Love or Career?

Philippines
September 19, 2010 4:53am CST
I could still remember when my sociology teacher told us that career oriented women have a greater probability of failed relationship. I somehow believe on this because I know a lot of successful women who suffered from infidelity and broken families. They say the major reason is the lack of quality time together. Hmm, so does it mean you really have to choose between love and career? Could a woman not attain both success? If you really have to choose which one would you prefer? Love/Family or career given the fact that you shed so much effort and time to achieve such position?
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16 responses
• China
19 Sep 10
it is hard to balance. but i tell you a real story.a friend of mine,give up her career for her boyfriend. but they broken up,because the boy said a girl have her own career does not charming.
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• United States
19 Sep 10
The only reason divorce and overall relationship failure is more prominent in career women is because they have the strength of will and ability to take care of themselves. They are in no way dependent on their husband or family to survive. Many even make successful single mothers, caring for the entire "family load" of home and money all by themselves. Therefore, if anything goes wrong in the relationship, they have no issue with getting out of a bad situation and moving on with their lives. Housewives often become dependent on their husband's income and cannot take care of themselves, much less provide for their children properly and therefore become trapped in their relationships. They're no less susceptible to problems in the relationship, they are simply unequipped to deal with what it means to be independent, and so they stay. This is the reason why I don't go by divorce as a symbol of success. There are too many instances where people stay in an unhealthy marriage just to keep up appearances. I do not think simply staying married is marital success. I think maintaining a healthy relationship and pursuing overall happiness in your life is the measure of true success.
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@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
That's really a sad thing when people(both men and women), focus on their career more, their partners would tend to have extra marital affairs for that reason that their partner has no time for them anymore. Its just selfish of them . Even though quality time is important for married couples, I guess if one is too busy, the other one should just understand the situation, understand the partner up to the point that they couldn't stand him/her anymore. Since time is demanded, can't partners of career oriented people just spend time doing leisure or creative things without cheating? Tsk. As for me, I would just balance by time very well. My career and my love. Even though it both are different in terms of demand and time, if my partner is willing to understand and wait for me.. then all the better.
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• Greece
19 Sep 10
I believe that both can co-exist under the right conditions. The ideal is to have the same working hours or even workplace. That's why I try going further with people that not only I like but also have a common career plan as mine. I know couples that have made it work that way, since they're both successful in their jobs and relationships. It may seem a bit hard to achieve though so if I absolutely had to choose, I'd pick love over any career. I'd prefer making average money and working as few hours as possible but have a strong relationship that fulfills me.
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• Philippines
19 Sep 10
when you are still single, that is the time you focus on your career for you to be successful. you can give your best in your chosen path and prepare for you future. this means that your career is your key to have a good life in the future. when you are already successful in your chosen field, you will be able to find someone that can appreciate and love you. you will eventually get married and have your own family. when you are in a situation wherein you have to choose between love and career, this means that you ALREADY FOUND someone to be with you forever. that's you have to take care of it and change your role as a career woman to a lovable and responsible wife and parent. i said that your career is your tool to have a good future, and now, you already have what you've always wanted. so you don't have to be a career woman anymore. that's why some people choose their family over their careers.
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@romzz05 (573)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
I guess you need to sacrifice one over the other. Its important to know your priorities or things will be half baked.
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@kara18 (135)
19 Sep 10
If I were to choose between Love/Family or Career, I would definitely want to come with that decision that would be best for my Marriage/Family. If my role/position that I have achieved in my career would require greater responsibilities and demand much of my personal time that I may not be able to manage that so-called "work-life balance", then I would really re-think and discuss this with my husband, for us to be able to set our priorities. Do we really need for me to spend this much time on work for the money? My take on this is that whatever is required in order for the family/marriage to work, then that's what I'll have to work for! Marriage itself is work, it won't last if it's not nurtured.
@jenny1015 (13390)
• Philippines
19 Sep 10
it is really difficult to balance both career and family. it needs great understanding form your partner to be able to become one.
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@syedayub (252)
• India
20 Sep 10
its really difficult to balance both career and love at the same time, especially when both the couple are working. as they cannot give time to each other this may damage their love life, so it better have partner as a house wife, so that we can do justice some what both to career or love.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
If you're in love, lots of good thing follows.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
for i have to choose carreer for some reason that in can only done once in a lifetime but the love is still there if your husband is waiting for you and accept you in all the way and that is what we call "love". it doesnt matter if your busy in your career but some time you still have to text or call in a minute to your husband to feel him that he is so important.
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
i prefer to choose career,.because the past is not your potential. In any hour you can choose to liberate the future..."
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
We can still have both worlds when we learn to manage our time and if we have an understanding partner or spouse. We can be both successful being a homemaker and a career of our own, job wise.:) Marriage needs sacrifices from both partners. THe reasons why most succesful career women failed in their married life is that when they let their weaknesses gets into you. Having a career of your own gives you that confident and thus, there are many people surrounding you. Temptation is just a kiss away.:) Same with your husband. The trick is, do not forget that you are still a mother and a wife despite of your success as a career woman. On the other hand, many women, full time homemaker also suffered from broken marriages because they are confronted with so many insecurities and boredom. This is true to woman who gave up career in favor of being a homemaker. It is a tough job to deal with and so many of us couldn't cope with it....
@bing28 (3798)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Having a career is also an accomplishment. There are others who could successfully maintain both the career and the family. This is because of a good time management and maybe cooperation and understanding between the husband and wife including the children. Though if you feel your career is affecting your family, then you could think of possible solutions. Should it won't work, then you may lie low with your career.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Definitely we can. Its up to us how do we manage it. Women are great in multi-tasking. In a relationship to become successful is to marry a guy whose passionate of love and a big mind, that he may able to understand the track that you wanted for. Time always spell the love so never lose this.
@anurag3786 (6275)
• India
19 Sep 10
hey if these types of situations arises in my life.. then i choose carrier.. because carrier is very important if you want to become successful in life.. and if someone also loved you truly then he/she never tried to pressure on you to choose one things.. I think he/she may also understand your problem.. and always motivate you to concentrate on your carrier..