My Agony With My 12 Years Old Son
September 15, 2010 2:50am CST
I am separated for 8 years now. He was 5 when things happened. When he was in his grade 1, he was kicked out from the school because of his attitudes problem. Then, i transferred him to another private school. He was kicked out again just last year in his 5th grade. Last March his father enrolled him in another school and currently lived with his father and it becomes worst, he is addicted to online game and he went home almost everyday between 1am to 3am. And hurts me knowing that he is not going to school and always absent. We talked to him, giving him some rewards, and give him love but still nothing changed. I am afraid for his good future. What else could i do?
15 Sep 10
Gwapako, I think your separation from hour husband had caused the emotional dilemma your 12 year old son is undergoing now. Your son had entered adolescence without having to come to terms that the family he has had been divided. Your son is calling for help and he needs not just your tender loving care but your time and attention as well. You have to give him all these or the consequences may be irreparable. Don't toss him back to your husband anymore. Keep bonding with him while he plays computer. Do not sweet talk him nor give him rewards. Give him a firm hand and straight talk without scolding. Just spell what is in store for him if he doesn't attend school. You are the mother and you must exercise discipline on your child.
15 Sep 10
Maybe it was the separation that made him to be like that. It was his way of trying to tell you and his father that it made an impact on him when you separated. Have you tried heart-to-heart talk with your son? How about try to get him to talk to a counselor or psychologist, with the support of both you and his father. Maybe there's something bothering him and those individuals might help.