If he cheated you, would you stay?

Philippines
September 15, 2010 8:49am CST
what if your partner cheated on you once.., and you found out about it.., He apologize and said he will never do it again.., would you believe him? If you loved him so much.., are you willing to stay in a relationship that has been rocked by infidelity? why and why not? =)
8 responses
@Aniakim (351)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
15 Sep 10
If my husband cheated on me and I found out about it, I guess any woman's immediate reaction would be anger. I would be furious with him until I don't know when and when I am, he won't be able to talk me out to forgiving him. He has to wait and bide time till I am ready to calmly talk to him. I might or might not leave him when I'm still raging in anger. And when I do come out of that furious stage, it would take him a lot of convincing plus tears and sweat to make me forgive him and trust him once again. And because I do love my husband very much, I think I can find it in my heart to forgive him - BUT! just this once. Just a one time mistake because by God if he does it again, I am really going to call it quits without hearing a single explanation from him.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
You're right, that is really fair enough.
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Fair enough!!! and of course trust would be a lot harder to gain back than forgiveness...=)
@Aniakim (351)
• Cagayan De Oro, Philippines
16 Sep 10
Exactly. Forgiving and Forgetting are totally not the same thing.
@aerous (13475)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
We need to consider that no man is perfect. We always committed mistake even we don't want it to be happen in our life. If he cheated you once and ask for your understanding and forgiveness. Okay, give him a chance to correct that mistake he had done unto you. But if he failed to fulfill his promise and cheated you again. That's the time you need to think more. If he deserved to be forgiven or not. It's okay...if committed once. If cheating is committed repeatedly besides any promise has been done. I don't think that person, want to remorse his bad habit in life... Give him a chance, my friend. To see if he really deserve that forgiveness. Tell to him that he take that chance to correct and manage everything that result to irresponsibility... Have a great day!
@fherfher (259)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Well, my ex cheated me more than once. I never see caught him on act. But I caught him in his cellphone that he is having an affair. He said that it his just his text mate. And forgive him. But there some incident that he was wrong sent and i received a message for his x gf. I was really mad and still forgive him. We remain our relationship but unfortunately we ended last July. I feel heartbroken but still hoping to find my true love.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
My bf tried to cheat on me but i caught him in the act..good thing i was very observant and knows when he is doing something bad already. I got really angry at first and yelled at him and cried. I never listened to his explanations because all i know and hear from him seems to be all lies. But i listened to my heart and ask for God guidance, i never thought i could forgive him for doing it. I gave him a second chance and he promised not to do it again. It's hard to give your trust to the person who has already made a scar in your heart and broke the trust you have given him before. But what can i do..my hypothalamus says i love him more than i hate him.
@k1124n4ku (122)
• Indonesia
16 Sep 10
if my partner cheated on me, i will give her a second chance. cause i think everyone need a second chance to improve or learn from her mistakes. i just hope and pray that she will change after all she has done to me. cause if she dont, i will be rally really dissapointed.
@RONDOLAWE (776)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 10
if we are in married no to give a chance but if we are in datting i give second chance to proof it what she said , that is what i do to her .
@Metatronik (5899)
• Pasay, Philippines
15 Sep 10
*knock on the wood* Of course I don't want that to happen for me. Though we have been talk about it if ever we would be challenged. In my case I would honestly say that I don't know what to do or how I am going to react on it but one thing for sure that he already expect is that I might say harsh words for him that could actually make him offend or being insulted. Of course the is a big slap and insulting to me and vice versa to him as well if ever I am the one who cheated. If I am willing to stay it means that I have forgiven him a chance BUT!!!! I must give a condition that he must going to sacrifice of something. I mean of course I am a woman that I believe I should be respected in the first place.
@barelal (111)
• India
15 Sep 10
i will give her one more chance ,because she realize her mistake,and want to make good relation .i will agree with her because mistake is only done by human beings not by got.