long distance relationship

September 16, 2010 7:53am CST
Were you engaged in a long distance relationship? Have you experienced how hard it is to handle such relationship? And have you ever ask yourself if it's worth lasting for or letting go?
4 responses
@Cargoleta (726)
• Spain
16 Sep 10
I've been in a long distance relationship for almost two years now (my boyfriend is from Sweden and I'm from Spain), and for me it's definitely worth lasting :) We're completely in love with each other and, even though it's hard to be apart, we try to bear with it as nicely as possible: one of us visits the other every 2-3 months, and the rest of the time we talk over Skype (with webcam and such) every day, so even if we can't physically be with together we can still see and hear each other. Some days it's harder than others, because we miss each other so much, but I wouldn't change it for anything else, because I love him so much :) So, for me, if you love the other person it doesn't matter if they live far away and you have to have a long distance relationship... for me it's totally worh it.
17 Sep 10
Thank you for your response. I really appreciate it. By the way, both of us are from Philippines but because of the fact that living here in the Philippines is hard, he and his family planned to go in Canada to study and live there permanently. Just like you, we all have the opportunity to talk to each other using skype, facebook and ym. But sometimes I feel that he's changing. I really don't want to admit it, but it is very obvious that there's a part of him changing. But I know that it is really worth it to make that relationship last but I'm really afraid that one day, he will leave me. He always tell me that he will come back and marry me. But, sometimes I don't believe him because we are too young, the fact that he can always find for someone better than me. =(
• Spain
17 Sep 10
Aw, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling like this. If you feel like he's changing, maybe you should talk to him about it? Tell him how you feel about it and such. Sometimes it can be just you being worried, or if there is something indeed, I believe the best thing to do is to talk about it and discuss it. I hope everything goes well for you!
17 Sep 10
Thank you so much. I really appreciate people like you who are willing to listen to someone else's problems and share some ideas. Sometimes, I really feel that I'm the only one who is worried. But every time I get angry about what I think (the "change" thing), he is the one insisting that I must tell him what I feel. But I really feel worried that one day, he would find for another and leave me.
@nicajoice (188)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Yes, I've been in a long distance relationship a few years back. My boyfriend then was a year younger than me, so when I graduated from High School,I had to leave him because I had to study in a different place (to give you an idea how far it was, from my university to the province, it takes almost 2 hours by plane, 3 days by bus, 3 days by ferry). It was very hard for us to keep in touch because using cellphones back then was too expensive and using the internet back then was very inconvenient for me (us). It didn't work out eventually, partly because of the communication problem and primarily of the fact that we were too young to maintain such a relationship. I found out later on that he had a new girl and we just broke up without even having a formal closure or anything. Even I failed in that relationship, I somehow feel that long distance relationship can work if both parties are committed. :)
17 Sep 10
I'm sorry to hear that. But I know that you were able to move on and forgot everything. Is it really true that for a guy who goes to other place, he will surely have other girl? I mean does it happens every time that when a guy goes to other place, he can have other girl and leave her girlfriend?
• Philippines
17 Sep 10
I haven't been into a lot of relationships (i've only had two ex-boyfriends, I'm currently single), but based on my experience and my friends' experiences, I think it's quite easy for a lot of guys to involve themselves to other girls even though they are in a current relationship. Although I don't feel good about this, this is the reality. I think guys value intimacy so much that they look for substitutes whenever they're girlfriends are not around, or worst, when the girlfriend can't provide such intimacy. But, I'd like to hope that there are still guys out there who can be faithful despite being far from their loved ones. :)
17 Sep 10
I know also that that is reality. But I still believe that there are exceptions. I don't know if I'm doing it right. I don't know if it is right for me to believe everything that my boyfriend is telling me. But, during our almost three years together, he didn't do anything wrong most especially about finding girls that's why I always believe in everything he tells me. I still hope that my boyfriend is the exception and he is faithful to me despite of him being far from me.
@luxlyangels (1286)
19 Sep 10
LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP IS NOT GOOD. tHE ISSUE OF TRUST IS THERE AND TRUST ME A GUY CAN BE SEDUCED BY ANY SEXY WOMAN AND SLEEP WITH HER.. yOU SEE I USED TO LOVE THIS GIRL WHO IS NOW IN LONDON AND I AM STILL BACK HOME,EVEN THOUGH I SEE HER DURING THE HOLS BEFORE ,NOW I HAVNT SEEN HER IN LIKE 2 YRS AND ITS BECOMING SOMETHING ELSE.THE ONLY THING IM HAPPY ABOUT IS THAT SHE STILL HASNT BEEN WITH ANY MAN,AT LEAST THAT IS WHAT SHE TOLD ME AND IM LOVING HER EVERYDAY FOR THAT,BUT AS FOR ME BACK HOME WHERE THERE IS TEMPTATION EVERY WHERE HOW DO YOU WANT ME TO COPE.ITS NOT AN EASY THING I TELL YOU BECAUSE OVER THE YEARS I HAVE HAD PLENTY ONE NIGHTER AND MORE
19 Sep 10
aw, sad to hear that. I really feel sad to hear your response. but thank you for giving your opinion as a guy. But, does it really happen everytime? I mean, do all of you guys are like that?
@kharlav (1673)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
Yes, I have actually I experienced it thrice. So based on experience I can say that a long distance relationship is not healthy, actually none of my long distance relationships worked. But it also depends on case to case basis, there may be some who can really work it out, but i think for most, it wouldn't.
17 Sep 10
Oh. Thank you for your response. I appreciate it.