Gender specific doctors

@dawnald (84146)
Shingle Springs, California
September 10, 2010 5:06pm CST
Today I'm taking my little one for her 10 year checkup. She's going to see the female doctor at the pediatrician. Her dad took her twin brother day before yesterday, and he saw the nice male pediatrician. When I was growing up, and really until I moved up here, it was almost always male doctors. Wasn't until Dearra was 8 or 9, and she expressed a preference for a woman doctor, that we started splitting things up. What do you think about having women doctors deal with female patients and having men doctors deal with male patients. Make sense? Or doesn't matter? Or does it just depend on the patient's comfort level? Ready, set, go, who will be first? :D
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@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 10
Well to me i like when female doctors do me. I dont feel comfortable with a male doctor touching me. But a female doctor i trust.
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@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
11 Sep 10
That is unfair you post the discussion when i wasnt online. That is the only reason i never won. Next time make some notifications first.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
Oh is there a contest going on that I don't know about? :D I may post one later today about people who create viruses. When are you going to be online? :D
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
14 Sep 10
Couldnt make it online yesterday. You see because school start now, I am going to have to wait until i reach home which is about 6 o'clock in the evening which is approximately 11 hours from i actually made this post. NB today is my last free day so i will be on my computer for the entire day for today alone.
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• United States
17 Sep 10
firm believer now. 5 male doctors let a problem of mine progress for 30 years until a 6th FEMALE doctor diagnosed it properly and literally saved my life.i had a staph infection by the time i found her among other things. sometimes it takes a woman to understand a woman's problems. we won't mention the idiot that pinched me with a speculum once and caused an infection.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
17 Sep 10
Some male doctors are pretty good, but those ones that are dismissive, men can keep them!!!
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• United States
19 Sep 10
absolutely. ..same thing with mechanics.
• United States
11 Sep 10
I can only imagine it is comfort level and age dependent. As my son was a little guy he seemed to relate better with female pediatricians. But now that he is young adult he prefers male doctors. Oh and as usual I am definitely not first. HA!
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
What is this with being first anyway? Is there a contest going on that I don't know about?
• United States
13 Sep 10
Oh not sure about a contest as when you posted your discussion it says let us see who answers first. I thought this was funny after reading the first comment that you both celebrated his being first. What was funny to me that there were already two pages of comments and after reading your discussions, I immediately thought abut me always being a dollar short and a dollar late.
@katsmeow1213 (29047)
• United States
10 Sep 10
The only time I ever really care is when it comes to OB/GYNs. Obviously I'm more comfortable with a woman, but if I can't always get a female I don't really make a fuss.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
HMO? Because if you have PPO, you can make your own choices. Funny, the PPO at my company is cheaper (the premiums) than the HMO too.
• United States
13 Sep 10
No I'm PPO.. but I just go where ever is closest and see whoever is available.. I've never been picky unless I've come across a doc I didn't like, which happens frequently. When I was having the twins I was seeing a midwife that I loved.. but when they discovered it was twins I had to see the only doc in the practice, who was male.. I had no choice unless I wanted to go elsewhere.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
13 Sep 10
Well, I'm definitely now first this time, but at least I've stumbled upon a discussion that I can offer some input into. I personally have never had a preference between male and female doctors and I don't think that my children do either. I think that the reason that I feel this way is because of the fact that my father was a PA so growing up I never really thought twice about having a male doctor. In fact, my OB-GYN is a male as well and I really couldn't ask for a better doctor.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
My OB/Gyn down in LA was a man too, and he was really a good doctor. I don't have a preference myself, as long as the doctor is competent and listens. But for children growing up, I can understand how they would have preferences. Especially girls.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
13 Sep 10
I don't think it really matters, although I think sometimes kids look at a woman doctor more like mom. They feel more comfortable. I would go with the comfort level.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
Maybe so...
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
13 Sep 10
Well I believe it is better I always prefer a Female Doctor and I was glad that now they do actually ask if you prefer male or female
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
I haven't ever been asked....
@bellis716 (4806)
• United States
13 Sep 10
When appropriate, I think it's a good idea. Only another female can really understand how a female feels. Your 10 year old child is probably already beginning puberty.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
She seems to be a bit behind her older sister at the same age, but probably within the next couple of years...
@katland05 (136)
• Guam
12 Sep 10
dawnald hi, for us adults I think it's what doctor we prefer, but for the kids it should be the same gender as they the kids... I took my 17 year old daughter for her physical but there was no female doctor so we went ahead & she was seen by the male doctor. The doctor told us before he started what he will be doing & said we can stop at any time. When everything was completed & we left my daughter said she felt uncomfortable which I don't blame her because I was in that same position when I was about her age & had a male doctor also. This was my mistake because I didn't tell her that we were going to have her physical done until we got there, which her father didn't approve of a male doctor... To go elsewhere is more money which we didn't have & she couldn't go back to school until she gets the physical done. She was half way done with her senior year in high school & the school decides she needed the physical or no graduation for her.. I was present & watched everything so I know the doctor didn't do anything wrong, but I do blame myself for the way my daughter felt & I know that the next time we would have to go to another clinic where there are female doctors available...
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
You can't graduate without a physical? Why would they insist on that? But anyway, I have no problem with the doctor being a different gender when they're little, but definitely when they're older, if they have a preference, I would honor that.
• United States
11 Sep 10
Definitely a patient's preference. My wife actually preferred the male doctor at the clinic we used to go to before we moved to our present home. The female alternate was a mean "witch" and didnt show any care for her patients. The male was an older man who was very kind and took the time to explain everything and listen to any concerns. So I guess it depends on the patient and the quality of the doctors :O)
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
There was an older male pediatrician at the practice my children used to go to. I only saw him once before he retired, but he explained everything he was doing, in detail, as he went along. What he was doing, why he was doing it, what he found, etc. It was wonderful.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
11 Sep 10
I like taking my children to a Doctor that they knew, it seemed that comfort level for them meant familarity. I know that I hate to change Doctors, it seem just when I get friendly with one they move on.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
I really liked the pediatricians down south. The one here is OK, but I really miss the ones we had in LA (most of them). It was a group, and the guy who got assigned to the twins when they were born was great, and then the female doc that Dearra ended up with was great too.
11 Sep 10
Hi dawn, For many women, I don't think they mind as they are used to being poked prode and all sorts, especially when pregnant, i don't really care either but at the moment I have a wonderful female doctor who take her time to listen to me and ask about my family and generally talk about things, she exams me and see to my well being, but I did have a male doctor before and they don't ebven look at you when you are talking to them or hear you as they are too busy writing notes, that used to anoy me no end, so I am glad I have a lovely woman doctor now. Tamara
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
That would annoy me too!
@vandana7 (67647)
• India
11 Sep 10
Hi Dawny, I have been molested by a cousin who was studying medicine. And I was just five and a half. So I'd be very particular about that, based on personal experience. Having said that, not a single one of the male doctors who attended to my problems - so far, have been anything other than professionals. I guess I got lucky with them.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
I think the majority of them probably are very professional, and there is just the occasional bad egg that gives the profession a bad name.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
11 Sep 10
I prefer a female doctor, Dawny. I think it is better for women to have female and men have male doctors. TATA.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
Mostly true, I think. Though some women have problems with other women, and I think it just really comes down to what the patient is most comfortable with.
@gdesjardin (1938)
• United States
11 Sep 10
I just had this discussion with my kids. My two younger ones 12 and 14 are due for their annual checkup. We recently moved, so I have been trying to find them a new doctor. I asked them both if they would prefer a male or female doctor. My 12 year old daughter said she wanted a female, however when I asked my 14 year old son if he wanted a male doctor, he said he wanted a female. He further explained that if someone was going to check out his private parts, he would prefer that a women would be touching them instead of a man. I almost fell on the floor laughing. However, I suppose he has a very good point. LOL
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
I would have had a hard time keeping a straight face too!
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
11 Sep 10
I prefer to see a woman doctor for ‘certain’ conditions otherwise the male doctor we normally see is fine; my daughter feels the same and that is why we have two favourite doctors that we see depending on what the problem is. The male doctor charges less so he is the one unless we need help with something really ‘personal’!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
Funny that the male doctor charges less. What happened to the so-called glass ceiling?
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
11 Sep 10
I don't care for male doctors. I find they don't listen to you as well as a woman doctor would. My daughter had an allergic reaction to meds ( huge hives all over her body) looked up on the internet that it could happen with those meds on many different websites. The dr told me that it can't happen. When I tell male drs that shes allergic to it they say no way. I just laugh b/c I brought all the info to her female dr and someone finally believed me and put her on something else. The 1st dr even told me to continue with the meds. I even asked him if he was trying to kill my daughter. He didn't respond to the question. Everyone knows if you have an allergic reaction to something and continue to use it your body keeps trying to fight it off and your air way could close. I just don't trust them anymore b/c it has happen too many times. A mother knows when something is not right and they put me off as being crazy. I refuse to see a male dr b/c of that. I have never had any trouble with the female drs.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
That's scary. Yes, it could stop her breathing. I don't know if this was because you were upset, but I have noticed that male doctors respond better to you if you aren't emotional. If you get emotional, they tend to treat you as if you're "hysterical", and then you don't get anywhere.
@shibham (17025)
• India
11 Sep 10
hi dawn.. i think gender specification is essential for patients. it not for the patient's comfort but better for the privacies.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
What point is privacy if not for the patient's comfort?
@p1kef1sh (45640)
11 Sep 10
My only stipulation is that they are qualified otherwise I don't mind. However, I think that it's "different for girls" especially for those more intimate examinations. I drop my pants for anyone in a white coat. LOL.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
What if they're wearing a blue coat?
@much2say (40178)
• United States
11 Sep 10
Let's see . . . when I grew up, we went to a female family doctor - who took care me me, my sister, and my mom. My dad went to that doctor's brother in the next office (um, IF he ever went to the doctor, that is). Then at some point we never went to the doctors as my dad was a believer in "if you're healthy, there's no need to go to the doctors or pay that kind of bill" - so I didn't go til I was in college. I had various doctors (at college, at clinics, blah blah) - but I always requested females . . . I guess I thought they could relate to me better. Even in recent years, I always wanted female OB/GYNs. BUT when I had my son, I had no choice in the matter during delivery - it had to be a male doc. I ultimately didn't care that the doc was male - but maybe because it concerned me more that this doc was a bit strange. My son is too young to care - but my daughter actually has a preference for male doctors!! Well, males period . . . she never liked women - beit doctors or cashiers at the grocery store or wherever. We'll see if she changes her mind when she's a wee bit older!!
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 Sep 10
Yeah when her body starts changing, she'll most likely want a female doctor.