if u fell in love wth ur best friend bf and he loved u and would leave her for u

love couple - couple in love
Portugal
September 8, 2010 6:03pm CST
hi guys^^ what would you do if you fell in love with your best friend bf and he loved you too and would leave her to be with you? would you let him do that? me i would talk me and him with my best friend and tell her that we loved each other and they would break up and i would accept him to be with me. i wouldnt let him be with her bcs i know that neither him neither her would be happy bcs he loved me and not her. you can say this is selfish but is not. if i had a bf and he loved my best friend and they talked with me i would leave him right away bcs i could never be happy with a guy that loves someone else. even i felt sad and hurt wasnt their fault what happened and i wouldnt blame them and would continue their friend bcs they didnt cheat me. in moment they saw they loved each other they told me. so in situation if i loved my best friend's bf and he loved me too if he would leave her i accept him bcs he loves me and i love him and is not our fault that we love each other. if i dont be with him noone will be happy. but if we be together we can be happy and my best friend could find a guy that love her. but if they stack together noone would be happy bcs she could love him but he didnt love her. what you guys think? would you accept the guy or not? :)
1 response
• United States
8 Sep 10
To be honest, if you two are truly and really in love, then go for it. Be with him, no matter the consequences. But be ready for your best friend's reaction. If you are so sure that he will choose you and be happy, and you value what he can give you more than her friendship, as well as not believing in the BFF Code, then I believe you should do it. Just don't try to justify yourself to her by saying that he loves you, not her. That would be unnecessarily hurtful, when you were aware that she would be upset. Simply let her know that you two made a conscientious effort to be happy apart, and it wasn't possible. And by the BFF Code, which is a half-serious concept, I mean that there is an unspoken rule that your best friend's ex-boyfriend is off limits. Of course, that should not get in the way of true love (if you really value the love over the friendship) I wish you luck and happiness, and hope that you make the right decision for you, and any parties involved that you don't want to hurt.