HELP! My friend hates cellphones!

@jimeny (640)
Israel
September 13, 2010 7:40am CST
So I tried to have a text chat with my friend because he can't really answer calls most of the time, and the person just answer with 'yes' and 'now'. Nothing more than just a word as a reply! Now, I remember he hated cellphones when we were in highschool, so I asked him if my text messages bother him, which he managed to answer with "no, why do you ask that?" so I told him that it bother some people. Late on I saw his texts were one word at a time so I asked him if he still hates cellphones, to which he answered- "yes". So I just had to continue the conv and asked if he hates texting... Guess what was his answer? of course... "yes". So I told him I won't send him anymore texts then. How would you react? should I continue to text him sometimes even though he hates texting? or shouldn't I? What is your opinion on this issue? Please share. Happy MyLotting.
3 people like this
17 responses
@ShepherdSpy (8563)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
13 Sep 10
I don't have a problem with cellphones..I have a problem with people in company and in restaurants who can't leave the thing alone or turn it off while they're eating or supposed to be spending time with You! Do we really NEED to be connected that much all the time? Back to You and your Issue..Your Friend makes me wonder..why does he need a cellphone if He doesn't want to use it?
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
About my friend... Well, he's in the military and there are no phones he could use. So he has to use a cellphone in order to be in contact with everyone.
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
13 Sep 10
..Or their phone bleeps for an incoming text message,and you KNOW they're itching to check it out..I haven't given up yet on a landline phone,or at least until as long as I need an internet connection..I don't yet have a laptop,so am still open on the subject of wireless internet connection. I see where your friend is coming from..he does want to be in contact,it's a necessity for Him..maybe just texting,not so much..
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
I still don't know what to think... he hates both cellphones and computers, or at least he say he does. But he didn't call me/text me unless I did it first, in a while.
@SilverKing (1021)
• Canada
14 Sep 10
Yeah i also have a friend that does not like texting that much as well talking on the phone.She thinks that it is a waste of time and that people in todays society spend far to much time texting and talking on the phone and don't do that much stuff that is productive.I sort of agree with her and this that this generation of kids that grew up with the cell phone are lazy and don't interact as much as kids did in previous generations.
1 person likes this
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
14 Sep 10
That's true. Children these days are used to online communicating... messenger, ICQ, skype... chatrooms... forums... It's much harder to communicate in person. I think I need to gather the courage to call him and ask him to meet me in person, as I don't know when he's around.
• United States
13 Sep 10
I would not bother. If he does not like phones and texting, just text him when you want to make plans, and talk in person. You don't want to keep communicating in a way that he doesn't like, anyway. Hang out with him in person, go out for coffee, and forget about the phone. Good luck!
1 person likes this
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
14 Sep 10
I'll try and do that, I just need to figure out what he DOES like to do. XD
@o0jopak0o (6408)
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
well i hate using my phone just for texting. it really is bothersome for me. better to call them than having these kind of conversions: you: hi! me: hello! you how you doing? me: fine how about you? you: fine also! what you doing right now? after a while ill just hang myself.
1 person likes this
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
Yeah, I know when you're coming from... I hate those conversations too, and I have it with people that I actually meet! it's hella annoying... I just can't stand it.
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
Hmm, that's interesting. I'm not sure what to do to. I'm not much into texting too because I prefer e-mails and/or Facebook. I seldom load my phone but when I do, I try to keep in touch with friends. For your friend, it seem like he really hates it. If you still want to send him text messages, maybe you can ask him if it's all right for you to send him messages. You do know he hates texting but maybe it's all right for him to receive even if he doesn't reply. If he really does not want just even to receive messages, I'd suggest you can respect his wishes and find alternative ways of communication like the landline or internet. I hope this helps a bit. Have a nice day!
1 person likes this
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
Haha, thanks for the advice! Sadly, he hates computers and internet as well, and he's in this area once a month... so it's very hard to keep in touch with him without using a cellphone.
@jinghan (133)
• China
13 Sep 10
cellphone is a useful tool for me ,so i can't understand him. ehh,i think i would be crazy if my life without a cellphone.
1 person likes this
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
Well, I guess he's different than you. Now that I think abut it... he's quite different than most people... I'd go crazy w/o a cellphone too, if it were more than few days.
@Catana (736)
• United States
13 Sep 10
Maybe your friend just doesn't like to be interrupted at whatever he's doing. It doesn't matter whether it's a call or texting, whether it's a cell phone or a landline, it's decided that someone should communicate with you, at a time you decide. I won't say that it's rude, because telephones have always been in our lives, but we don't have the right to expect that everybody is going to be glad to drop what they're doing, to talk to us. Too many people use the phone just to chat, ignoring the fact that other people don't care to chat. Keep your texting to what's really important, and you may get better responses from your friend.
1 person likes this
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
I see your point, however it's difficult to keep in contact with him without the calls/texting as he's far away. I do however speak about important subjects when I contact him and not just stuff like 'how's the weather?'. Thanks for your advice. (:
• Bahamas
13 Sep 10
Hi jimeny.. I dont hate cellphones but i hate texting, i do understand that it is cheaper to text than to call but i would rather talk than text.Texting to me is so bothersome that like your friend i,m guilty of using one phrase most of the time.
1 person likes this
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
What does your friends say about the 'one phrase' usage? or did they learn not to text you already? XD
• Canada
13 Sep 10
It's really up to your friend, you wont be able to change his mind about cell phones. I love cell phones to be honest, I don't have a home phone and don't see the need for one since I work a lot, and really don't feel the need for it. Cell phones keep me in touch with everyone I need to be, my landlord, clients at work, my boss, etc. It's been a real lifesaver for me, and I wouldn't have it any other way. If he doesn't want to text, then don't text him anymore. If he comes around, then he'll text you. Otherwise, don't force him to text you back, he'll shy away from it even more.
1 person likes this
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
I like landlines more because it's cheaper than cellphones, but other than that, I always like the fact that I can call from anywhere at anytime when I have my cellphone with me. Thanks for the advice!
@ElicBxn (60167)
• United States
13 Sep 10
my roommate - who doesn't see real well - can't figure out how to make a space on her phone, so she only does one word texts
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
13 Sep 10
Maybe you can teach her? XD I had my sisters sending me one word at a time when they wanted to wish me a happy day once. It was like- "have" "a" "happy" "day" "love" "your" "sisters". It was kinda funny, and indeed made my day a happy one!
1 person likes this
@ElicBxn (60167)
• United States
13 Sep 10
well, I haven't had a chance to check out her phone, but we only needed it the 2 times and she got her message across to me fine generally speaking we don't need to text, we im from the other rooms all the time tho...
• China
14 Sep 10
I think that your friends hate a text chating.maybe there some reasons,such as he/she don't want to receive text messages in some places or some time.so i think that you should consider firstly,where she/he is ,or what she/he is doing before you send some messages.your friend want to recieve the messages in the proper time or place. you can talk with her/him face to face if necessary
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
14 Sep 10
I think I'll try to text him and ask if he can talk with me. I might even prepare some subjects to speak about!
• China
14 Sep 10
everyone has his own way to live on . i don't think its wrong for one don't like to speak on the cellphones. that the way he like or hate. maybe i am wrong ,so i just speak our my opinnion.
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
14 Sep 10
It's cool. Everyone are entitled to have their own opinions. I hope you will always stand for what you think and believe... happy mylotting!
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
13 Sep 10
It is so obvious, he doesn't like you to bother him with this text message, probably it might cost him significant amount of money, so, don't do it, and leave him alone.
@jimeny (640)
• Israel
14 Sep 10
That sounds kinda cold... He's still my friend, and I'd want to stay in his life somehow.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
6 Sep 11
Hi, jimeny. If your friend hates cell phones and texting then, I would not bother with calling him from my cell phone. I would not text him either. Why? Okay, say for instance, you have to pay every time that you text someone. Well, this is your money that is paying for sending or receiving any text messages from anyone. I myself, don't hate cell phones, I just only use them when I have to. I am not a cell phone "lover", nor am I a cell phone "hater".
@chrislotz (8207)
• Canada
4 Sep 11
I hate text messages because you can't hear each others tone of voice and things get taken out of context so easily and causes so much drama. I never use the text messaging on my cell phone. I had it blocked with my cell phone provider so that no one can text me and I can't text either. I know so many people that have broken up or have had so much drama in their lives because of someone taking things out of context in a text message. For example, my own daughter, we live together and I see and hear things. Her and her boyfriend, ex now I think, use text messages more than phone calls. She asked him one evening if he was coming over because she was missing him and feeling a little neglected since they hadn't seen each other for about 5 days. Well, he took it all negatively and thought she was nagging him and complaining about not seeing her for 5 days. That's all he concentrated on from her text messsage, not the I'm missing you but the feeling a little neglected part and it caused all kinds of drama. She didn't mean for that to happen, if she was talking on the phone he would have heard her tone of voice and he wouldn't have taken it negative but in the positive way she meant it. So I do love my cell phone, for talking on the phone, but not for texting. I will never have my texting activated again. Cheers and have a good day my friend, Chris
• United States
22 Sep 10
If he hates texting, This means Every text is annoying to him. So in other words you are annoying him.If he doesn't do the phone thing. send emails . If he isn't into the computer thing ., Write him a letter. I hate phones. My cellphone is turned off and downstairs while I am upstairs. All my friends and even my boss knows the Only way to reach me is by email. if someone texted me I wouldn't respond because I wouldn't read them , period . So feel lucky he sends a one word reply. Me. It would be a two word reply, if you know what I mean.
@harmonee (1236)
• United States
14 Sep 10
I guess there's not much you can do. If he doesn't like it, I just wouldn't text him anymore unless it's something you are wanting a response to. Maybe he'll come around. My dad used to hate texting and now he does it fairly regularly. For some people, they would just rather talk to you than read a text.