Why do people invite you out on face book,knowing that you do not go on there

@jugsjugs (13045)
September 14, 2010 5:26pm CST
I have had a face book account from the time Face book first started up.A few friends have been leaving me inbox messages asking me if i want to go out,aswell as to their house for a drink.A friend of mine has just text me to ask me to look at my face book messages,so i sent her a text saying that i do not bother with face book as i have other things that i do,so text or ring me in future,either that or pop in for a cuppa.She is not a person that looks at other peoples walls so perhaps that is why she never knew that i did not go on there anymore,also i told her that i was not ignoring her.
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@ShepherdSpy (8562)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
14 Sep 10
I'm still quite new to the Social networking thing.I do have a FB account,but have never even visited twitter as yet...I can see the attraction of networked communication possibilities when you can post messages on your "Wall" for friends to read and reply to,and make arrangements to share time with them..but you have to be aware who the friends are that actively use the site! The ability to link a cellphone to your account could be a blessing or a curse,depending on whether someone was posting useful info or just trivial gossip which you'd be paying to receive..I'd like the option of a "Busy" or "Away" or "Offline" status that would let someone know you weren't available..
@jugsjugs (13045)
15 Sep 10
I think that there are alot of people on there that only go on there todo a bit of stiring,so that is the reason why i do not go on there.I feel that if people want to invite other people out then it is better to text them,as that way you know that the person has got the message.I would never say where i was going as a status,as i would not want everyone to know where i was and you never know who else could be seeing your status.
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• Omagh, Northern Ireland
15 Sep 10
Texting is more direct,true,but depending on how many friends used the site,and how many you were keeping in contact with for whatever event,the web page could be more effective,and less expensive..True,Security issues would be a concern,if you were unsure of how to adjust security settings on the site,and if there were people you'd rather not see your status..
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@jameshe (126)
• Cameroon
14 Sep 10
A lot of people believe Facebook, myspace, twitter is the primary communitcation method. My friends go on facebook whenever there is a computer nearby. I don't see the point with facebook. If I need to contact my friends, I'll phone them. I agree, I don't bother with facebook, and a lot of ppl feel like that I'm ignoring them. There's nothing you can do. However, it's easier to change yourself rather than change others.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
15 Sep 10
There are alot of friends on there,but there are alot of friends on there that i have not seen in alot of years,other friends come to see me aswell as they ring or text me now,as they are also fed up with facebook,as there is far too much back stabbing that is going on it.
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@rhodzptc (1319)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
That is exactly what facebook are for, to met those people again that you have not for a years and make at least a distant communications with them. Some people use facebook to reunite with their high school and college friends.
• United States
14 Sep 10
Well, many people are using Facebook and Twitter now, and so most people automatically assume that other people have Facebook and Twitter. I have Facebook, but I don't have Twitter. I don't really like using Twitter. There is nothing wrong with Facebook and it is very easy to use, but just anything, you have to watch your back.
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@jugsjugs (13045)
15 Sep 10
I think that there are alot of people that go on these social sites that tend to only go on there to see what other people are up to and where they are going and who they are going for a chat with.There are also people on there that only go on there to see if people will comment on a status that they put up.
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@doormouse (4619)
14 Sep 10
i've noticed that everyone presumes that the whole world uses facebook,i tried once and hated it,all my friends know that i don't have an account but on the odd occasion they'll slip up and say oohhh did you see what happened on so and so's wall the other day,,,
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@jugsjugs (13045)
15 Sep 10
I could not be dealing with face book so i came off it.My account is still there just incase i need to get intouch with a friend of my husbands,i have had my wall so that people can not write on it for ages.I think that there are people that only go on there to try to stir trouble up,if and when they can get to a pc,then there are people like me that just go on there if i need a email address of a friend,to send them a link like a few of my friends that are now on here all the time as they are fed up of seeing the same old same old.
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@cream97 (29166)
• United States
15 Sep 10
I don't know why they do something like this. My guess is that they want to hang out with you more. I don't get these kind of requests at all. I think that you should just ignore them or tell them that you are not interested in joining them for a drink. I don't get any messages like this. People on facebook act as if they are by themselves on this site. I don't bother with many people that much. Sometimes I just consider deleting my entire facebook account if you know what I mean.
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@Grandmaof2 (7603)
• Canada
14 Sep 10
Wow we aren't friends without a reason!!!! I have cousins that have repeatedly insisted I join Facebook. Not going to lie to you I believe you don't know till you try it. So with that said I did try it. I would love to have viewed pictures of family but if that's what I need to do, as in something I dislike then I guess I don't need the pictures. I find Facebook to be very juvenile, pure gossip and people seeking love no matter what their marriage vows are and right now I have far to many problems without this BS. For those who do enjoy Facebook and I know there are many who reconnect with school friends etc, excellent and good for you, I just don't have the same luck.
• United States
14 Sep 10
Oh I sure hope not as I have had an account on facebook now for 3 years. It has been 9 months since I have actually logged in. But I had quite a few nosy friends so I am sure they know that from looking on my wall. I lost my zest for it. Facebook alerts come to my phone and I just delete. I hope the invites are not coming just to facebook. As I would hope that they would have the sense to call me knowing that I have not logged in, in so long.
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@gaboni (644)
• Israel
30 Sep 10
It is happening because people take facebook way too serious. In my case, I see facebook as a killer of all those great talks on phone and friend's visiting. Today they just press "Poke" or inviting you to an event through and invitation which was automatically sent to your wall ." Most of the times it is just people who don't even care about/ don't want you to come... but they are so lazy to mark only the relevant people so they just mark "all" and finish it.
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@Memnon (2173)
22 Sep 10
Face book holds no appeal for me. I guess people just think that they are being friendly. What does throw me is that I know people who see each other often at work, and talk about Facebook. When they get home, they promptly log on, and talk about work!
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@Sanitary (3969)
• Singapore
17 Sep 10
That's what happening to me as well. I'm not in facebook most of the time, but yet i keep getting messages from people, as well as friends. Instead of them calling or texting to ask about how i'm doing, they are asking am i not in fcebook for such long period of time! I do get pissed off by such comments from them. Though facebook is popular and majority of people has got account in it, but that does not mean we have to be logging in everyday right? We have our freedom and rights to choose.
@GardenGerty (102595)
• United States
15 Sep 10
People just think everyone in the world is on Facebook and loves it. I am a stubborn old lady and if everybody is doing it, you can bet I am not. I would rather be here, or contacted directly in my e mail.
@shaggin (37817)
• United States
13 Mar 11
I think its really nice actually when people invite us to things even knowing that we never go out. It should make us feel good that they arent excluding us. My friends all go out and do things but they never invite me so I am the one left feeling left out. I wish they would invite me even if they didnt think that I would go out.
• United States
19 Sep 10
i guess they think it's being friendly. some people can't comprehend some people don't have the time or inclination to be on there 24/7.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
17 Sep 10
Well, whenever I get a message on facebook, I have it sent to send me notifications to my email as well so for those people that I am friends with but don't have my regular email address or my cell phone number, they are able to leave me messages on facebook and then I am able to read the message through my inbox. That way, I don't miss the fact that I have a message from them. Do you not have this feature set up?
@celticeagle (119872)
• Boise, Idaho
16 Sep 10
Well, that is good of you to tell her. I go on Facebook daily for a break from my online work. So I am just the opposite of you. I enjoy it and I too rarely go on others walls. Too many and too little time. I enjoy Facebook and have had no problems so far so will probably continue to go on there for a time.
@Lore2009 (7389)
• United States
15 Sep 10
I am like you and I do not use Facebook often. I use it for promotion etc... but I believe people use it to send the same messages across to a good number of people so that they can get tasks done quicker. Also, they may be on the computer that since they're on the net, they'll use that advantage to get messages across with facebook. if i didn't need to promote any of my work, then I wouldn't have facebook.. there wouldn't be a good reason for it. Maybe you should cancel yours so your friends wont be confused.
• United States
15 Sep 10
Well a lot of people use facebook now a days. It is actually kind of un-common to not check your facebook at least once a day. So your friend just probably figures that you're like her, and you're an active user. Just explain nicely that you don't check it, and that she should get a hold of you another way.
@bestboy19 (5482)
• United States
15 Sep 10
If you have friends who don't know you no longer use face book and are trying to contact you through it, shouldn't you have told them you were no longer using it?
• India
15 Sep 10
You may not be there in the facebook or any other community were you friend is a member. Also if he had requested you to join there because he want a friend like you to share his space. But still if you dont want to join , then you can politely decline it. But i dont think it will help as the mail which you got will be send throughs friend emailing list. It should be an automated mail
• United States
15 Sep 10
Then set your phone up for facebook texts