Which is more lonelier?

@Lore2009 (7389)
United States
September 9, 2010 6:16pm CST
Which is more lonelier for you? Being all by yourself and alone and feeling lonely OR being with a lot of people who don't understand you at all and feeling lonely? Which is worse for you?
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11 responses
• United States
9 Sep 10
being with a lot of people who don't understand you at all and feeling lonely? this would be it for me. I like to be alone and really do enjoy it very much. I don't like to be around people who don't get me. You knoow how off the feeling could be. Like your in a room all by yourself and stand out in the crowd.
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@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
9 Sep 10
Exactly. I think that is more worse too.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
10 Sep 10
HI, I have a husband with Lou Gehrig's disease and tho we are in this house together most of the time I still feel lonely. I wonder if it wouldn't be better to be with a bunch who don't know me just to be with people sometimes. Anybody feel the same?
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Hi there, I'm so sorry about your situation. I've read a book about that disease before. I think the situation I wrote is a little different.. but I have moments, when I just want to get lost in an unknown sometimes too. An escape to find something new.
@quita88 (3716)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Yes, we all have different situations. Yours is bad enough that you want to disorient yourself for time, place and thought, at least for a little tiny bit. Actually you and I are not so much different cuz I too would love to go to a desserted island and be by myself watching the waves roll in and wash my bare feet and all the while drinking a cool drink and knowing there is no one else around that interfere with my thoughts and time. I've heard it said that reading helps. I don't read much anymore but I might have to start. Now, when you find that island, stay there for a while and when you get back email me and let me know how much better you feel:) God Bless, quita
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
11 Sep 10
That sounds like a nice vacation. I love reading, it helps me relax and escape. Best wishes.
@greenline (14864)
• Canada
13 Sep 10
Yeah, there are times when one gets to a group or society where one could not communicate with, for different reasons. Very common reason often is the langiage barier. I was once in a meeting in a foreign country. It was abusiness meeting with many people attending, and all the discussions and conversations were in their own laguage, and I couldn't understand a word. It was not intentional I knew. That's the normal way they conduct their meetings. Oh, I felt so lonely and isolated. But, again, I could not blame anybody !
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I have been in a similar situation before but at a birthday party. But it was more interesting in that sort of situation.. I felt like I was watching a show or something. I think it is more lonelier when we are in a situation where we are explaining something passionately, in the same language and every body just looks at you like your nuts. That is lonely.
@KrauseHome (34986)
• United States
13 Sep 10
For me, being in a room around a lot of people and being by myself or having everyone else ignore me pretty much is more lonelier. I have always been one a lot of times where being alone never did bother me like being in a room around a lot of other people and not really having anyone who is interested in talking to me. Makes me feel like an outcast some or wish I was somewhere else as well.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I agree. I think it is much more unbearable to stay in a room with a bunch of strangers feeling like the stranger.
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
10 Sep 10
Hello Lore, i feel more lonely when i'm with a lot of people, who don't listen to me or just don't understand what i'm talking about. It's like voice in a desert. I know that feeling really good and i understood during that time what to do when i'm alone, just don't know what to do, when i feel it somewhere, where i don't want to talk with nobody...
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Yes, it is like a voice in a desert. And it feels very isolating and scary. I agree.
@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
I get myself alone sometimes especially when i am too depressed and too stressed, a way for me to be relaxed and meditate. so, i don't feel really lonely when i'm alone. but i hate the feeling of being in a crowd where you really don't belong. It feels more of the 'alone' word since there are people but nobody seems to care you're there.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Yes, I agree too. I think it feels very misplaced and isolated.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
oh, well, i think it is more lonely to be with people who don't understand me at all. take a scenario in a class where your classmates do not recognize your potential and looks at you as some weirdo and you are very much aware of it. isnt that sad? i'd rather be alone. that way, i can compose my thoughts and bring it to a level i can appreciate and understand and be happy with. after all, being alone is not being miserable.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Yes, I agree with you very much. I don't think being alone is being miserable either.
@redhotpogo (3963)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Being with people who don't understand you and feeling all alone would be worse. If you're alone by yourself then at least you are comfortable. If you are with people you don't care for then you are tortured.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I agree to that. I sure can be torture.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 10
Being lonely in the company of people and friends is worse. I would prefer to stay home, reading, chatting, doing MyLot, studying languages. I don't feel lonely in my own house.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
10 Sep 10
I agree, that is so much worse.
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
Being with a lot of people who doesn't understand you is the worst of all.I rather choose to be alone in my room at least I can still have peace.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Yes, I agree very much!
• United States
24 Sep 10
I would be more lonlier if they didn't understand me, so most of the time I just do things on my own. I don't like to drag people to do things with me to begin with because some people don't understand or like the things I like so I just do things alone. To be around people just because you're lonely sounds even lonlier in my opinion.