You're Beautiful or Handsome...?

@sjhaeki (798)
Philippines
September 15, 2010 10:25am CST
I'm the boy-ish type of girl, but I certainly like guys. I just don't act girly at all. It would even come as a surprise when I'd take interest in make-up and stuff. So when I had my hair cut short (although following a female Korean singer) I had this 'boyish aura' plus, I took pictures covering the bottom half of my face and eyes or almost covering them. Then I got these comments that would add up to: You're handsome but you're pretty - the hair suits me but with a few gestures I'd be suspected as a guy. I have to admit, its a bit flattering that I could just pass either gender. That I can be a cute girl with this short hair but can still pass as a guy with looks. I'm just wondering if others have experience something like that? It may not actually be cross dressing but somehow making some changes or trying out something made someone, even close to you, think that you'd pass as the opposite of what you are. and how does that made you feel?
7 responses
@dhysanne (451)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Well, I think some girls have these kind of personality. Pretty girls like you becomes handsome guy when they wear their jeans and caps. And even get other girls attention, even get them as admirers. You're lucky for that. When I was in my younger age, I get to feel like acting like a guy just to avoid guys fooling around.
• China
17 Sep 10
Oh,were there guys chasing after you at that time?Well I think you either studied well or were a beautiful girl in your younger age.Have a nice day!
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
Sometimes, I'm thankful that having a boy-ish charm(?) keeps the guys from fooling around. I don't mean it that I'm popular or something but sometimes there are just those kinds of guys who like to play around with girls or disrespect girls. And acting boy-ish or looking boy-ish lessens that possibility.
@allamgirl (2145)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
well, i've never been told that i look like a boy. although most of my friends and former classmates that me and my brother could pass up as twins because we look so much alike. my classmates in college even convinced our history professor (who was also my brother's prof) that he and i were twins. he was flustered why i was ahead by a year, i just told him, i'm way smarter than my brother and was accelerated one year up. he actually believed it until i came clean about it. so i guess if i were to cut my hair really short, i'd probably look a bit like a guy too. or maybe my brother would look like a girl if he grew his hair out. hmmm... your discussion really gets me thinking about this now. :)
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
haha...your situation actually reminds me one of my friends and her brother who would also pass as twins if they'd just change their appearances. Although our classmates thought they were going out before knowing their real relationship. She actually told us that she and her younger brother would trade places as a joke and we kinda gave more ideas to it. If you guys are like identical twins-like then cosplaying as each other might pull off, who knows.
@allamgirl (2145)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
haha, that's way funnier. i don't know if my brother and i can pull being identical though. but when we were little, my mom would always dress us up like twins. like the boy and girl version. we didn't look so much alike when we were little though. and i only believed that we do look alike when we pulled that stunt with our prof. :)
• China
16 Sep 10
Apparently this is not a problem for boys for there are rare boys that look like girls or behave girly,I think.I don't know how do I feel if I looked like a girl,it's weired.And I'm kind of thankful that I don't have to do much shopping with a high voice bargainning and with high heels,and pregnancy,lol.Hey girl don't care about your gestures and compliments too much.I don't think there is something wrong with it.And it's cool you have both sides' advantages,beauty and toughness(maybe there is better description)And your boyfriend?I think he's on his way to you,have a nice day!
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
hahaha~ thank you for the encouragement. I'm going to disagree, I think, about rare male popularity looking/acting girly these days. Well, with guys who could look either way amazes me. As for the boyfriend, yeah... I'm just taking my time.
@SinfulRose (3529)
• Davao, Philippines
16 Sep 10
I cannot pass as a guy even though I seem like a guy since I have no interest in the opposite gender at all. I am all lady-like, as I am trained to grow up to be thanks to my doting grandmother. Anyway, I've been told that I am pretty, beautiful and other stuff like that but every time someone tells me that I still feel flattered. Maybe because all I ever hear my family say is that I am fat and that "She's more cuter than me and stuff." Anyways, I never really listen to compliments and those since I don't want it to get into my head. I am the kind of person who prideful, you see. And beauty is not a problem to me--because I am already "beautiful", a friend told me when I said that. Back to the topic at hand, I never really felt so embarrassed about my looks until (1)a classmate of mine told one of my friends who commented that she's way cuter than me, that I attract more eyes than she could. And (2) when an upperclassman told me that I am cute and beautiful and that I have the looks and wondered why, even though I'm college already, that I still haven't experienced having a boyfriend. Heck! I do my utmost to look nerdy and strict but all they see is the combination of my mother's beautiful face and my father's good skin color and height. Why can't they see the pimples of my face and the eyeglasses sitting on top of my nose? Oh! I totally forgot that my pimples are already disappearing...so what about the glasses?! (T_T) Happy MyLotting
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
it's good that you don't get compliments into your head, and that keeps you down to earth. Well, as for those two times that made you embarrassed about your looks, I hope it didn't actually get you down. I guess, people who are insecure could say something that could hurt you. And you could just say that being single was made by choice or joke about it. I'm already done with college but I still don't have a boyfriend. But my friends and I just think that if our classmate who doesn't really look too pretty (I don't want to sound offending lol) could get herself bfs then why can't we? haha :) Have a nice day!
• Pakistan
15 Sep 10
i am normal some people say's that i am beautiful and some say's that i am handsome and some say's that you are beautiful and handsome. happy my lot
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
thank you for your response. :)
@jayrene (2713)
• Philippines
15 Sep 10
when i was younger, everyone thought i was a tomboy because i dont act girly, up till i got into college. but then i havent had that experience or never came to my mind that i can look like a boy, never tried it either. i think i wont pass as a guy even if i will have a short hair cut because of my eyes, and my lips... but being labeled as a tomboy when i am not most of the times make me feel awkward. i didnt change my ways though, im comfortable with what i was doing before (how i dress, etc..)
@sjhaeki (798)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
I guess as long as we, ourselves, know what we are what others say wouldn't really matter that much. Well, my classmates before thought of me that way until they found out I had guy crushes and actually have interest in guys. Thanks for your response.
• China
16 Sep 10
Apparently it shouldn't pose a problem to boys because we don't have to worry about marrying someone,lol.And I believe there may be rare boys who look like girls or bahve girly,I seldom encounter such people.I can't imagine what if I looked like a girl,it's weired.But don't care much about your gestures and other people's comments too much.Actually I feel it's cool,you have both sides' advantages,beauty and gentleness,lol.And I know a girl who's cute and bahave as a boy,we get along very well with each other.ANd your boyfrend?I think he's just on the way to you.Have a nice day!