsibility to keep the relationship healthy.
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
I'll accept the apology but giving some conditions and of course not giving the complete trust again until proving the intentions would not ruin your life again or your trust.
@obe212003 (2302)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Forgiving is a divine act given to someone who have done us wrong, nobody is perfect and in fact life does not flow the way we would expect it to be especially in a relationship... arguments, misunderstanding and mistakes are inevitable one thing or the other.. but what important is we learn and we should cope up with the things that would make us better.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Hello, I think i had already experienced all the lying and breaking of promises and yes it was never easy to forgive the person i love. It was very hard and even if i know all the lies and hurts made a scar in my heart, i can never take it when we are not talking. I can't bare him always running after me and asking for forgiveness. I'm just human who is in love with someone and i don't have the super power and not that high to never forgive him. I can forgive but never forget the sin.
@rustyhalo (103)
8 Sep 10
forgive the person that you loved is very hard. and some times it doesn't deserve to be forgiven. but at the end we should forgive anyone ^^