Have you ever have a fight with your father?

China
September 13, 2010 9:36am CST
My father got drunken again tonight. No doubt, a drunken father is the most fearful thing in the world to me. He always blames me unreasonable on every tiny little things. When I try to argue with him, he never care about what I am saying. His only respons is to shout even louder and bellowing with rage. I cannot communicate with him when he is drunken. Sometime I would ignore him, also sometime when I cannot bear his unreasonalbe blame, I may have a big fight with him. What about you? How do you think about your father? Does he have some flaws that you can't stand? How do you deal with the relationship between you and your father? Have you guys ever been into a fight like me? Hope you can share your story with us.
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10 responses
• Malaysia
14 Sep 10
I believe this 'what you give, you will get back'. Your story remind me to my past experience, but my father passed away last 4 years. He is drunken and always fighting with my elder brother. But i am really proud because my mum treat him as nice as she can. She never ignore him even he drunk. She communicate nicely with my father when he not drunk. at last, before my father passed away,he totally changed his lifestyle because of my mum. Actually, we can communicate well with them easily but must in a right time and right place with right person.
• China
14 Sep 10
You mum is really a great woman, wisdom and patient made her admirable. I believe that your mum and your father must be the right person for each other.
• Malaysia
15 Sep 10
Yeah, i believe that your father also is the right person to your family...
• Philippines
14 Sep 10
Yeah... My father and I fought again and again whenever he got drunk.. Until, I got tired having a fight with him whenever he got drunk, I just keep away from him just to avoid a conversation that would probably made us fight.. Anyway, drunken person mostly do not listen to whatever we say.
• China
14 Sep 10
Exactely~! Almost everyone regard silence as the best and the most useful weapon. I think I should try it next time.
@nicole00 (141)
• United States
13 Sep 10
Me and my dad hasnt gotten along since I have been grown. We been at it since I was like 9 years old and been able to reconignize him for who he is. He calls me names and tells me I am not his daughter, and it hurts but Ive grown alot and ive ignored it alot. Do I desire a father? Of course but Im 23 years old and grown and I just make usre my kids have better and I will let God deal with him and his eveil ways.
• China
14 Sep 10
I can't understand why your father saying something like that, I know it really hurt. I am 22 years old and I wish my future kids have a better father too.
• India
13 Sep 10
well this is not the case with my father my father is a very good person he only points me when i really have done something wrong although i had sometimes fought with my father but after sometime when i think of that i always came toi conclusion that there was my faulty only..
• China
14 Sep 10
If my father can do like your father dose, I would be langhing even in my dreams! Due to my problem and the responses all above, I have to say you are really lucky. Wish you and your father happy everyday and never fight any more~
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
13 Sep 10
I can remember having fights with my father when i was younger. What can i say about those teenage years? We both always thought we were right. That would just bring something on. If he was drinking, it could be worse. I was usually the one who backed down. After all, this was my father.
• China
14 Sep 10
Well sometimes we are right indeed, but not always. When clam down and thinking, I realize I can understand him, though I still believe he is wrong. In our country, there is a adage which said that you can not understand parents's love untill you got your own child. Do you agree?
@triondem (151)
• Estonia
13 Sep 10
I havent, because i was very little - when my father left us. So Im living with my stepfather and he's cool. So response to your questions - Have you ever have a fight with your father? No!
• China
13 Sep 10
Thanks for your respons! You remind me that I should cherish what I have got——a healthy father and his love. I'm sorry about you father, but luckly you have your cool stepfather. A cool stepfather can also give a hind like a father, isn't he? Just like Sirius Black dose for Harry Potter. May you and you stepfather happy everyday~!
• Philippines
13 Sep 10
My first impression when I am asked regarding my father is that he is too authoritative compare to my mother. Very often, I see him being drunk and he is different from his normal acts when he is not. He talks so many things and I benefited from it because I knew things which are not supposed to tell. He also speaks of harsh words but I take it for granted. But I never had the experience of quarreling with him when he's drunk. I just listen to what he said and only in the morning that I will talk to him.
• China
13 Sep 10
Good for you! I think the way you deal with drunk father really wisdom and efficiency. I think I should use for reference next time. Thank you very much!
@Fireheart (683)
• India
13 Sep 10
well i can understand that in your case, in anycase when i was a kid i used to argues over something that i need to my dad, and he does everything i need for me, for that am content and then on else i never argued over anything any more. i know my dad loves me more than anyone. let me ask you, how is your dad when not drunk. and does you mom say anything about this.
• China
13 Sep 10
How I envy you! You father seems much nicer than mine. When my father not drunk, he do not shout, but he always enjoy command others and cannot stand disobeying. My mother has the same opinion about my father with me. She sometimes complain about this and says that she should not be married to him. But my father also have some virtue, sometimes really sweet. For example, he is very considerate to me and mom. Anyway, no matter what kind of people he is, there is one thing can never change, which is he is my father and we love each other.
@joezon50 (379)
• Hong Kong
18 Sep 10
We dont think every one of us are perfect in anyways,sometimes me and my father got some discussion but it wont take long.Me and my FATHER usually share plans and dreams mostly..but since hes gone for almost 19yrs ago,we really missed him so much.For me dont worry too much i know someday you and your father will get along dont lose hope ok?The relationship between Father and hes Children are very important promise,your father loves you only hes ashame to show it to you my friend,tnx
@flauee (92)
15 Sep 10
i had few fights with my father.. but just lame ones i suppose.. my dad is a kind of person who talks things out.. no yelling nor using fists...