Is it recommended that mothers should stay at home rather than work in an office

Philippines
September 15, 2010 12:19am CST
Do you think that moms should only stay at home taking care of their family rather than working in an office. I am a work-at-home mom and I can say that I love to be staying at home taking care of everything for my family. I also gave up my career as a computer engineer although there are many good offers out there and I am happy with my decision because I have now my loving family. I just supported my husband in his career who is also in the fields of I.T. and I am contented with that.
21 responses
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
15 Sep 10
Hi supermommyjem, Traditional people and societies say that women are to stay at home and do the chores of the house. Maybe to some extent they were right - because you could give time to bring up the kids (among all others this is what I consider most essential). But in today's scenario, it is not what women expect and they are right here. They get education, get treated as equals to men, are proven to be better judges and better performers. With all this and the fact that we need more money for our family to provide them the comforts, if not luxuries, surely favor that women work. Now it depends on what country you are, what exposure you have and how willing you are to manage both aspects. You as a mom and wife, realized that you should stay at home. That was good. You had the knowledge and skills to find online jobs, or any job that you could do from home... This was luck. In my opinion, women should be given the freedom to make this decision and the husbands and others in the family must co-operate - maybe by doing / sharing the chores of the house work
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Thanks for dropping a comment! I agree with you. Importantly every member of the family should cooperate in sharing the household chores including the father so whoever is not present the one will takeover.
@thesids (22358)
• Bhubaneswar, India
15 Sep 10
I think sharing the chores of the household is becoming popular these days and men are shedding off their ego. I love to cook and even was dishes after dinner or lunch just to help my wife and share. I think that these are also a way to show that you care and love your partner. Thanks for the appreciation. Regards.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
I think so, if the finances are okey or if the husband is earning enough for the family, it's just right for mothers to stay at home and take care of the children and prepare the needs of here family. There are others though that want to practice their professions, it's also okey as long as they see to it that everything in the house is in place and that she must have time for the family.
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
correction: needs of her family
• China
15 Sep 10
I don't want to be too subjective to say that mothers should stay at home rather than go out to work in an office. Different people have diverse priorities in life. Some women may give the priority to their families and children while some may see their career as more important and put families in the second place. Whatever the case, people have their particular reasons for doing that and we can't expect to reach an agreement on this issue. But as a woman, personally, I prefer to work outside instead of staying at home taking care of children and husband. What I care most about is to realize my personal value through working. Family and children are certainly important, but I don't want to sacrifice my enthusiasm for working either.
• China
15 Sep 10
This is especially true in my country. Several decades, women stayed at home dealing with house chores and they were financially dependent on their husbands. But now, it is totally different. Almost all women are working outside to support family together with husbands, and they are doing great jobs and contribute a lot to their families.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
We share the same sentiments. Being a stay at home Mom is not something to be embarrassed of. I'm proud I'm one because I can monitor my kids, take good care of my family's needs and have time for myself also. I consider myself lucky because not all Mothers have this privilege of watching their kids grow up and spend time with them in which you cannot do when they are already grown up.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Thanks for dropping a comment! I really love to be a stay at home mom and I admire all moms for taking full time for their family. I wish one day I can be a full time mom at home not worrying of any other work because currently I am still engage with a work at home.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
I don't think it's really a recommendation but rather a choice... it's up to the mother to follow what she wants, and how she'll manage her time
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Thanks for dropping a comment! We all have a choice and I believe that before we finalize our choice we seek for a recommendation.
• United States
15 Sep 10
Well it really depends on whats your family status. If the father can handle all the family needs then it's OK for the mother to stay at home. But in reality today its hard to cope up for the family needs so both parents tends to find work to help up the needs of their family. I believe that whether both parents are working or not they should always know their true responsibilities of being a parent.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Thanks for dropping a comment! Very well said. I like your comment.
@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
15 Sep 10
It depends on the mother and what works for the family. There's no one size fits all rule for an entire gender.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Thanks for dropping a comment! Yes we are treated equally no matter what gender but I think it is very ideal if the husband is the one responsible for the most expenditures in the home and the wife provides the support mainly on the household but it would still be depends on the couple.
@picjim (3003)
• India
15 Sep 10
If you are content then you have made the right choice.I can't say the same for all women as they have different priorities.Your staying at home though doesn't have economic value in the sense that you don't bring home money.However is worth more than the money you can earn in a job.The reason being an educated lady like you can bring up the child well helping them to be well educated and adjusted adults.Though you don't contribute to your family income your support to your husband and family is invaluable.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Thanks for dropping a comment! Even though I am staying a home.. I have a work at home online that can bring money to our family. But I think I would love to be completely a plain housewife but as of now I am helping my husband so we can have our dream house and extra savings.
• India
16 Sep 10
I think we are talking about healthy women fit to work and those who are mothers. Mothers can be married or unmarried, and among unmarried mothers we have: divorced women, widows and single women. Nowadays according to statistics around 40% of women are not married and the majority of them are single parents, so it depends which group is analyzed. It very often happens that fathers' financial contribution is too little. Therefore, to bring up their children and to create an acceptable environment to do so, they have to work and as they are educated and trained in their professions, they are also eligible for their careers, the same as men.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
It is recommended to stay at home when mother still need to take care for their children especially when they have babies 1-16months. Because those are the months where baby develops and recognizes love and affection for his/her parents. But without it, I practically agree that wife should go to work so that they could save more money for their future. ;)
@abrar11 (95)
• India
15 Sep 10
wow wow... u r great... and yes mothers should be at home.. taking care of thier family... they are best at it.. they can do all the things.. but they are meant to b best for it... no man can take place of a mother..!!!!
@webgirl01 (693)
• United States
15 Sep 10
Hi there, I do think moms can and should say at home if they don't feel like working in an office. I think work at home can also be suited for those who are pregnant. If you enjoy being a work at home mom, thats good. What kind of work at home do you do? I did major in I.T and computers. Anyway hope all is well. Good luck at work at home jobs.
@misalax (307)
• Ireland
15 Sep 10
Women stayed at home years ago because their men can support them entirely. But at this time, people are having problems financially, also caused by upgrades with technology, and more necessities. I would say women should work if they can, and if there's someone to watch after their kids (if they have any). As much as possible lets think of how it will affect our family's future, and always be ready for possible outcomes.
@flauee (92)
15 Sep 10
hi supermommyjem.. i too am a stay at home mom by choice.. im a nurse by profession.. i am more concern on my son.. i want to be hands on while he is still young (1yr 11mos). i would like to be the one to see his very 1st smile, crawl and etc. i wanna make sure that my son is fed well and taken the vitamins on time and etc... there are also mothers out there who would love to be a stay at home mom but can't due to some circumstances.
@shearry18 (118)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Sep 10
If you are contented with your life now then you don't need to worry anymore. I guess it's really a matter of choice. If a mom wants to stay at home to take care about the needs of their family then that's a good thing.I think there's also nothing wrong if a mom can do both. Some mothers needs to work because they need to help their husband financially to sustain the needs of their kids. I have to let you know that your a great mom for your decision to stay at home and take care of your family. I salute you for that =)
• Thailand
15 Sep 10
If mothers work in home, it's great. Because the future of children.
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
Hi! Thank you for this post i can relate because i too is a work at home mom. Before i also worked in a corporate office. I chose to be a full-time mom to my daughter now. I feel very happy and blessed.
@ankster (273)
• India
15 Sep 10
Iam extremly happy with your decision.Definitely a mother has alots of responsibilities when she enters into motherhood so instead of spoiling family set up she should try and work out a mid way for a happy family life.I like your decision.You can work from home ,fulfill your career aspirations and look after your child in a best way which if you would have gone out and left him to day care would not have been possible.Iam married but I do not have a kid but I feel the same thing And I wish I also take decision like you.Money can be earned from home as well online but love and peace can be attained only when you think of your family on the whole.LOTS OF luck to you sweety
@dollar3235 (2063)
• India
15 Sep 10
You are really "the super mom". There are a very few people in this world who can prioritize important things in their life and I bet, you have done the best thing for you and your family. Earning money for your family is a good thing and planning your career is also important, however, the main reason for these two decisions for anyone in his/her life is only for prosperity and happiness in his/her family. I agree with you, for the time being, it may feel a bit awkward, however, after 15-20 years, you will be proud of yourself and your children. Upbringing is something that decides the fate of a person to some extent, it is very good to know that you are concerned about the upbringing of your children. All the best "Super Mom" !!!
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
It depends upon the financial ability of the couple... If the husband financial status is good that can sustain the needs of his family I prefer that the mother will stay home to manage the house activities like cooking, taking care of the children and guide them everyday and responsible in the the over all management of the home. But if the salary of husband is short in the budget the women decided to work due to work opportunities and to have more purchasing power in the needs of the family and have better savings for the future of the children