What about a 16 yr old girl falling in love with a 60 yr old man? Is that love?

@bingskee (5237)
Philippines
September 10, 2010 6:15am CST
Do not tell me you haven't hear of such affair? There are girls who falls in love with mature men. As to what reason, I really do not know. Actually, I wonder if one can call it love? Is it true that age does not matter in love? There are many situations in the said relationships: - the man is well-off and gives everything to the girl - the man is responsible and respects the girl - the man is experienced enough to know the weaknesses of women or girls, for that matter Do you believe it is love for the girls? Is it actually possible?
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@ergfortes (516)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
love works its miracles. it is hard to judge because we didn't know these people who fell in love and what they've gone through. Love has its many stages and of its many kind. we could say that maybe the love the girl feels is love that respects love that wants to take care. She may not be able to distinguish yet the difference between the different kind of love but what's important is that she knows that she loves. We can't question love it is more powerful than what we expect it to be.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
i strongly believe that it could be detrimental to the girl. an underage girl is still not emotionally stable.
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@sid556 (31005)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Hi Bingskee, Yes I've heard of it but I don't really understand it. I do remember being 16 and having crushes on a teacher that was older but not anywhere near 60. I guess it happens. Kind of makes you wonder if the girl is needing a father figure in her life but I really don't know. I have 4 daughters and I'd not be happy if they were running around with some 60 yr old man at 16. Is it love? I guess in some cases it could be but 16 is an age where you go through so so many changes over the next few years that I'd have to question whether it would last.
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@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
i dont believe it is love at all. at 16, the girl is not emotionally stable. there is always a reason why a young girl would fall in love with a 60 yr old man, if it is falling in love at all. i know of someone clinging to an older man because she longs for a father figure. it really happens.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
hi bingskee! well i don't want to judge anyone but i am really seeing such situations around me and i am also wondering if it is really love or what... but in my opinion, it can be love...fatherly love! lol! i am sorry to say but most of the time, the first reason is the benefit that they can get from each other...and love will just follow if everything turns good.
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@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
personally, that age gap is truly questionable. you maybe right, it could be the benefit that they get from each other then love follows after that.
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@ckyera (17261)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
yeah that's true, sometimes even a 10-20 years gap is already questionable or rather unbelievable what more with an almost 50 years gap right? but things like this really happens and we really never know how love moves...as the song says, love moves in a mysterious way! it makes me wonder...maybe love can be learned too?
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@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
love can be learned, that i agree. but to say that a 16 yr old fell in love at once with a 60 yr old guy, that is a very big question to me.
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@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
If the girl is 18 i don't care if it's love or not, she could be looking for a father figure, i don't know. But since she's 16, no matter how in love she is to that 60 year old man, it's still against the law.
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@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
to get married, that is.
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• Vietnam
10 Sep 10
i think she "love" him cuz his money , young girl and old man make me think the grandpa and child . Young Girl and Old man , i sink about it
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• India
10 Sep 10
i think he want parent's love and he join old man like grandpa, and he want get knowledge for her new life.
@voldrox (7204)
• India
10 Sep 10
Wow, sixteen and sixty.. I can't believe this. Yes, i have heard of such things before and i don't understand it either. Could romance be involved here? I wonder. I don't understand this, but if that is what she likes and i would let it be. As far as i can see, she believes she is financially secured and feels comfortable about it. Money is highly involved here, and this is not the definition of love for me. Love for me is something lot different and i guess many would back me up on this. Good day.
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@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
it makes me wonder, too.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
10 Sep 10
Who can say what can make anyone fall in love? People fall in love at all ages. It is more than possible for resl love to span the decades to find the one of your heart.
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@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
10 Sep 10
that is one important question - what can make anyone fall in love? for me, falling in love with someone entails not only the physical attributes but the inner self of a person. if it's more about physical, then maybe it is not lust. if it's more about the gain one can have from another, then it is not love at all.
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@jennbart (1332)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
No. I think it is not love. I think, the kid stays with the old man because of money matters. The kid's family maybe poor and that the only way to make both ends meet for the family is by through the old man. The old man maybe rich and providing the needs of the whole family. Or, the family is in debt with the family of the old man and the parents are using their kid to pay for that debt by making their child live with the man.
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11 Sep 10
age do not matter, its a magic when you fell in love to a good perfect human of your oposite or counter partner. people must not consider age and this way everyone has chance and things are good when god made us all, he gave us hearth and mind to choose ou partner in life, its only the time and it is not a matter. love the vintage, ...old age is not a bar in choosing your partner.
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@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
You never really knew it, it your are not in their shoes.
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• Thailand
11 Sep 10
we are talking about a 50 yr gad almost a generation and the girl is just 16 still learning how the world is while the 60 old man already knows the rules of the world ... i dont know if its love not it looks more like a give and take relationship wher both the parties a learning something from the other . the girl is trying to get a mature understanding and the man is getting to positive energy to live longer thats is ... !! thers no future to this relationship and then again love is complicated and if someone wants to gamble his/her life for it then its their own choice
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• United Arab Emirates
10 Sep 10
Its just infatuation for the girl. A young girl will have lots of material things in mind and life to be fulfilled and it will only be done with money. Young gilrs also see security in men when they go into a reltionship. Thats the reson we see more of young girls falling for elderly men. It is actually possible....but not advisable.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
i was just thinking if the man has nothing, no money, or will, or anything, for the girl to be secured of, will the girl fall for him? if she falls for him even with that situation i mentioned then it must be love!
• United States
11 Sep 10
Yes, Blingskee. There are situations when the man had "nothing, no money" and the girl fell for him. So perhaps it's his looks and personality that makes her have a crush on him.
@chrislotz (8203)
• Canada
3 Sep 11
I don't call that love, I call that child abuse. The girl at 16 is only that, a girl, not a woman. She is still a child at 16 and a man at 60 should know better than to get involved in the first place. In my views, and I think the view of everyone I personally know, would think that this guy should go to jail for that. I also think this girl would need help, as she obviously has problems, she must look at this guy as her grandfather, how could she not. She obvioulsy would have emotional problems if she was attracted to an old guy that. And I would also ask....where are the parents of this 16 year old girl.....As a parent to a daughter I would never allow this to happen. I don't care what it would take, I would stop this right at the beginning. If I had to I would call the police if this was my daughter, as in my country there are laws against this. Like I said, this is child abuse in my country, Canada...... Cheers and have a good day my friend, Chris
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
7 Sep 11
hello, Chris. apologies for not being able to reply at once. you have a very good point and you seem to be a very caring mother. i also see it as taking advantage of young girls. these men, at times, are like wolves waiting for their prey. will be visiting your lot. thanks for taking time. wonderful to read thoughts.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
8 Mar 11
It is possible. It just seems impossible for an older man to love a younger woman and vice versa. I think that a young woman wants an older man's money. Or they want someone to love them. They feel more appreciated when an older man gives them the attention. They love to be showered with gifts and affection. An older man loves the thrill of being with a younger woman. It is fun to him to be involved with a younger woman that is innocent and not older into age.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
9 Mar 11
if those are the reasons, it is not about love.
@Jlyn10 (10900)
• Malaysia
9 Jan 11
Yes, I've heard of such affair. But what can we say? Love is indeed blind. Yes, the girl could be needing a fatherly figure and as for the man, he could be needing a companionship, just someone to spend the rest of his life time with.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
i simply could not agree to the adage love is blind. love sees that is why there is understanding for extreme situations.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
14 Sep 10
How can a 16 year old girl fall in love with a 60 year old old man? Is it the Cupid have make mistake? I personally do not think that this is natural and either the old man is good at tacking the girl or she love him just because he act like his father. According to some physiologist that some children that do not have enough love from the father will tend to looking for a man like their father. They will thought that older man can give them the love just like how their father love them. I think the girl is treating the old man like his father.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
i have to agree that it is possible that these young girls are looking for a father figure.
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
13 Sep 10
I would be suspicious. In the state of Oklahoma, for such a marriage to be legal, the girl would have to have parental consent. Without the consent of the parents, the marriage would be illegal, and the man would probably be charged with statutory ra*pe.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
here in the Philippines, too, girls with this age are not be allowed to be married. but some girls manage to go with older men even without marriage. it is sad for me to think actually. like you, i tend to be suspicious.
@carolbee (16241)
• United States
12 Sep 10
When I hear one of these stories I always see dollar signs. Also think a girl of this age would be looking more for a father or grandfather figure to take care of her. Guess anything is possible in today's world. I can recall many years ago when a 15 yr. old girl married an 80 year old man. We were living in Florida at the time. Don't know what ever happened but because I was the same age at that time, I assumed it was for money. He was proud to have a young girl live with him, help him and be seen with her in public. I would never fault anyone for living this style but do know it wasn't for me.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
i have to agree that it seems anything is possible today. some men want younger women for show. and it is plain exploitation to me. i couldnt blame you thinking about girls this young to be going with a very old man for money. it is not being judgmental, it is factual.
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
I believe in the saying that goes this way "Age doesn't matter". Regards with this case, I can compare this to Woody Allen and his adopted Korean daughter. The case was very sensational, I hope you remember; as well as very controversial because the fact that the girl that time is of minor age. If a girl reaches the age of adolescence maybe in her teens, of course she wanted the best. Teen girls don't know why they feel that way; blame it on the hormones. But if there's somebody out there like their parents who'll guide them, maybe their hormones cannot rule over their minds and heart. There are too many factors that we have to consider.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
the hormones could not be basis for telling one is in love..
@RachelleNH (1408)
• United States
11 Sep 10
That's not love that's confusion..especially if the girl is a teenager. Just my opinion though
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
12 Sep 10
the girl could really be a confused teenager..